Finally hit it but didn't call the next day...

[( . )( . )]

So instead of throwing these unattractive hissy fits every time you disagree with me why don't you leave it to the readers to take what they find helpful and to leave what they think won't work

just suppose nobody calls this sh!t out and more idiots come here spouting the exact same bullsh!t we all grew up with UNTIL finding this place and others like it.

and suppose because the bullsh!t was not called out more idiots start posting this kind of crap, left unchecked and im serious about this , it would become just another dating advice site ie : just rubbish.

im not buying this anyway, nobodies this stupid, i think your an old poster trolling more than likely.

 

[thissucks003]

Originally posted by Ronin I
OK - so do you guys think more apologizing is in order or should I forget about this and move on? She wants a relationship, as do I, so I feel that I should reassure her - perhaps with some sort of small gift to apologize to her for not calling (I do feel that I was somewhat insensitive to her feelings - this girl is very inexperienced sexually so her giving it up to me was a big deal for her)- Basically, I don't want her to start getting nervous or regretting what happened - and then start pulling away from me -I actually do like this girl.

Also as a side question - any tips on how to prevent condom breakage? I used one of those Trojan Supra polyurethane condoms lfor the 1st time ast night and while it felt pretty good the damn thing broke and interrupted my fun - have any of you had problems with these polyurethane condoms breaking?

Thanks.

To get way back on topic:


Ronin,

I don't want to beat a dead horse, but in the future, I'd would have called. If you say you are going to do something, follow through. Not that you are going to leave her, but you always want to leave a person a little better than you found them. Leave her in a sense of being happier than before.

This is your first time having sex with her. Girls appreciate that having sex meant something to you. In a small way you are telling her that she wasn't that important. That is why she brought up "japping". It is an innocent mistake but very recoverable. Next time you see her, tell her that the other night was great, and she means alot to you. Buying a gift is really up to you if that is your cup of tea.

If your condom is breaking, many time you have an air pocket. Make sure you get the air out while applying.

TS

 

[Eileen]

Originally posted by ( . )( . )
just suppose nobody calls this sh!t out and more idiots come here spouting the exact same bullsh!t we all grew up with UNTIL finding this place and others like it.

and suppose because the bullsh!t was not called out more idiots start posting this kind of crap, left unchecked and im serious about this , it would become just another dating advice site ie : just rubbish.

im not buying this anyway, nobodies this stupid, i think your an old poster trolling more than likely.

Oh bless.

How old are you? You sound like a child saying what if, what if ...

 

[( . )( . )]

WHAT IF!!!















Eileen = Troll.

 

[Eileen]

Sure thing, boob.

 

[Dubs]

Originally posted by ( . )( . )
WHAT IF!!!


Eileen = Troll.

what do you like to be called? Boobies or Tits?

then agains theres always: naa-naas, jugs, big-ones, melons, breasts, Gazungas, fun bags...ohhh the list goes on forever

 

[( . )( . )]

Originally posted by Dubs
what do you like to be called? Boobies or Tits?

you can call me sir knockers

 

[Ricky]

There are certain things that are important to keep from offending a girls inner psychology. It has been the general consensus to call a girl the day after sex. Otherwise she might feel used.

This is not a DJ rule as much as a common sense rule.

If you are real lucky you get an answering machine and leave a message. Then it is up to her to call you back! LOL

 

[Ronin I]

Re: Re: Re: Finally hit it but didn't call the next day...

Originally posted by ( . )( . )


please for the love of god DO NOT and i repeat DO NOT get into the reassuring thing with her, its a kiss of death, this early on ALWAYS keep her on her toes, constantly behave as your the prize and drop the hints without actually saying but make sure she knows that one wrong foot and shes gone, YOU know and she knows your the man, and a man of your quality and clued in-ness on how to get chicks and that you both understand that her kunt is not gold plated and can be easily replaced, make sure she ALWAYS is reminded of this.

Best advice so far - thanks Mr. Boobies!

Seriously, deep down I know this but it is difficult at times - ie when someone is upset and acting insecure it is just NATURAL to try and make them feel better. But at the same time I do realize that in many ways making her feel better is exactly what I DON'T want to do.

Again, deep down I already know that I need to do what you suggest Mr. Boobies, but sometimes I just forget I guess -

again, great advice -just reading it has put me back on the path that I need to be on (the path that got me this girl in the first place and the path that's going to keep her coming back for more )

 

[Tryin to Grow a Chin]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Finally hit it but didn't call the next day...

Originally posted by Eileen


Women’s emotions work quite differently than a mans. As a man, there is little hope that you could ever fully understand the complexity of it all.

The fact that women allow their emotions to control their lives does not in any way suggest they are more complex.

 

[Eileen]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Finally hit it but didn't call the next day...

Originally posted by Tryin to Grow a Chin
The fact that women allow their emotions to control their lives does not in any way suggest they are more complex.

Back that up. It sounds interesting.

 

[Royal-tiger]

Chill it, folks!

I, for one, agree with Eileen's viewpoint as much as with (.)(.)'s. You both have valid points signifying the fact that everyone and every situation is different. However, it is naive and novice to attack someone personally and suggesting he/she is not grown-up.

Just because someone has been around this board longer does not automatically entitle him/her absolute wisdom.

Finally, I do not put much weight to "Master Don Juan" title since it is based on the number of posts rather than quality of posts. Eileen, for example, could very well spit out over 500 (or so) posts and become an MDJ. The point is her personal experiences are just as valid as anyone else's. And ridiculing her is plain foolish! Whether that person is MDJ or DJ or whatever.

I personally detest personal attacks (on this beaord) since we all are students towards understanding the opposite sex.

Peace!!

 

[iqqi]

ronin, i have a question for you.

what do you generally think about calling a girl the next day after sex? is it a general practise, or you never really thought about it?

this is in general, not specific to your current dilemna.

 

[smooth_as_silk]

I don't really understand why us guys should put the blame on ourselves and feel guilty enough to do the reassuring in this situation. She's a responsible adult and it takes 2 to tango! Let us please quit this mentality of always setting the guilt on men, all the hypocrisy around man/woman relationships will consequently lessen....

 

[Ronin I]

Originally posted by iqqi
ronin, i have a question for you.

what do you generally think about calling a girl the next day after sex? is it a general practise, or you never really thought about it?

this is in general, not specific to your current dilemna.

Good question iqqi - I generally don't feel the need to call a girl after sex UNLESS it is the first time that we have done it. Even in this circumstance I could usually care less whether we talk the next day or not - rather I would call out of a sense of OBLIGATION (not wanting her to feel used as someone posted earlier).

After the first time, I do not even feel obligated to call the next day - and will only call if I actually have something to talk about (not just to say "hi").

 

[becker]

Again, it seems like most of these posts may be either overanalyzing the situation, or else they are throwing out little DJ "catch phrases" to justify why a person should or should not do something.

Before the days of the DJ message board, I'm hoping some guys here have gone out and actually interacted face to face with people, and I'm sure you have. To me, those are the days of innocence, before your mind got cluttered with all these rules. "Can't ask her out on a Saturday", "Can't call her for 3 days after you've seen her in black clothes", "Can't talk on the phone for more than 5 minutes" (actually, that one is probably ok), "Can't have coffee on the first date", "Can't have coffee with a danish on the first date"...and the list goes on.

My point is that when you're with a girl and things are going great, nobody is thinking about this crap. I know I'm not. I've probably broken rules left and right just by being so oblivious to the rules, but you have to realize that almost nobody knows about these rules except for folks that spend too much time analyzing stuff and not taking action.

So call her the next day, for crying out loud. What the heck is going to happen that's so earth-shattering? Just make it sincere, that's all. Don't call because someone told you to, call because you want to. That to me is all about being who you want to be and doing what you feel is right. There's some common sense beyond all these rules here guys. Don't overlook it.