Thanks
2)Learning experience yes but I didn’t want it with her.
Dariusthe bartender”Get everyone talking about her,” what do you mean?
Bondjamesbond424- What happens with you?
I may have posted it on here but I'll try to keep it short.
2017 working security at the client site. One of the tenants, cute Costa Rican girl my age, approaches me and says, "When are we going for a drink?" We hung out about 4 times. Each time I brought her a couple roses, told her I liked her even before she asked me out. Agreed with everything she said. Afraid to offend her. Texted her happy birthday. The first time we hung out we spooned and I was Mr. AFC afraid to make a move!
Our last date was May 28th, 2017. I went for the kiss and she cringed! I stupidly contacted her on Christmas and never got a reply. Done!
Same Month in 2017 - Chick #2 - Same client site, another tenant, hot looking blond latina cougar, approaches me late at night and starts flirting. Complaining about her bf and kinda joking about sexual stuff with me, her, and another girl she hangs out with. I didn't learn from my mistakes with the previous chick. Took her out to dinner dates. Date 4 she wants to bang in her truck. I was too stupid and clueless to realize her intention. She gave me 3 more chances and I blew them all. She finally rejected me April 2018 by a text.
I was crushed. I never contacted them again. I researched my butt off. YouTube, books, this forum. I dissected and analyzed every interaction I had with these two against the red pill knowledge I gained and felt embarrassed as f!
I am just now starting to have positive interactions with women I meet. In March I got a lay on the 2nd meet up. Had a chick meet me at the place to go dancing instead of boring dinner dates. I also discovered pheromones. And they don't hurt.
I'll never go back to doing those blue pill routines. The things I did were cringy af! There's not a day that goes by that I don't think about the blond cougar. The posters here say a 50 yr old woman is sour milk. But I bet all of em would do this chick if given the chance. She is hot for her age.
I can honestly say I don't have the one-itis for her anymore. The thing that bothers me is the regret and my own stupidity. I just didn't know what I didn't know. It's like the quarter back threw the ball to me, I caught it a foot away from the goal line and stood there not knowing what to do!
So Dude, I've been there. You're probably feeling embarrassed in her presence. You've got to elevate your thinking and get her off the pedestal. YOU belong on the pedestal because truth be told YOU are the one she has to prove herself to. You have NOTHING to prove to her. You are the charming prince that women wait in line for. NOT the AFC that hopes a chick will like you enough to give you a chance. You must tell yourself this every day.
Take red pills every day. Watch Red Pill content on YouTube every day. Read the books the other posters suggest here.
What helped me the most was recorded Tom Leykis broadcasts on youTube. Also a channel called Darius M also on YouTube.
We have to undo the blue pill simp programming we grew up believing. Get that chick off the pedestal.
One more thing, when you pass by her work area or you see her otherwise remember to always be smiling. Don't smile AT her. Just smile. I'll tell you why. Women can sense stuff. If you don't smile when she sees you, she'll assume you're feeling bad that she's ignoring you ( and she'll secretly like it). You don't want her to assume that. You want to give her the idea (by your constant smiling) that she means nothing to you. You don't give one ish about her. And just continue to ignore her.
Learn from your mistakes and never repeat them.
Dude you have a lot of reading and research to do. Turn the TV off and get to work. The more you devour your research the less this will bother you.