First Date a Success [i think].... Now what?

[Bingo-Player]

Im not exactly sure of your age but she sounds young easily early – mid 20’s

Your date although sweet sounds like a scene out of a movie way too stereotypical and cheesy

Sweet wont get you laid

I think You did well to avoid the whole first date restaurant thing

Im 22 and ive done the whole restaurant s*it a million times it don’t work anymore especially with girls my age

the only things ive ever got out of doing that is a kiss and a hefty credit card bill at the end

girls these days watch shows like the kardashians and 90210 and all that other crap and they’ve been brainwashed they expect first dates to be like weddings if theyre not then the date is automatically a failure

Since going DJ ive gone way off the whole “first date thing” it just seems to naturally make your game weaker and make you think up all kinds of stupid sh*it

To be honest ive now moved my “first date” (aka restaurant date) down to about 3rd date

“First date” is now nothing more than a “do you want to go for a drink”

no hard work

a few drinks if you can start touching great once you are both well oiled
offer the option to carry the party back to your place , watch a movie whatever if she agrees she knows exactly what shes coming back for

 

[j.619]

Small update for ya, fellas:

Turns out that I didn't even need to stress about when/how to contact after the date. Last Thursday evening, SHE called me:

Her: Hey you, what're you up to?

Me: Running errands, yourself?

Her: Doing homework, boring stuff. I had a good time last Saturday. Haven't heard from you, wanted to check in and say hi.

Me: I had a good time too. I'm gonna be meeting friends at Sting (one of my favorite downtown clubs) Saturday at 10, you should come with.

Her: That sounds like a lotta fun, I lost my ID last week though

Me: I'll pull some strings, just dress really grown up. Gotta go, though. I'll keep you posted about Saturday.

Her: Ok, ttyl.

So Saturday comes around... I pick her up (looking stunning, btw. knew i was gonna try to get it in, so the excitement was hard to hide lol) and we drive to the club. I valet the car, my boys that work there made sure we didn't wait in line or pay cover. I immediately buy us some shots and we hit the dance floor. After a couple songs, I introduce her to my friends, go back to the bar, couple more drinks, back to the dance floor. Couldn't keep our hands off each other. After a while, we stopped dancing and were just making out. I led her out the door and we left for my place. A lot of it was a blur, but we had an amazing night. I DO remember what she looks like naked, thankfully. Woke up, dropped her off, lit a joint, slept off the hangover, hung out with her at the beach that afternoon, got it in some more after. It's now Monday morning and I haven't talked to her since yesterday afternoon. Probably will contact her again later this week.

Let me know what you liked/didn't like, as per usual. Appreciate the advice fellas...

 

[j.619]

Nice. What's not to like? Good job all around. I think the line about "dressing grown up" is pretty funny. I'm 43 so I don't see myself using that line. But it was funny reading that.

Congrats.

This was basically to get her to wear some super s1utty dress, lots of makeup, huge heels, and no underwear (apparently, found this out later).

 

[VladPatton]

Very good. Look, all we can do here is theorize about a what-would-be-best solution. Sometimes we are wrong, many times we are right. Let this show all you dudes locked in a certain mentality that it does not have to be a certain way. Nope

What we preach here usually works, for the most part, but what really works is when a girl is into you and thinks you're the shiznit. That will always trump all, and that is the truth. The world reproduced before the invention of SS and Facebook.

Keep us posted, j6, and maintain your frame, man, don't puss out on us!

 

[j.619]

Thanks for that. I'm glad that the situation progressed so quickly lol. I'm curbing the excitement though. Can't let this breezy know how I really feel until she can't get enough.

 

[Sofomore]

Wow I cringed so hard at the rose thing. Does a guy that is sleeping with 5 girls buy his first date a rose? No fvckin way.

It looks like you had a good time and I'm glad things are working for you. Some girls find that sweet, some find it revolting.

Each person has their own style of game. Mine is ****y + funny where I aggressively look for places to bang. This weekend I ran into a girl in the street, grabbed her arm and brought her to a pizza place because I was hungry. I made out with her in line and she decided to ditch her friends. Fast forward, she's blowing me during the cab ride back to my place and the driver is trying to act like he doesn't know what's going on. This style works for me.

Each guy needs to find what works for him and exploit it! Just from my experience the rose screams "I need your approval".

If you want to buy roses and go for walks, more power too you. Just stay outcome independent and never care about the girl more than she cares about you. Let us know what happens.

 

[GotED?]

DUDE - YOU ARE ONLY ON THE 2ND DATE.

Take a chill pill, it isn't that hard to get to the 2nd date (considering your 1st one was so short-lived).

When you are past the 4th or 5th and its gets really interesting 'GAME' wise, that's when you really need our help to untangle all the mind games she's going to be laying in your head-phucking.

That's usually when the power struggle begins in the dynamics of something being created (LTR, FB, LJBF, whatever).

Exodus

 

[j.619]

DUDE - YOU ARE ONLY ON THE 2ND DATE.

Take a chill pill, it isn't that hard to get to the 2nd date (considering your 1st one was so short-lived).

When you are past the 4th or 5th and its gets really interesting 'GAME' wise, that's when you really need our help to untangle all the mind games she's going to be laying in your head-phucking.

That's usually when the power struggle begins in the dynamics of something being created (LTR, FB, LJBF, whatever).

Exodus

That's perfect. That's why I'm on here. I intend on keeping the thread up-to-date so when sh1t gets real, I got my support system in place to help power me thru. No back story necessary... cuz you already have it.

I'm not worried about the simple fact that it was a second date. I have those all the time. Just that I let myself get intimidated by this chick (which happens when I care, go figure), when there was really no reason to be. In the past, I would have just given up, or worse, made a fool of myself by blowing her phone or social media up. Baby steps...

Thanks again fellas.

 

[GotED?]

That's perfect. That's why I'm on here. I intend on keeping the thread up-to-date so when sh1t gets real, I got my support system in place to help power me thru. No back story necessary... cuz you already have it.

I'm not worried about the simple fact that it was a second date. I have those all the time. Just that I let myself get intimidated by this chick (which happens when I care, go figure), when there was really no reason to be. In the past, I would have just given up, or worse, made a fool of myself by blowing her phone or social media up. Baby steps...

Thanks again fellas.

Do you know what you are LOOKING FOR in the end of the rainbow here? LTR? ONS? FookBuddy?

The thing is, I hope she doesn't get 'Buyer's Remorse' now since you guys were drunk and she may actually be a HO if she gave it up so quickly and easily (fine for a FB or ONS, but not LTR material).

Just GUARD YOUR HEART AT ALL COST and be EMOTIONALLY UNINVESTED (until way later down the line).

We don't want to see you crash & burn emotionally if she just disappeared off the face of the planet after having buyer's remorse now (common scenario).

Be well.

Exodus