Field Report: Be a Selector, Not a Selectee

[Masculinity]

Women respond to confidence, a man who has fun and doesn't give them much attention but just enough when they earn it. They respond even better when they see you with other women, against whom they need to compete to get your attention.

On a Friday night, I stood shaking my head at a night club after running into HB7.5 (Kate) who has a "I'm God's gift to men" attitude and constantly tries to elevate her status, assuming guys just drool over her (some AFCs do). Needless to say, I have her friend zoned. Next to her, HB7 (Danica), a new acquaintance, saw me with Kate and asked how we met (thinking she's my girl). I said "You know...she approached me saying she wanted me, but I turned her down and make her kind of a friend ; ]". The brat's facial expression was priceless. This is a girl used to getting her ass kissed. And here was Masculinity treating her with charm, like a little girl, chuckling at her tantrums and keeping his attention on other women--telling her the reasons why she's single. She was eating it up, smiling and punching me on the shoulder, trying to get my attention throughout the night.

I told Danica I can only handle Kate small doses at a time, as she's trying to test my game. With a big smile--now she knows I'm single--Danica asks if I'm gaming her and I respond with a smirk "full disclosure I'm not gaming you...but I'd dance with you". The girl gives me a smile and shakes her head. As all this is happening, HB9 friend of mine walked in and we started dancing sort of seductively--this is where the hen house stirred up! I started pulling women out of the crowd to dance with me and HB9--other women weren't subtle in their curriosity. As this happened, Ally HB7 (another acquaintance I had just met) walks in with "**** me" eyes pointed my way. She had been watching me the whole night. I was sandwiched between two women in the middle of a circle. Ally started giving me IOIs and I isolated. We went to a park and made out.

She declined my invitation to come to my place saying it's too late. I responded with "well, just because you're coming over doesn't mean I'll sleep with you." Her jaw dropped. "You don't want to?!" she responded. To which I said "I'm not sure I'm into you". She was offended, trying to shame me into validating her. I told her to cut the sh*t and we made out before I gently pushed her away and told her "maybe we should just be friends" . Her response "well, I'm not saying I'm not attracted to you or that I'm not interested in doing things; I just can't tonight" and gave me her #.

The next day, the people from the nightclub and I are at a graduate seminar, where I am told I developed a "fun guy" reputation from last night. A moment a girl I chatted up the night before but did not close comes up to me and says she wants to call and visit me in LA. I say "how are you going to call without my number?" She smiles and asks me for the digits.

Moral of the story: Have fun, select women as you see fit, and make it subtly know that you're a selector of women and not a selectee of them. Women aren't your center of the universe. You should be the biggest priority to yourself, knowing you'll find women even if you don't get laid tonight.

 

[marmel75]

Having fun and an IDGAF attitude will do a lot for you when you are out...soooo many dudes that just stand around or take that sh!t so serious like its a life and death struggle...

 

[Spidah]

Listen up guys. All this overthinking is a waste of time when it comes to bitches.

You get out there and game these hoes. If the bytch doesn't get with your program she gets dropped. Abundance mindset.

Your life is about you. A bytch needs to bring value into your life constantly. Its all about the present guys. Fuk what she did yesterday and fuk what she did last week. She needs to keep bringing value or you drop her.

 

[Masculinity]

Yeah. Qualification is the bread and butter of good game imo.

Should spring from genuinely loving your life, and being careful about whom you let into it first off, and then at what degree of access you give. That's the point when i've had girls offering me massages when i've said that i'm tired and generally trying to be a good addition to my life, rather than just there to mooch off your brilliance and leaving you feeling more drained. Two very different experiences, and qualification is a major contributing factor for the difference.

One of the easiest examples of good simple qualification i think is to ask a woman why she's single, then riff on that for mutual laughs.

Is there a particular approach you use to get massages from girls? I enjoy those a lot!

Having fun and an IDGAF attitude will do a lot for you when you are out...soooo many dudes that just stand around or take that sh!t so serious like its a life and death struggle...

Definirely a lot of wallflowers. These are the dudes that tend to stare and hate whenever they see you pulling broads. Some even go out of their way to screw up your game.