thehunterwright
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So if you would help me understand where I went wrong it would be appreciated. It started off good and seemed to end in a bust, this is not how it's supposed to be. And before we got too far, yes, I now know that a bar was a terrible ****ing idea.
So I know M (33yo) from the gym, we occasionally overlap during a couple of the group fitness classes, we've been flirting since she started coming back, a month or two ago; a tall red head with a pretty amazing body, small breasts, gorgeous eyes who's a bartender and also getting her graduate degree; way out of my league.
It was originally schedualed for Saturday night but when I texted to solidify the plans she informed me that she forgot her sisters birthday and was going home Saturday. However she offered up Friday, but didn't finalize on any time or place. So later that night I messaged her asking if she likes bowling
bowling, she said yes, she's not very good, I made a quip and got silence. In the morning I had what I thought was a brilliant brainstorm, a picnic in the living room. I sent her a text asking if she wanted to have a carpet picnic, wine, food, conversation. A mistake, her response was "That sounds to complicated for me". I played it off and repsonded my telling her to suggest a place and time. Later on she was wishy washy, she doesn't care, so I said some bar 8PM. I should have stuck with bowling.
Just as I finished getting ready I notice a text saying she's bored and that she's going to head down to the bar early. So I quickly put on the finishing touches, probably the best I've looked going on, ever, freshly shaven. So I get there, 7:15ish and look around for her, nothing. I'm worried now that she's at the other Fieldhouse, closer to where we both live but I'm not comfortable there. Text. Response, she's almost there. I really didn't want to get there before her in this case.
So she comes in, sits next to me at the bar and we start talking. There are
a couple of guys next to us fiddling with a broken iTouch music machine, I'm giving them a little ****, trying to show how social I am. So we're talking and having a good time, drinking. Everything's going good, still giving **** to the guys and their music, all in fun. So she tells me about her birthday gift, a gun. She's talking about it and showing me pictures of this gun. More talking. Now one of the guys comes over and starts talking to me (and I know exactly what he's doing, going right through me). So nows he's introduced himself to
us and I mention something about buying us drinks. So he heads back and sits
with his friends, kitty corner to us. Back to talking, and it's about every 15 minutes he comes over, and interrupts. I'm starting to get annoyed but I'm not going to show that.
So while we're talking I'm noticing a few things. While we're talking I'm getting a pretty good vibe from her, eye contact, leaning in, playing with her hair, and pulling her hair back and to the other side of her head, clearly showing me her neck. However I'm also noticing that once the topic is dead, there's an awkward silence, she's sitting at the bar, not leaned into me, arms crossed in front of her.
Jake, the douchebag, comes over, sits buy me and leans over and asks us, how long have we known each other, and neither one of us is quick on the reply, and he ask what are we, friends, dating, married? And I'm still thinking of the last question and I stumble, letting her chime in with "friends". Little bit later, guy comes over with a shot of Patron that one of us has to do. He sets it down in front of us, she points at me and I take the shot.
It was at this point I discussed checking out another bar and I suggest closing out. We get the bill, payup, she throws down enough to cover her drinks even though she just saw me pay for it in full. We head out and I make a point of finding Jake and thanking him for the drinks he bought. She heads up and hugs him and i hear him kissing her cheek. So we head out and towards the other bar which just happens to be the same direction as her car. Halfway to her car, she asks me where I'm parked and I point back to the bar. I'm like aren't we going to the bar? She says no, she's gonna head home to her parents tomorrow and wants to be at the 8am gym class (both
of this she mentioned earlier in the evening). I can see her car I'm tell her I'm walking her to her car. We get there, it wasn't far. I'm not getting any sort
of vibe and frankly feel like crap for being "friended", I stayed at the front of the car while she went and got in. "See you at the gym if I make it" was the last thing she said. There was no we should do this again, or I had a great evening. I did not go to the gym the next morning. Possible I'll see her in lass tomorrow evening but not counting on it.
I really appreciate your help in this, it's driving me crazy.
So I know M (33yo) from the gym, we occasionally overlap during a couple of the group fitness classes, we've been flirting since she started coming back, a month or two ago; a tall red head with a pretty amazing body, small breasts, gorgeous eyes who's a bartender and also getting her graduate degree; way out of my league.
It was originally schedualed for Saturday night but when I texted to solidify the plans she informed me that she forgot her sisters birthday and was going home Saturday. However she offered up Friday, but didn't finalize on any time or place. So later that night I messaged her asking if she likes bowling
bowling, she said yes, she's not very good, I made a quip and got silence. In the morning I had what I thought was a brilliant brainstorm, a picnic in the living room. I sent her a text asking if she wanted to have a carpet picnic, wine, food, conversation. A mistake, her response was "That sounds to complicated for me". I played it off and repsonded my telling her to suggest a place and time. Later on she was wishy washy, she doesn't care, so I said some bar 8PM. I should have stuck with bowling.
Just as I finished getting ready I notice a text saying she's bored and that she's going to head down to the bar early. So I quickly put on the finishing touches, probably the best I've looked going on, ever, freshly shaven. So I get there, 7:15ish and look around for her, nothing. I'm worried now that she's at the other Fieldhouse, closer to where we both live but I'm not comfortable there. Text. Response, she's almost there. I really didn't want to get there before her in this case.
So she comes in, sits next to me at the bar and we start talking. There are
a couple of guys next to us fiddling with a broken iTouch music machine, I'm giving them a little ****, trying to show how social I am. So we're talking and having a good time, drinking. Everything's going good, still giving **** to the guys and their music, all in fun. So she tells me about her birthday gift, a gun. She's talking about it and showing me pictures of this gun. More talking. Now one of the guys comes over and starts talking to me (and I know exactly what he's doing, going right through me). So nows he's introduced himself to
us and I mention something about buying us drinks. So he heads back and sits
with his friends, kitty corner to us. Back to talking, and it's about every 15 minutes he comes over, and interrupts. I'm starting to get annoyed but I'm not going to show that.
So while we're talking I'm noticing a few things. While we're talking I'm getting a pretty good vibe from her, eye contact, leaning in, playing with her hair, and pulling her hair back and to the other side of her head, clearly showing me her neck. However I'm also noticing that once the topic is dead, there's an awkward silence, she's sitting at the bar, not leaned into me, arms crossed in front of her.
Jake, the douchebag, comes over, sits buy me and leans over and asks us, how long have we known each other, and neither one of us is quick on the reply, and he ask what are we, friends, dating, married? And I'm still thinking of the last question and I stumble, letting her chime in with "friends". Little bit later, guy comes over with a shot of Patron that one of us has to do. He sets it down in front of us, she points at me and I take the shot.
It was at this point I discussed checking out another bar and I suggest closing out. We get the bill, payup, she throws down enough to cover her drinks even though she just saw me pay for it in full. We head out and I make a point of finding Jake and thanking him for the drinks he bought. She heads up and hugs him and i hear him kissing her cheek. So we head out and towards the other bar which just happens to be the same direction as her car. Halfway to her car, she asks me where I'm parked and I point back to the bar. I'm like aren't we going to the bar? She says no, she's gonna head home to her parents tomorrow and wants to be at the 8am gym class (both
of this she mentioned earlier in the evening). I can see her car I'm tell her I'm walking her to her car. We get there, it wasn't far. I'm not getting any sort
of vibe and frankly feel like crap for being "friended", I stayed at the front of the car while she went and got in. "See you at the gym if I make it" was the last thing she said. There was no we should do this again, or I had a great evening. I did not go to the gym the next morning. Possible I'll see her in lass tomorrow evening but not counting on it.
I really appreciate your help in this, it's driving me crazy.
