Ok, this.. well I suppose you could call it a field report... is from almost 3 years ago, but I just remembered it today and wondered again what the hell was going on..
This was when I was on a year out from uni working in London. I'd been there a few months but still didn't know that many people, apart from mates at work. Anyway, was out for after work drinks one friday night a friend of mine from work was there and he was telling me a friend of his was coming down later, that she was really cute and stuff (he definitely wanted to score with her).
Anyway later on she turns up and we're introduced, we chat for a bit, she asks me about what I'm doing I explain, say london is cool but I still don't know that many people yet, and she says oh I'm still new here too, you should give me a call if you're ever at a loose end, I say yeah cool. I'm thinking wow, she wants me to call her! But I'm way too AFC to actually ask for her # and think shes just saying it to be friendly and polite, I figure I'll see how the evening pans out.. so I change the subject to something else..
Before closing time she mentions a couple more times that I should call her, I say yeah good idea but again dont ask for #. Then closing time comes and the 3 of us (plus 1 other guy) want to carry on drinking so we hop on the tube to soho and wind up drinking in a trendy chilled bar, its one with cushions and stuff and people sat on the floor..
We're sat down and somehow the fact that my feet are tired/stiff from being in work shoes all day comes up.. she offers to give me a foot massage!! so I agree, I take my shoes off pop my legs up onto her lap and she does her stuff.. she's very good and theres plenty of eye contact going on while shes doing it..
By now, I'm getting drunk and thinking.. maybe she genuinely is interested.. a bit later on she mentions again that I should call her.. and now.. with added confidence from beer and the foot massage, I say something along the lines of 'well you'll have to give me your number then.'
She immediately fobs me off with something like.. 'oh its much easier if we communicate by email' but makes no effort to actually give me her email address, so I figure thats the end of it, shes not interested and i dont bother to ask for her email.. She doesnt mention me calling her or us staying in contact again for the rest of the evening.. The evening ended with the 3 of us going to some house party somewhere.. in which she went to bed almost straight away.. In the morning (we'd all stayed over) we just said bye to each other.. nice meeting you and so on.. I didnt see her again.
So what was she playing at..
at the beginning of the evening she seemed like she might have been interested (but my AFC brain told me she doesnt really mean it shes just being polite) so maybe I was right and she never was interested.. or maybe I inadvertantly played it too cool and she was put off because I didn't take the bait earlier.. but what was the whole foot massage thing for? maybe she was just experimenting on me, by then, i.e how far do I have to go to get this guy to ask me for my number?..
I dont think she was trying to get my mate jealous, he asked her out in the morning after the party and she blew him out quite spectacularly..
I dunno, women. they do one thing and mean something completely different..
lets have your theories.
This was when I was on a year out from uni working in London. I'd been there a few months but still didn't know that many people, apart from mates at work. Anyway, was out for after work drinks one friday night a friend of mine from work was there and he was telling me a friend of his was coming down later, that she was really cute and stuff (he definitely wanted to score with her).
Anyway later on she turns up and we're introduced, we chat for a bit, she asks me about what I'm doing I explain, say london is cool but I still don't know that many people yet, and she says oh I'm still new here too, you should give me a call if you're ever at a loose end, I say yeah cool. I'm thinking wow, she wants me to call her! But I'm way too AFC to actually ask for her # and think shes just saying it to be friendly and polite, I figure I'll see how the evening pans out.. so I change the subject to something else..
Before closing time she mentions a couple more times that I should call her, I say yeah good idea but again dont ask for #. Then closing time comes and the 3 of us (plus 1 other guy) want to carry on drinking so we hop on the tube to soho and wind up drinking in a trendy chilled bar, its one with cushions and stuff and people sat on the floor..
We're sat down and somehow the fact that my feet are tired/stiff from being in work shoes all day comes up.. she offers to give me a foot massage!! so I agree, I take my shoes off pop my legs up onto her lap and she does her stuff.. she's very good and theres plenty of eye contact going on while shes doing it..
By now, I'm getting drunk and thinking.. maybe she genuinely is interested.. a bit later on she mentions again that I should call her.. and now.. with added confidence from beer and the foot massage, I say something along the lines of 'well you'll have to give me your number then.'
She immediately fobs me off with something like.. 'oh its much easier if we communicate by email' but makes no effort to actually give me her email address, so I figure thats the end of it, shes not interested and i dont bother to ask for her email.. She doesnt mention me calling her or us staying in contact again for the rest of the evening.. The evening ended with the 3 of us going to some house party somewhere.. in which she went to bed almost straight away.. In the morning (we'd all stayed over) we just said bye to each other.. nice meeting you and so on.. I didnt see her again.
So what was she playing at..
at the beginning of the evening she seemed like she might have been interested (but my AFC brain told me she doesnt really mean it shes just being polite) so maybe I was right and she never was interested.. or maybe I inadvertantly played it too cool and she was put off because I didn't take the bait earlier.. but what was the whole foot massage thing for? maybe she was just experimenting on me, by then, i.e how far do I have to go to get this guy to ask me for my number?..I dont think she was trying to get my mate jealous, he asked her out in the morning after the party and she blew him out quite spectacularly..
I dunno, women. they do one thing and mean something completely different..
lets have your theories.
