**FINALLY** ...new man

[Anonymous56]

Yeah I posted my sad story before. Well I finally broke the ice tonight...I play a sport at a university and we had a sweet xmas party...well I met pretty much the hottest girl there and grinded with her for a while and got her number...when she left she was all worried that I wouldn't call her...so I know im pretty much in. Im just pretty much a newbie at what to do at this point...should I call her friday night?? I know the "rule" is wait like 5 days or so, so im not sure what to do...I want to call her at this moment, but im gonna be patient and play this right for once and not blow it.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

cal her up in the middle of the weeknight and set something up for the weekend if she aint grinding on another dude by then (waiting 3 days to call is adequate) -- the ho is ready to go just dont treat her like she is special and dont b too excited - im sure there are others hitting it!

 

[Anonymous56]

We'll see I guess..she really wanted me to call her......yeah your right though, im not that stupid anymore to obsess or anything. But im also not dumb enough anymore to let obvious situations like this pass.

 

[Cremasta]

Originally posted by Anonymous56
I know the "rule" is wait like 5 days or so, so im not sure what to do...

I've never been convinced about waiting a certain number of days before calling a girl. Having said that, I usually wait two days. It's much more important to have a very clear idea on what you are going to say. When you call up for something on the weekend, make sure you have something definite in mind and just invite her along.

What you don't want to do is something like this:
You: "Hey, do you want to do something this weekend?"
Her: "Like what, what did you have in mind?"
You: "Oh, I don't know, what did you want to do?"

 

[bp1974]

Call her when you feel like it, say what you feel like saying, talk for as long as you want, just don't be wishy washy.

 

[xblitz44x]

" Call her when you feel like it, say what you feel like saying, talk for as long as you want, just don't be wishy washy." -BP

AGREED! It's not when you call that is going to make the difference. Free yourself from rules and do what you want. Have a great time.

 

[Anonymous56]

I agree...I prob call friday...Of course I won't just call with nothing in mind....thanks guys.

 

[Anonymous56]

oh yeah, go phillies

 

[NewMan]

she aint grinding on another dude by then (waiting 3 days to call is adequate) -- the ho is ready to go just dont treat her like she is special and dont b too excited - im sure there are others hitting it!

Pretty much the standard reply by PuertoRL

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Originally posted by xblitz44x
" Call her when you feel like it, say what you feel like saying, talk for as long as you want, just don't be wishy washy." -BP

AGREED! It's not when you call that is going to make the difference. Free yourself from rules and do what you want. Have a great time.

Agreed! I call/text a girl when I FEEL the time is right and I WANT to and I say WHAT I want to...

 

[Anonymous56]

Well, whatever happens happens...I am only trying to reconstruct myself right now and get all the bull**** out of my head. No matter what happens from this, its a step in the right direction.

I gotta tell you, whoever wrote that post about your self in 15 years coming back and telling your present self that not taking risks has made him a loser is a genius. That absolutely changed my outlook completely.

 

[MVPlaya]

Re: Re: **FINALLY** ...new man

Originally posted by Cremasta
What you don't want to do is something like this:
You: "Hey, do you want to do something this weekend?"
Her: "Like what, what did you have in mind?"
You: "Oh, I don't know, what did you want to do?"

Yeah, you should check out the Fingers approach, throw in some ****y/funny, say something along the lines of "You wanna do something crazy this weekend?" Anyway, when I call I usually have a few things in mind, make sure you do too. I usually have a plan, if they have a legitimate reason against the plan I'll give em an alternative or NeXt them.

 

[Anonymous56]

I think his post was giving an example of what NOT to do....

The thing is, I am a funny/goofy(in a good way) guy at heart. I just need experience bringing it out...So I kind of made it unclear when I said that im trying to "reconstruct" myself. I am just trying to rid of the ridiculous anxiety within me, not change me.

 

[MVPlaya]

Originally posted by Anonymous56
I think his post was giving an example of what NOT to do....

The thing is, I am a funny/goofy(in a good way) guy at heart. I just need experience bringing it out...So I kind of made it unclear when I said that im trying to "reconstruct" myself. I am just trying to rid of the ridiculous anxiety within me, not change me.

I know it was, its just when I quoted it the "don't do this" portion fell out of it. I replied to it like it was a "don't do this" post.

 

[Anonymous56]

Legit question here: Is it 100 percent refrain from any email or aol chat?

 

[xblitz44x]

Jesus, lol. You're missing the point of the original advice. DO WHAT YOU WANT. It is the strength of your freedom to do what you choose that is attractive, not the choice itself.

 

[Anonymous56]

Alright dude......I appreciate it.....

 

[Golden Arms]

Yeah dude don't stress too much over when to call

I met this hot older Bolivian chick on Sunday 2.5 weeks ago and got her digits. The next week was Thanksgiving and I was spending time with family/friends. The week after that I was really busy at work and this week I went on a business trip which I just got back from. So I just now called her back last night and set up a date for this Sunday. I guess my point is - don't rearrange your schedule around a girl, and if she flakes for whatever reason - there are 3 billion others out there