some back story: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=196521
So today I went over to my gf's place and broke the news.
As expected, she was shocked and pretty much broke down. Unexpectedly, i too broke down. I tried my best to stick to the mental script that i had for myself.
Ultimately, i feel that i did the right thing. But I feel like i just tore a piece of my soul out. Its hard enough to type this post mid tears as I think about the conversation we had. I feel bad enough that I to break up with her, but I feel great pain knowing I'm causing her great pain. After being together for nearly 5 years, i feel like i just tore off a piece of myself. She said she truly felt that 'we were meant to be together'. After that, i just lost my composure. I told her if "we were meant to be together", then our paths would cross again in the future. I didnt want to say anything too positive to give her false hopes.
It sucks that I had to do it now while she is going through a period of "finding herself" b/c she hates her job. Mid-crying she asked if she should quit her job, live off her savings and travel. I told her not to do something rash right now. She should take the time to think it all through. If she really feels she wants to do that after seriously thinking about it, then do it.
Thats all. I just felt like sharing b/c i didnt think it would hurt me this bad. Ill get over this in time. Thanks for listening.
So today I went over to my gf's place and broke the news.
As expected, she was shocked and pretty much broke down. Unexpectedly, i too broke down. I tried my best to stick to the mental script that i had for myself.
Ultimately, i feel that i did the right thing. But I feel like i just tore a piece of my soul out. Its hard enough to type this post mid tears as I think about the conversation we had. I feel bad enough that I to break up with her, but I feel great pain knowing I'm causing her great pain. After being together for nearly 5 years, i feel like i just tore off a piece of myself. She said she truly felt that 'we were meant to be together'. After that, i just lost my composure. I told her if "we were meant to be together", then our paths would cross again in the future. I didnt want to say anything too positive to give her false hopes.
It sucks that I had to do it now while she is going through a period of "finding herself" b/c she hates her job. Mid-crying she asked if she should quit her job, live off her savings and travel. I told her not to do something rash right now. She should take the time to think it all through. If she really feels she wants to do that after seriously thinking about it, then do it.
Thats all. I just felt like sharing b/c i didnt think it would hurt me this bad. Ill get over this in time. Thanks for listening.