Use this wisely, READ ALL OF IT
That story breaks my heart, i hate to see girls do stuff like that. But it isnt her fault really, its you. But dont get upset, im going to share maybe the most valuable information of your life, and of my dramatic change, and it should give you some inspiration and confidence.
I was like you in freshman year, i am now a junior and you wont believe the changes i went through. I had really long hair which i put in a pony tail which was a definate no no. I also had glasses, no confidence, depressed, skinny, no hope and walked around with my head down looking at the ground and my shoes. I wore all this ghetto crap with clothes way too big for me. Long hair still scars me today, i got a beast acne problem on my back, which is still gradually going away today. I hung out with all the seniors and when they left i knew NOBODY. I felt just about every girl was "out of my league" and would never think about even talking to me. So how did i change? I thought you'de never ask.
I completely shaved off all my hair, buzz cut, almost bald. Still wore ghetto clothes and glasses, and had no confidence. Closest think i got to a compliment was: OMG you cut your hair! I was looked upon as the "shy, quiet, gangster kid who wasnt really funny". Some people made fun of me which led me to believe i was what they said i was. btw i grew up in an urban area so i thought that stuff was cool, and i moved to a "preppy" suburban town freshman year. i was a LOSER.
Sophmore year was boring, no action, i opened up a bit but still pretty much a loser. My hair grew in a bit so i spiked my hair for a while. But same look basically.
I am a junior now and this year i have changed it all. STILL had somewhat ghetto, big clothes. But i was clean atleast. This year i have gotten contacts and developed a style of hair that works for me. But just very recently (maybe a month or two), is where i went from a nottie, to a hottie. One day i was walking along in the mall, came across this store PacSun. They have that kinda "beach,preppy,surfer,skater" looking clothes. So i got some stuff from there and it was cool.
But i have to thank one store in the mall that really gave me an edge. HOLLISTER. Maybe this isnt your thing, but it worked wonders for me! No really, WONDERS. The girls ate this up!! When i started wearing that stuff, alot of girls were telling me how much they liked my new style. I got compliments from hot girls left and right. This girl came up to me at my locker and told me: "hey i like your outfit, you look hot!".......i was in awe, i have never been called 'hot' in my entire life until now. my confidence instantly sky rocketed. now when she sees me she says hey sexy! many other girls have said things like: "we like your outfit" "i like your jeans" "i like your new style, so your a hollister boy now?" "you look really good" ect...I am not making this up, this really made me a different person. i get so much more attention that i never got before. i became open, funny, and full of confidence. So here i am today! I feel great, and i look great.
Im not muscular, im skinny. 130 lbs. Its amazing how a simple change of style and attitude can make you feel so great. I still dont have a girlfriend, but i became more social then ive ever been with girls. hot girls. im still working on courage and nervousness, but that will all be changed soon. Im really looking forward to senior year.
But anyways, my advice is dont worry about that girl. You will soon look back and remember that experience and laugh. Just as i laugh at my picture from freshman year :crackup: . Be proud of who you are, yet constantly work to improve yourself, dont let little things get you down. Walk with your head high, shoulders back, a smooth bounce to your step. (dont over do any of that though, subtle changes do alot, if you over do it, you look like a fool TRYING to act confident). AND STOP LOOKING DOWN AT THE GROUND, there is nothing for you down there. if you look at a girl, and look down, this is subconsciencely a submissive signal. look away if you must, but the longer you hold your eye contact, the better. Try making her look away first. Tighter clothes make you look better, but dont make it skin tight. Baggy stuff makes you look scrawny, so dont go around thinking your cool with your huge clothes. Wear stuff that fits. Dont worry about pimples unless they are outstandingly huge, in that case, pop em. then get some acne cream or whatever to prevent future pimples.
So give yourself a make over, it will do wonders. and remember: NOBODY CAN BRING YOU DOWN BUT YOURSELF. Nobody can force you to feel depressed, YOU make yourself feel that way, not her, its not her fault. So that also means, nobody can bring you up but yourself. Your life is what you make it to be. I felt so outraged by your story, this reminded me of myself, and i cant let anyone go through what i have endured. So i felt it was necessary to write all this. Use the information i gave you wisely, and dont ACT who you want to be, BECOME who you want to be. Everything else like what to say that i left out, comes with time and experience, it will come natural with confidence and a positive outlook on your life and yourself. So remember everything ive told you. Use it wisely, dont just let my words float around in the back of your head, get off your ass and MAKE THE CHANGES NOW!!
I hope this gives you the confidence and inspiration you needed. Good luck! :cheer:
