FIELD REPORT: took a hb8.5 to a party

[white_hype]

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=37747

there is the background on this chick how we met/how i set up the friday party

the party we were going to was a nice one where guys where ties (no coats) and girls wear dresses, DJ, lots of beer/punch, and your suppposed to bring dates to

so my friend (semi AFC will balls and lots of confidence) and i go to pick our dates up around 10, we sit next to them in the car

this girl is kinda shy, but talks a lot with her friends (talks a lot to people she knows)

anyways we go to a pre party where i dont talk to her that much, 5-10 mins at most, and im asking her open ended questions/getting her to laugh/throing CF and neg hits at her, but she doesnt really ask me the questions back....

after like 15 mins of not really talking to her (she talks to some girl while i play beer pong) we go to the main party (we all sit next to eachother in the car)
she has already been calling some people, i have no idea who, on the phone, i think its casue i left her by herslef and she knew no one, hahah

anyways at the party my date and my friends date being kinda friends so they go to the bathroom as soon as we get there and said theyll brb... whatever

so my friend talk to all the people we know at the party (130 people at the party) and start drinking

i started looking for my date but couldnt find her casue there were so many people and found my friend's and told her that i was looking for my date

eventually i got tired of looking at cahtted with some other girls i went up and approached

i start dancing with this girl i knew from last year in college (im a soph, we were kinda friends and made out hardcore at a party once, nothing else, never got her number, never really tried, she was a HB7.5 none the less)

she is drunk and i could have probably hooked up with her, so while we are dancing (kinda dirty, grinding etc) i see out of the corner of my eye, my date by herself watching me do this sh1t... it was like out of a fawking movie...

i stopped from grinding and just kinda danced next to her and crap then i left her to go find my date

30 mins later i find her

she is pissed

i didnt think shed be this mad since she was giving me weird vibes the entire time and i also hear from my friends date that she is pretty mad at me for just leaving her... WTF

i told my date she left me and that ive been looking for her but she was like whatever

so i end up talking to her for like 10 mins of something and her friends show up at a party (2 girls, hb4 looked like a pitbull, and a hb6.5) her friends were drunk, my date was not.. which didnt help

her friends basically ****blocked me and that put me in an even deeper hole if that was possible

she said she was leaving and that she thanked me for taking her and crap, 5 min talk, seemed nicer and not as mad

and them im like, this is just gay... and decided to go after other chicks

im talking to other girls (this is around 1-2am) and my date calls me and says shes coming back b/c her friend needs the restroom there or something like that and i of course am wasted since my date just left and start yelling "WHAT! TO SEE ME? TO SEE ME? TO SEE ME?" in a joking way and she laughs and says no, in a joking way, then just hangs up on me... i dont think she thought i was too funny

she comes back and is drinking again, so i talk to her and her friend (the same ****block friend from last friday) and my date seems to be pissed/ignoring me so i talk to her friend who seems to be all over me (heavy kino, laughing a lot, asking me lots of questions) then they decide to leave and my date gives me a big hug out of no where and is like i had a good time, i want you to call me sometime

i was stunned, wtf is going on

later at like 4am i made a dumb move of calling her when i was wasted, i said i was sorry i was an ******* and we got off on the wrong foot and she was like dont worry about it and that was basically it... dam that was dumb

i am planning on calling her on sunday or monday and trying to set up a small dinner date or something like bowling on thursday

PS- shes not into kino, ive seen lots of people kino her and she seems to be grossed out from it and never returns it, but i did some light kino early on, and increased it thorughout the night, and at the end she was standing next to me so we touched eachother without moving, and kinoed my arm / back, SO KINO DOES WORK BOYS
side note- i gave her NO compliments whatsoever... i totally F'ed this part, shoulda said she has a nice dress. meh
what do you guys think of this? how should i plan my next move?

plz help guys, and dont tell me to NEXT her, i normally would but when she talks she is pretty cool, plus shes my type (tight body, short jet black hair, kinda tan, blue eyes)

plz help fellow DJ's
later

 

[white_hype]

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[white_hype]

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[honeyshark]

Don't get too wasted next time. A little is okay but you don't want to lose control and do stupid stuff.

Try planning something a little more intimate than a giant party wherein you can hang out with her more next time you go out together. Nevermind..., just reread your post, and I think that bowling is an excellent idea.

From what I read, it seems that see was initially pissed but then got over it. It probably helped that you flirted with her friend. Next time, don't admit that you were an arsehole, play it as an unavoidable accident.

Don't mention the fact that you called her @ 4am and apologized ever again. It was a bad call, so move on with the game.

As for the compliments, forget setting up a compliment quota. Compliment her when you feel like it, and use genuine compliments that reflect her personality or taste, not how her body is. There is lots of advice for giving good compliments around here somewhere.

Just some thoughts, peace.

 

[white_hype]

thx for the reply man

heres the UPDATE:

called her this friday at around 9pm at a pre party to see what shes up to

she doesnt answer

calls me back 5 mins later, i dont answer

calls me back 10 mins after that, i answer

we chat for a bit (what have you been up to etc)
she seems really excited/interested to talk to me, shes in her hometown for the weekend and says she will call me when she gets back and it turns out we are going to meet up at a party this friday

yea i know i shouldnt really take her to a party again, but F It, i didnt want to really waste my time with her on a date like bowling (she doenst have that great of a personality) but i will definately make a move come this friday

this will either make or break me, i want to either get this chick quick, or lose her forever, i dont have time to waste!!!

more replies are appreciated

peace

 

[Pimp-sicle]

WHITE HYPE:

Yeah bro that's the chick I'm talking about. Keep on playing the "flirt with everyone at the party" card, her attraction for you definitely multiplies when you do this. She seems a little lame as far as her personality goes, but be C/F, bust her ballz, flirt with other girls and then use the "kiss test" on her. I know you'll get her..




PIMP

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

What's with all this HB stuff?

HB4?

HB means hot babe, and in no way is a pitbull a hot babe.

HB should be used when talking about 8's an up.

Don't mean to sound like an idiot, just correcting that's all.


Yeah, this chick seems like she has no personality. You did well, at the start of the night, though I'd say grinding with another girl is taking it a little too far.

Just keep the C&F and ball busting going with everyone you meet.

The Bad Ass Canadian

 

[thissucks003]

1st of all, why are you taking your date to a party where she can compare you to other guys so they have an opportunity to entertain her? YOU should be the sole entertainment! If you get a second chance with her, you must do something with her alone. Any place where you can isolate and start seducing her, preferably your place, a bar where you can get drinks that is not popular(meat market), etc.... You are giving her too much opportunity for someone else to pick her up. Keep the ball in your court, control the situation.

TS

 

[Uncletobes]

Mate,

I can completely relate to taking chicks to a party for early dates. As an australian i can also relate to getting really p*ssed. Don't feel bad about these things, i've done some of my best tuning while completely hammered.

The best thing about a party is that you can introduce it around and have different, stimulating, weird and wonderful conversations with many people.

You also get to have multiple wingmen helping you out. It takes away any awkwardness that might be present. Also if the chick doesn't have much of a personality then you can talk to your mates while still involving it a bit.

I once took a hornbag chick from boston on a first date to the church, probably the messiest sunday pub in london. somehow she loved it.

It works to be a real man, and do what you want to do. She will feel special because you let her get involved. Also, you have all the advantage of the date being on your terms.

Other advice from uncletobes:

you were right - calling her was a bad idea.

do yourself a favour and dont take her bowling. go the sushi.

 

[thissucks003]

Originally posted by Uncletobes
The best thing about a party is that you can introduce it around and have different, stimulating, weird and wonderful conversations with many people.

You also get to have multiple wingmen helping you out. It takes away any awkwardness that might be present. Also if the chick doesn't have much of a personality then you can talk to your mates while still involving it a bit.

I'll have to disagree.

Going to party on your first date is weak. It makes you rely on others rather than yourself. Your skills never improve when you have to rely on others to keep the conversation going, to keep her entertained, etc...

Taking a girl to a party is something you do when you have been dating. It's something you do when you are in highschool. Be a man and stand on your own two feet.

TS

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

Originally posted by thissucks003
1st of all, why are you taking your date to a party where she can compare you to other guys so they have an opportunity to entertain her? YOU should be the sole entertainment! If you get a second chance with her, you must do something with her alone. Any place where you can isolate and start seducing her, preferably your place, a bar where you can get drinks that is not popular(meat market), etc.... You are giving her too much opportunity for someone else to pick her up. Keep the ball in your court, control the situation.

TS

if the guy has any amount of game, than he shouldn't be concerned with where he brings his date.

By keeping her away from a social situation, you're showing your lack of confidence in rasing her IL. She shouldn't get distracted by other guys, If you are the alpha/go-getter/charismatic type. You should be introducing her to the people and chatting it up.

Though, I'll admit, 130+ people is a bit of a big party for a first date. If it was say 30-50 people, than things would have worked out much different, I'll bet.

I love taking dates to parties. It's the perfect opportunity to show her how i carry myself in social settings. Very Upbeat and Charismatic. The extra attention I get from other women there always turns her IL way up, as a bonus, too.

The Bad Ass Canadian

 

[white_hype]

Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian
if the guy has any amount of game, than he shouldn't be concerned with where he brings his date.

By keeping her away from a social situation, you're showing your lack of confidence in rasing her IL. She shouldn't get distracted by other guys, If you are the alpha/go-getter/charismatic type. You should be introducing her to the people and chatting it up.

Though, I'll admit, 130+ people is a bit of a big party for a first date. If it was say 30-50 people, than things would have worked out much different, I'll bet.

I love taking dates to parties. It's the perfect opportunity to show her how i carry myself in social settings. Very Upbeat and Charismatic. The extra attention I get from other women there always turns her IL way up, as a bonus, too.

The Bad Ass Canadian

yea man, the attention from other girls helps a lot i think (i have a lot of girls that are friends/girls i talk to that come up to me and hug me etc, not to mention random girls coming up to me, wasted as they may be, they still come up )

yea her personality really sucks, shes from a small town and i think this plays a major role in that she doesnt really know how to talk to other people unless she knows them well, i.e she didnt talk much to other people when they would ask her questions and when she did it was about school and stuff like that

i am keeping her around because she is really really hot, no other reason, hahaha, shallow it may be, but so be it, i am not looking for a relationship

also the HB4 thing is just to show their rating out of 10
i.e HB4 = a girl thats 4/10 which is really ugly

i am planning on seeing her this friday at a party (i called her last fri, she said she would call me later in the week, hasnt called since, but was really excited to talk/come on fri) so whatever... if things dont go well this fri i will next her arse since i got a hb7.5's number last saturday who seems slutty (yay for me)

-also im not that worried about taking her to a party cause the whole time she was talking to her friends (had 2 there) which were girls, or she was by herself (i didnt really see any guys hitting on her, and the ones i saw she turned down), and id like to think my game is pretty good

ill update come saturday

 

[thissucks003]

Originally posted by The Bad Ass Canadian
if the guy has any amount of game, than he shouldn't be concerned with where he brings his date.

By keeping her away from a social situation, you're showing your lack of confidence in rasing her IL. She shouldn't get distracted by other guys, If you are the alpha/go-getter/charismatic type. You should be introducing her to the people and chatting it up.

Though, I'll admit, 130+ people is a bit of a big party for a first date. If it was say 30-50 people, than things would have worked out much different, I'll bet.

I love taking dates to parties. It's the perfect opportunity to show her how i carry myself in social settings. Very Upbeat and Charismatic. The extra attention I get from other women there always turns her IL way up, as a bonus, too.

The Bad Ass Canadian

Hey TBAC,

I see your points, but disagree on some of them. I am talking about initial dates, not 3rd, 4th, 5th dates.

To me, it really depends on what his goals are. If he is looking to hook up with her that night, I would say that going to a party, you have too many distractions. You want this to be all about you, not her. You want to control the environment. You can't control the situation, when you have too many extra distractions going on. I want it to be all about me. I want her sarging me and not the other way around. You are not going to seduce her when you have that many people distracting you from your game. How many times have you seen somebody distract you on date when it's just the two of you at a local bar? Not many if at all. Most people don't have the balls to interupt you on that kind of setting.

I am not saying don't bring dates to parties. I am saying "Dont' bring your date intially to parties" where you have too many other distractions and can't keep her on track to seducing her. When you rely on props, environment, and other people to make you look good in front of her, you only giving her a false sense that you are good with women. Eventually she will see through you insecurities, and eventually dump him because he has no substance. If you have to prove your worth to a girl to impress her, then you really don't have any real worth anyhow.

TS

 

[princelydeeds]

Why take sand to the beach? I don't take women to parties with me unless im boning them already and I know there won't be anyone at the party I wanna talk too. well, maybe if I wanna make someone else a little jealous but the chick I take with me has to be fine as hell. Meeting her at the party (her coming with friends) is a whole other ball game. That way you don't have to be tied to her all night.