First 50 Approach Journal-Starting TONITE!! How to get rid of APPROACH ANXIETY

[PupilOfSex]

Edited fellas. I deleted my whole rant about going out in the field. My goal was to do some basic pre-approaches but now Im going to go more direct in my approaches or do some Gunwitch type approaching.

Im still awaiting for Spirit Fingers though on his missions (if he can do em) so stay tuned.

 

[Krassus]

This isn't the way, man. By asking chicks for the time or making lame-ass excuses, you're only gonna make it worse. For a little while, you'll feel better because the memory of having just talked to a chick will help diminish fear, but after a day or two it'll be worse than before. Why? Because you just deliberately hammered into your own subconscious mind that there is something SO WRONG with what you're doing that you have to resort to TRICKERY AND DECEPTION to make it "okay." Do you understand? You're your own worst enemy, man. You're supposed to destroy fear but instead, you're consciously allowing it to destroy you by giving in to it and using lame-ass tactics like that. If you don't believe me, just look at where it's gotten you. How long has it been since were doing the "hi" thing? TWO YEARS? What progress have you made? You've gotta be kidding me. For comparison, a friend of mine started approaching chicks like 3-4 months ago. He's honestly never approached a girl before and I suspect was a virgin too. As of today, he's already gotten a few lays and gets #s pretty much every time he goes out. Why? Because he PUSHES HIMSELF past fear. And honestly, it's not all that hard either. Last time he went out, all he did was walk up to a chick and say "hey, I like you." He walked off with her # a few minutes later and she liked his approach so much that she texted him after only a couple hours. Big fvcking deal, right? Didn't take years of stupid smiling exercises, hi-saying, time-asking or whatever other lame-ass excuses people come up with just so they can say that "after all, they're doing SOMETHING" without actually having to DO something!

 

[PupilOfSex]

Krassus

You make excellent points and I have decided to go with direct game. I was just tired of sitting at home waiting..so I decided that it was better to go in the field than to sit at home.

Actually, I didnt get lays from the time approaches, what it did it got me used to approaching. This is more of an exercise than a 'way to do things.'

But I did do some time approaches (LOL, I actually got one to say "NO" in snotty attitude but it was from two college chicks who were walking super fast in opposite direction)

Doing this exercise did one thing htough, get me motivated to STEP UP. Im going direct next time. Ill get more blown outs but Im guessing the keepers will be less flaky, on top of that, I naturally feel even better going direct. Like "Im the Man"