Finally! All this has paid off.

[J-Man]

Originally posted by duke007
Damn, I feel really bad for you dude.

i dont feel bad for him at all!

got news for you duke, sh1t will happen like this for the rest of your life. this is nothing really, much worse things will happen to you in the future im sure. MUCH worse things.

and that is life. and i personally love life.

you did awesome! keep the pimping up man.

and by the way no, it HASNT all paid off (look at the name of this thread). she doesnt matter at all! sh1t will continue to happen but look back up at the top at how awesome you felt! this is just the beginning!

its time for you to have some FUN man. ahahaha the way you described what happened... try losing your VIRGINITY. try getting HEAD. try ANAL with a chick (if youre kinky like that... i know i am ). this girl might be a hor but i still love this story.

good luck (though you clearly dont need it)

 

[Porky]

I feel terrible for you.

But, here's two welcomes:
1) welcome to the club of guys who have hooked up.
2) Welcome to the club of guys who have been stabbed in the back by "perfect", "nice", "interested" girls.

It'll hurt for a few days, but in the long run it will be good for you by helping you adopt the don't-give-a-fvck attitude that so many guys lack. Most of us are in both of those clubs, and you learned a valuable lesson this weekend.

Girls, all girls, have the potential to be complete and total b1tches. Most girls are more than happy to oblige if you ever need to be let down hard. Many will become horny at the thought of you crying over them.

Good luck man. It will all work out though. The last girl that pulled this similar sh1t on me watched as I hooked up with her friend.

 

[silverwex]

Duke man Im happy this has happened to you for one simple reason... actually two reasons:

1) Itll make you stronger emotionally

2) Itll teach you to keep on your toes and not to fall for girls too easily and to be wary of them

Great story by the way and remember: the best way to learn is the HARD way!

Short term pain - long term gain!

Well done man.

 

[Vigilante7]

Originally posted by Evil-Rom
Haha, nice work Duke!

Great storytelling too.

 

[hjsknksbm]

u were shaking when her leg was on yours. give me a f*cking break. Stop being a wuss and do what you want. Just by your post I know your a nice guy. C&F should be your personality not just an act that you put on for some girl. Neverless, good job and keep tryin.

 

[Evil-Rom]

Originally posted by hjsknksbm
u were shaking when her leg was on yours. give me a f*cking break. Stop being a wuss and do what you want. Just by your post I know your a nice guy. C&F should be your personality not just an act that you put on for some girl. Neverless, good job and keep tryin.

Woah woah, a bit harsh there?

It was his first time after all, don't tell me you were some sex god your first time?

 

[Sethantes]

Originally posted by Porky

Good luck man. It will all work out though. The last girl that pulled this similar sh1t on me watched as I hooked up with her friend.

HaHa yeeah. That got me up out of my chair cheering out loud. Good Job!

 

[cffrmw]

dude i shook my first time i kissed a girl (2 days ago!). and then i made the same mistake u did and got too attached, i think i can salvage the situation its just f'ing hard not to go AFC on myself. especially because i had been in the LJBF zone for like 4 months, and i thought there was no way in hell i was gonna get out, but then all of a sudden everything changed. it feels like **** when u think u've screwed it up tho.

 

[Porky]

Not that it matters now, but you shouldn't have called her three times in one day.

 

[Satan Psycho]

Re: ARGH!

Originally posted by Duke
Yesterday I tried calling Shygirl not one, not two, but three times!
I wanted to see if she wanted to hang out, but I kept getting her voicemail. Later that night, I caught her online and asked her what the big deal was...

Let me tell you the story of my 1st hookup as a DJ. Way back in April of 2002 I go to a "foam party" with one of my buds. This guy is a good-looking guy and the biggest pimp of AOL I've ever seen. He literally has chicks begging him to fuk them. He brought along this little blonde hotty. Since the guy is married (yeah, he's a real dog) I busted some game on her. One memorable moment was when we were going inside the bar where the 'foam party' was and she mentioned that she left her money in the car. She was going to go in without it. I said "You better go get it... I don't think guys are gonna be buying you drinks the whole night. That was clearly the turn-a-round point.

Anyway, by the end of the night I'm tounging her down real good and fingering her. She was WAY into it. In fact she told me several times, "You're making me horney." I definitely would have fuked her that night but it was logistically impossible. We had to part that night without me getting my 1st prize nut.

The next day, just like you I called here several times. When I finally got a hold of her, just like you, I suggested we 'hang out'. She said, "And do what?". I said I don't know. I didn't think it mattered but it did to her (ASD).

I end up getting the full treatment: Screening my calls and avoiding me completely.

Just like me, you thought that because you had gotten to 3rd base, that you were OK to call her several times the next day. We both learned this the hard way. You must lessen your game a tad and continue to DJ her until the relationship is consumated. This is where you blew it:

She replies:
"Look, here's the deal...everything at the movies shouldn't have happened. I was mad at some guy I know...--- blah blah blah,"

In other words, I was either the rebound guy, or she wanted to get back at the dude she likes. I don't know, and she didn't care to fully explain it to me. I told her that for what it was worth, I enjoyed the night and I'm not at all bothered by what she did, but rather the reasons she did it. I added that love is not meant to be used as a weapon and told her that I was a little hurt.

Never mind the other guy. He makes no difference at all as far as you're concerened. Every hot chick you will ever meet will always have some other dude that she's 'interested in' and who you will have to out-play. And of course, you should completely disregard her little comment that "everything at the movies shouldn't have happened...". Whatever, it did happen, dumb bytch. She may be socially awkward but she knows she has market value and plays games just as much as any girl. It means nothing that she's 'shy'. She was still taught how to play men from birth and can still read Cosmo.

Use this success (Yes, it is a success) and your mistakes as the foundation for your further development.

Good luck and have fun,
Satan

 

[Roots]

If it makes you feel any better Duke, my first experience was almost exactly identical. She may have been wearing different clothes, but same exact deal. 2 years younger, same kind of girl. Don't feel like this kind of sh*t is unusual.

How does my story end? Well, 6 months later we started really talking again, 2 months after that we fvcked. And until I got a real girlfriend she was my sexual outlet. I guess that's something to look forward to if you like heh.

The idea is: Don't fret man, sh*t happens.

 

[Duke]

It's good every once in a while to mentally re-live your past successes and give yourself a pat on the back... and oh yeah, I hope this inspires some more guys...I've recently been improving rapidly and taking note of old successes has played a big role.. Also the concepts of Awareness Radius, Compliance Building, and Hoop Theory have all been instrumental... all of which I alluded to (not by name, because they didn't have names, but by concept) in some old threads I created. More experienced guys on ASF explained these concepts fully in the past few months, and I've been having major "AHA" moments where the puzzle pieces start coming together.

Fact is, nowadays, I am usually *very* comfortable in the presence of a hot girl.... for a lot of reasons. Their sh!t still stinks!! Overall this experience jaded me for many months, but I've overcome it and I'm glad things played out the way they did. For a while I lost some of that positivity and zest I had. But it's coming back in a big way now. And now, it's tempered by experience; I'm no longer naiive.

 

[DrMetallica]

Still sounds cool, you might be able to resolve this with a lay... (wouldn't that be much cooler than just feeling pubic hair?... yuck)

first of all, think to yourself, "do i really want to get involved with this girl? she's 16 (and i'm 18) and sounds like a flake?" the reason why i say this, is because from an outsider's perspective, this is not the best girl to get involved with. there are more classy girls out there... but since i understand that your intellect is clouded with sexual desire (mine is too, and i end up making very bad decisions), i will give my thoughts on what you should do...

let a week or two pass without contact... she calls you, you don't pick up, for a week. if she doesn't call, wait two weeks. when you call "hey lady, it's me, was just thinking about you...pause... what are you doing tonight?" if she says she's doing something with friends respond "Fun!! well, i'm going to play pool with friends tonight, but i just wanted to say hi! long time no talk" etc. and that should start a conversation nicely...

if she says she's doing nothing... "well, come over, let`s go drink coffee at xyz and make fun of the people that walk down the street"

 

[Duke]

Hey man, thanks for the reply, but this was a looong time ago. Like at least 2 years. LOL. I'm just bumping it cause I know guys are still going through phases like this and maybe they never even kissed a girl and need inspiration.

Who knows, maybe I'll link that girl to this thread so she can get a glimpse into what was going on in my head? Pickup is going mainstream anyways.

 

[spider_007]

actually that made me little deprest.

GOD DAMN IT, EVERYBODY IS GETTING SOME (for free)

 

[DrMetallica]

Hey man, thanks for the reply, but this was a looong time ago. Like at least 2 years. LOL. I'm just bumping it cause I know guys are still going through phases like this and maybe they never even kissed a girl and need inspiration.

Who knows, maybe I'll link that girl to this thread so she can get a glimpse into what was going on in my head? Pickup is going mainstream anyways.

Holy hell!! So how'd it turn out?

 

[Bonhomme]

I had one situation with a gal that went in a similar way: movie date, went to her place, and things went way, way further than it turns out she was ready for. I didn't call her 3 times the next day, but when I did talk with her, she said she wasn't ready for such an involvement.

Rebound? Maybe. Whatever the case, if things go further than the gal is ready to go, and she doesn't have relationship intentions, a gal will often freak because she sees no way to step back to where her comfort zone is when she's not in the heat of passion. She's freaked because she's lost control and could do it again. In a way, it's a compliment to you ability to work her up.

Best thing you can do at that point is play it cool, and be a sport. Perhaps then, there's a chance she might get horny again some time and remember what a good time you had.

 

[Holland]

No big deal dude, my first make out session was with a girl I knew for half a minute and I didn't knew her name.
So what, it felt good and gave me experience

 

[DonJuanForever]

Lol, why is a thread from a while ago at the top of the forum?
Seriously, seriously...............wtf?
Duke do this, go out and sarge a LOT OF GIRLS, I feel that you are beginning to develop a great sense of oneitis, desperation, etc. You are wayyy toooo excited over ONE GIRL. Not saying lose your excitement, but like a mutual fund, spread your resources out over different sources....your little stock right now is really nothing compared to what you SHOULD GET.

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

I think this thread should be made into a new sticky thread about our old successes, to inspire the newbies. I think if they saw how pathethic we all started out and how excited we were about our first successes, especially the guys who are real active on here and well respected, they would be inspired to take this self-improvement in this area seriously and go for it. We can give them something to look forward to.