Field Report: Jimmy Buffet Madness(Cheating GF's)

[joverby]

So Saturday night I decided to go to a hotel party that some people were having the night before the show. I wasn't going but figured I might as well go to the party and have some fun. It was me, my buddy "J" (I'll call him), our buddy "P" and his girlfriend, some dude named "R" and his girl who was this pretty hot later 30's milf. And a couple other girls / dudes.

One of my buddies gives me a "lay" the hawain flower necklace. Me and "J" walk into the bar and are immediately hit up by these two 40 y/o chicks wanting to dance. They are pretty "meh" at best, so I don't make much effort but they were def trying to get my attention. Kept calling me over to dance and trying to make fun of me for texting.

This hot chick at the bar was eyeing me, I noticed and returned the hungry eyes / exchanged smiles. Just to see her BF or some dude walk up to her moments later, oh well I think more chicks here. So hot milf chick and her BF, "R" are at the bar(counter). I get bored at one point and see milf chick at the bar by herself, so I just walked up and gave her some sh1t because she was sitting there texting. And I just got a "hold on". So she could finish. I just thought F that, I'm not holding on for you and just walked away and started talking to some of my buddies.

I saw she turned around and started looking for me. I was just trying to have a DJ attitude and figured I would establish myself of higher value than waiting around for some broad who I don't even know to finish a text. A little while later she walked up to me and said something. I was kind of surprised but rolled w/ it. She ended up kissing her hand and putting it on my cheek. Her boyfriend came up and I'm pretty sure saw that one cause it looked like she was getting reemed out by him after that.

She came up to talk to me again not long after that, this time she told me she had to go to the bathroom and walked off. Her BF was in the bathroom at the time too. I just sat there and processed it for a sec. I was thinking there was a good chance she wanted me to go in the bathroom for her, just from how she said it and how she was acting. So I wait a sec, see her BF come out of the bathroom with paper towel over his knuckles, he def was seeing her being into me and punched a wall(better than my face rite? lol)

So anyway, despite that I say fvck it and go for the bathroom. When I walk in she's washing her hands, I just sit down on the counter next to her and level with her. I just say look it's really tempting and everything but that dude out there is going crazy and it's way to risky. She just says that she knows he's crazy blah blah blah. I tell her about his knuckles and she just said well that explains the blood on my shirt. After thinking about the possibility of dude coming in the bathroom I said I had to go. Right as I'm about to leave she tells me to wait, and just asks me what she should do and if she wants me to keep talking to her. I told her she could but don't make it obvious. I'm about to leave again and she stops me and just says how "we're going to make it happen." And she just said that she was going to do what she had to do(AKA pretend to care about the guy)

I was just thinking damn, can't believe I did that and it worked. In retrospec I now realize I should've just fvcked her in the bathroom and gotten it out of the way. Anyway, we keep exchanging looks / winks and sh1t all night. I give her some descrete ass grabs etc. But unfortunately for me the boyfriend was needing a lot of attention becasue I'm sure he knew/sensed she wasn't really being into him.

At one point(outside smoking) my buddy "P"'s girlfriend lifted up my shirt and said she just wanted to see if I had hair on my stomach.(Becasue he doesn't have any apparently, I do and she liked it I guess ) I take off my shirt a little while after that. Hot milf's BF asked me if I knew how to fight and was just being really stupid when we were outside. I didn't really have to say sh1t and he was just like ya...I bet you know how to fight. I just acted indifferent and he could probably see I wasn't scared of him.

Anyway, we go back up to the room later and dude just randomly tells me "you didn't do anything man.." get's all chummy. I could only think damn dude, if you only knew what was really going on right now you wouldn't be saying that. So anyway a couple drunken fights break out infrotn of the hotel later, cops get called and I bail.

So I didn't get laid but got some awesome learning experience / confidence boost. "P"'s GF wanted me, all rubbed my chest and sh1t after I had my shirt off too. Was about to secretly bang the hot milf(hottest chick there), saw chick all eye fvcking me right away when I got to the bar. Then there was the 2 40 y/o buffet wh0r3s who I ignored. (But my buddy fvcked them infront of their husbands while I was working my game, they cut him off short though I guess) Then "P"'s GF told me how this red head slvt thought I was hot that was at the party w/ us(she was w/ a dude too, not committed I don't think though) I would've only banged like 2 of those chicks who were interested but it still makes a dude feel good.

Like I said I know it's lame I didn't get laid but was still a cool time. Also gave me some insight on just how big of wh0res girls can really be. But I was prob just naive / ignorant before. My buddy "J" actually called me the next day and what I did to be such a "chick magnet." Just told him it was all in the attitude, actually referred him to this site before but don't think he looked really.

 

[Solomon]

Joverby first things first, props on posting the FR
Secondly, don't worry about getting the lay, I would say my pull rate in the field is only 5% but I still go out because I enjoy the challenge and you can't compare the quality of tail in the field compared to say online

My question for you is, why didn't you go for the # close? it's obvious the chick was interested why not get the # and try to set up something later or another night?

You sound like a good looking dude(no homo). Getting choosing signals, are you in good shape? just wondering. I like your attitude in field when the guy was trying to shyt test ya.

Good report keep'em coming!

 

[joverby]

Thanks dude! Choosing signals? You mean like signs I picked up on from the girls? I'm in above average shape I would say. pecks / some ab defintion, kind of half assed working on improving my body still. Just push ups / sit ups(most days) and a better diet.

About the # close, I thought about that the day after lol. Well, we were all outside then all of the sudden one hotel employee just comes out and shouts, we called the cops. I was drunk kind of freaked out, even though I didn't have any reason to be considering I wasn't in any fight. And I had left my girlfriend hanging for a while too.(Kind of feel bad about the girlfriend which is why I omitted that from the story, even though sh1ts been going south with her for a while. Oh well.)

Had I actually stopped and thought about it I would've just went back inside and got her # before I left, and her name lol. But was kind of just looking for a quick fvck / challenge I guess.

 

[Solomon]

Yeah Choosing signs are when girls are checking you out, I Use to get them now and then but now that I'm out of shape and fat I'm working on that. some basic signs are

when girls playing with her hair
eye contact(biggest one)
Proximity (coming close to you, i.e. brushing up on you)

But yeah dude why not break up with the g/f? sounds to me like you "mentally" checked out already bro

 

[joverby]

I was actually planning on it today which is why I seem so checked out I guess. Sick of the hot/cold rollercoaster it's been. Seriously, last night she's 100% into me and wakes up this morning cold and gives me a one armed hug. That wouldn't big a huge deal on it's own if Sunday morning she didn't deny me sex. We woke up, I put some "moves" on her. Could tell she was being reluctant but I wasn't going to do any passive aggressive sh1t and just back off, like I had before. So ya, I was more aggressive about it but stopped when I saw I escalated and she was still not really into it.

I just backed up and said something like "What, you don't want to?" Didn't get anything out of her, just said something else about wanting to fvck. And she just gets "frusterated" and has to go have a cigarette.

I go outside w/ her. I can't get anything out of her at all except "Oh my god..." sighing, acting like she's some kind of victim. IDK just figured she could say why if it wasn't just low interest as why she didnt' want to fvck. Which it was clearly just that, after the one armed hug especially. Also this morning when I left I realized I forgot my wallet, and was having a car problem. So I call her(this was like 1 minute after saying good-bye) she doesn't answer. I had to knock on her door and her Dad answered, walked in her room and saw her on her phone; pretty sure on facebook(pretty much a junkie for that). I didn't say anything because I knew it wouldn't be worth it, just really reinforces her priorities / interests.

Texted her today asking when she worked(wanted to break up in person) She was sending a bunch of smileys and sh1t but then again that's really just words at this point (actions > words)

Pretty much the whole relationship has been peroids of hot/cold, it sucks she's a really cool girl. I think I should've just been less AFC right away and kept her as more of a FB, I'm sure if I had the right attitude from the get go she would've asked for more herself if she wanted it. But for me it's questionable whether or not she's BPD(or some variant) not really sure though, I'll just focus on what I do know.

Also, as bound and determined I am/was to break up and get it over with there is still a part of me who wants to try to explain that it really fvcking bugged me and especially how she wouldn't even talk at all. But I know you can't talk someone into feeling a certain way / negotiate desire(Shouldn't have to try to talk your girlfriend into fvcking you anyway, or ask why she doesn't want to). So I"ll just have to stick to my guns as tough as it will be.

 

[sexysuave]

I'm interested to see how this will go over. Please post and give us details of break up .

 

[joverby]

For those of you who care, I went for the break up yesterday.

I called her up and she was being short with me and kind of cold(I did kind of blow her off by an hour so maybe that's why who knows). I ask her what's up , of course everything is fine. So I call her back after talking to my buddy about it. Give her the whole "it's not working out" speech.

I end up telling her why, the being denied sex and the hot/cold. She says I wouldn't understand the whole sex thing and it wouldn't matter anyway because I just immediately came out w/ the whole it's not working out. After we keep going in circles of me wanting to know why she would deny me and her not telling I just say well your a cool girl, sorry sh1t got fvcked up w/ us and she just says "whatever" and hangs up.

I text her just saying I think it's pretty fvcked up that she couldnt even say bye but I guess that's just another indicator of how she feels blah blah blah. We go back and forth through texts for a while. I'm being pretty cold / straight to the point w/ all the texts. She eventually tells me she hates to be seen naked and it makes her feel disgusting. And anytime she has sex with me it just occupies her brain and that's all she can think about. She knows I think she's sexy but something happend and that's all she wanted to tell me right then. I just give her some more sh1t saying well that half explains it. She then tells me about something f'd up that happend to her when she was 7. Finally her cutting and other problems she had def make sense. And it's still effecting her to this day, obviously.

I said something about how it wasn't fair to me. And she just threw a whole, so instead of helping me through it your just going to find someone to fvck you. That's love for you. She ended up saying how she loved me and how it hurt her that she poured her heart to me and it's not like she tells everyone that and how I was still being an a$$hole.(I really was but I didn't see it as my problem really) I end up calling her up, she's pretty much bawling the entire time.

We end up reconciling but, IDK. I'm still really confused as what to do myself. Because I obviously want a girlfriend who's going to enjoy fvcking me and want to. I understand she's got a serious and legit issue(even though we've fvcked in the past, just not that often. And she was really insecure about taking off her shirt too. But started to after a few times) So IDK, Don't think I should have to walk on egg shells or have to worry about trying to initiate sex w/ my GF. But I did find out she does love me and doesn't want to lose me...sh1ts jacked up.

 

[KarmaSutra]

If you believe for a second this dumbass broad knows anything about "love", you're in for a world of hurt.

She's toxic. She'll say everything you want to hear, but do nothing to change her behavior. It doesn't matter anyway. Why are you wasting another miserable, drama-filled moment with this cancer laden cvnt?

You should be exercising your options. If you don't, you deserve everything you allow her to do to you.

 

[joverby]

Ya you're right man. That sh1ts fvcked up. I belive it really happend to her but IDK if that's the reason she's actually acting how she is(like low IL, not being interested in fvcking me(usually chicks w/ sexual trauma tend to be huge wh0res but I guess that always doesn't have to be the case.). Starting to really think she is BPD. She seems to suit the abandonment thing, and past fvcked up trauma just adds to the possibility. Just noticed the abandonment thing on some small scales but starting to make the connections.

She was probably thrown off guard that I was actually prepared to leave her. I can't believe what a mind fvck this has been.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Brother you got me in a Jimmy Buffet mood.

Here's my remedy for your dilemma: Put on "He went to Paris" By Jimmy Buffet. Put on some good noise canceling headphones.

Listen to it 7 times. Now think, what would the narrator in that song would do in your situation?

 

[Solomon]

We end up reconciling but, IDK. I'm still really confused as what to do myself. Because I obviously want a girlfriend who's going to enjoy fvcking me and want to. I understand she's got a serious and legit issue(even though we've fvcked in the past, just not that often. And she was really insecure about taking off her shirt too. But started to after a few times) So IDK, Don't think I should have to walk on egg shells or have to worry about trying to initiate sex w/ my GF. But I did find out she does love me and doesn't want to lose me...sh1ts jacked up.

Mate, your already walking on eggshells, why be in a relationship that your not happy in? It shouldn't be "jacked up" and your rationalizing to yourself. If she doesn't change this will only get worse. Trust me mate I've been in relationships were sex was an issue, its not worth it

Just my thoughts

 

[The_411]

Very simple rule if a girl was a cutter run for the f'ing hills. Cutting is massive indicator for Cluster B chicks ...