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Thebestthereeveris

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Ill be honest i dont respect like 99.9% of the population. No one is committed to excellence. How do you guys find like minded people who are seriously committted or should I just go solo until i meet my heroes and instead befriend those i genuinely respect?
 

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Ill be honest i dont respect like 99.9% of the population. No one is committed to excellence. How do you guys find like minded people who are seriously committted or should I just go solo until i meet my heroes and instead befriend those i genuinely respect?
Why do you need "heroes"?

Become successful yourself and you will start meeting other successful people without even trying. Like attracts like.
 

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Why do you need "heroes"?

Become successful yourself and you will start meeting other successful people without even trying. Like attracts like.
This is spot on

OP there is an old saying: "Never meet your idols" or people you wanna emulate
IMO Bok is right become successful and you will attract like-minded people. Game recognize Game, once you level up you won't be hanging in the same places you hanging now, might take awhile but it's friggin worth it.
 

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This is spot on

OP there is an old saying: "Never meet your idols" or people you wanna emulate
IMO Bok is right become successful and you will attract like-minded people. Game recognize Game, once you level up you won't be hanging in the same places you hanging now, might take awhile but it's friggin worth it.
Yes but eventually You need a model to start off and mold your best self.
I'm pretty sure that If the average man meet a sosuave man, he can learn.

Also, there aren’t many people who think like I do—not just in terms of personal preferences, but in terms of being people of true value.


Being a politician or a successful business owner doesn’t automatically make someone a person of value in my eyes.


In fact, someone could be a gardener and have far more integrity and depth than a mayor or a typical blue-pilled professional.


I think some of you will understand what I mean.
 

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excellence.
What does this word mean to you, what is your definition of excellence?

How do you guys find like minded people who are seriously committted
You surround yourself with people better than you regarding what you want to achieve.

I just go solo until i meet my heroes
Never meet you heroes, they will only disappoint you.

Also, there aren’t many people who think like I do—not just in terms of personal preferences, but in terms of being people of true value.
You are the average of your most closest friends/family. The problem here is not them, its you.

successful business owner doesn’t automatically make someone a person of value in my eyes.
Go get some glasses because you can't see clearly.

In fact, someone could be a gardener and have far more integrity and depth than a mayor or a typical blue-pilled professional.
Integrity is defined by every individual person, what you think what integrity is, other people would not.

I think some of you will understand what I mean.
Yeah, I'm sure many men in here surround themselves with people who offer no value to them, like you previously stated.
 

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The problem here is not them, its you.
This is a contradiction, if you have family you can't change them, they are blood ties.

what you think what integrity is, other people would not.
men in here surround themselves with people who offer no value to them
Give examples of how you should surround yourself, and how you understood that people here surround themselves with people who have no value, not even knowing them
 

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You go solo until you find your new pack. That's how it goes. It took me some time, but now I'm starting to have other ambitious and interesting people around me. Just do your thing and bring value. Grow everyday and be abundant in your mind, and then outside.
 

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This is a contradiction, if you have family you can't change them, they are blood ties
You can always separate from family and live far away from them, nobody is forcing you to be by their side, right?


Give examples
1. I wanted to get better dancing salsa - I went to school and made friends with the best dancers, then we were going out dancing and practicing.

2. Wanted to make more gainz - Made friends with the most jacked guys in the gym, and I learned better exercises.

3. Wanted to land a better job - Made friends with higher ups who had experience in landing better jobs.

4. Wanted my batting swing to get better - Made friends with guys who play better than me and went to practice with them.
 

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Nobody gives a sh1t wether you respect them your a 30 year old guy in a sea of millions

get out of your own head
 

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Finding cool dudes? There only an MMA class or Brazilian Juijitsu or Motorcycle club away man. You find them through these types of hobbies which usually involves something physical. Being a Military Veteran I'm able to bond with people in real world and online through these multiple facebook groups I'm in. But really all you need is one or two good friend and maybe a dog to have a satisfying social life.
 

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What does this word mean to you, what is your definition of excellence?


You surround yourself with people better than you regarding what you want to achieve.


Never meet you heroes, they will only disappoint you.


You are the average of your most closest friends/family. The problem here is not them, its you.


Go get some glasses because you can't see clearly.


Integrity is defined by every individual person, what you think what integrity is, other people would not.


Yeah, I'm sure many men in here surround themselves with people who offer no value to them, like you previously stated.
excellence to me is doing their best and achieving in their field or whatever their trying to do. I understand not everyones perfect but they excel in the things im trying to get good at so i can overlook the flaws. Yeah where do i meet these pepole better than me? I use internet forums for money and business but for the gym im the strongest dude in a gym typically.
 

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Don't clock anybody, let them all clock you.

Don't be down with anybody, let them all be down with you.

Stay self managed, self kept, salt taught...

Be your own man, don't be borrowed, don't be bought.
 
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