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Field Report at the bar

Dannyrt34

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It's been a long time since I wrote a field report so here goes.

Tonight me and my buddies made a last minute decision to go to the local bar which is pretty much a college hotspot. We walk in and were kind of dissapointed that we didn't see too many hotties there.

After a few rounds, and some conversation with my friends. I did spot a really gorgeous girl sitting with one of her girlfriends by themselves. I pointed them out to my buddies and they all agreed that they were hot. We still sat there, like a bunch of dumasses though, not making an approach. As we sat there I did begin to notice I was making some eye contact with the girl. Still not much IOI's as she kept looking away. Not long after that, our view of the girls were blocked by a bunch of fat people standing around. We drank and chatted some more.

I still get a little nervous before making approaches, and tonight I was feeling a little 'off' so I continued to sit there. My one buddy, who has a girlfriend, eventually walked over and started a conversation, while me and my cousin, sat and watched. We eventually walked over to join in. My cousin began to talk to the girl I thought was gorgeous (dam). So I had no choice to talk to the other girl. We actually got along quite well, and I used some subtly kino on her (hand on her back while I leaned close to her ear to talk over the loud music). We chatted for a good while and then we walked away to discuss the situation.

My one friend who has the girlfriend is good for finding out information for us. He told me that the girl whom I really wanted to talk to, the GORGEOUS one, thinks I'm cute. He told me he was going to get my cousin away from her and into the other girl, so I could move in and talk to the one I wanted. So I walk over to the hottie. And just started asking the basic questions, like where she's from and about college. She was also very nice.

She admitted she was checking me out before we approached. We had a lot in common. She has great blue eyes, and dark brown hair (My favorite combination). We chatted for a while, and yes, the weather conversation came up, because where I live there's a pretty big snow storm on the way. I told her she should come out and snowboard with me tomorrow. She laughed and said she doesn't know about that because she'll get hurt and she's terrible at snowboarding. I told her to live a little, I'm terrible at snowboarding too and that's what makes it fun. We continued to talk for quite a while (longer than I would have liked to, I usually like to keep first meetings short and sweet.)

Anyway, at one point in the conversation I pulled out my phone and handed it to her. I showed her how to enter her number into it. I then called her phone so she had my number too. (And so I know it wasn't a fake number). We then hugged, and parted ways, my and my friends left the bar.

Overall, I was pretty happy with how that whole situation went. I mean I thought the girl was great looking with a great personality. I'm hoping I can land the date with this one.
 

Pimp-sicle

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You should thank your cousin. Don't doubt yourself, if you sense even an inkling of interest and lock eyes with a girl, APPROACH!!!!

Let us know what happens with this, good luck.



PIMP
 

dap

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You did a couple things really well:
*The eye contact that you did early on seperated you from the rest of the guys you were with, making the girl interested in you
*Most importantly: Whenever you want an HB, don't flirt with her, flirt with her friends. This will get her jealous and demonstrate social proof. The girl will worry about why you are hitting on her friends and not her, and so she will try to get her to notice you (calling you "cute" to your friend). You did this by accident, but it helped you out a lot.

Good job! Call her in a few days
 

Dannyrt34

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Pimp-sicle said:
You should thank your cousin. Don't doubt yourself, if you sense even an inkling of interest and lock eyes with a girl, APPROACH!!!!

Let us know what happens with this, good luck.



PIMP
Yes, I agree. I have a great wingman. My friend that has a girlfriend is a social butterfly (I'm assuming he is who you meant, because he's the one who made the initial approach). He has no problems starting conversations with anybody. I still get a bit nervous when I'm about to approach. So that's where he comes in very handy.

Once the ice is broken, I'm usually pretty good after that point. So he usually goes up, breaks the ice, waits for me to come over, then he tells the girls he has a girlfriend. And breaks away so that let's me get to know them myself.

On the other hand, I felt bad for my cousin after last night. He was into the girl that I wanted (we have the same taste in girls). But she was more into me. I hate when those situations happen, because while I'm talking with the girl, I almost feel guilty because I have what he wants. Oh well, I guess it happens.

That girl was gorgeous though so I'm going out again tonight to look for more girls. Don't want any of that oneitis, and the best medicine for that is to have more options. Hopefully everyone can read another successful field report tonight.
 

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Dannyrt34 said:
That girl was gorgeous though so I'm going out again tonight to look for more girls. Don't want any of that oneitis, and the best medicine for that is to have more options. Hopefully everyone can read another successful field report tonight.
I hope so, good luck!
 
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