This Wednesday, I was walking around in the middle of the day taking pictures of the first snow. Toward the end I was taking a picture of the icicles on an old building to the right of a walking path, when a girl passed by and took a picture of the field to the left of the path, stopping a few steps ahead of me. I wasn't going in that direction, but I changed my mind: I hurried up to her to walk beside her, and said "It's beautiful, isn't it?"
It turned out she is a student at the nearby college, and we talked for a while. I showed her the picture I had just taken, and so on. I brought up Christmas presents and said I wanted to go find a present at a Christmas market this weekend. I suggested she go with me, and she said okay.
Then I suggested we go by train to a bigger nearby city this coming Saturday, and go to the much bigger Christmas market there. She was reluctant for a moment, but then agreed.
Note: I did not ask her to go to the bigger market first, because it would have been too much. It was big enough for her to agree to go to a market in the same town. But once she had agreed to that, I could bring up the train ride.
I really got the perfect opener for a conversation here, taking a picture, and a girl takes a picture just a few steps from me at the same time. Gave me something to talk about. It does pay to approach girls out of the blue, but you need to be a little smart about it; it must seem like you have a reason. Like you are not just talking to her because she looks good and you are horny. I wouldn't just go up to a girl passing by in the street and say, "Hey there, sexy!"
I have talked to some other girls recently, and it didn't pan out. But that is to be expected. Like looking for a job or an apartment, you miss a lot more than you hit.
Macro preparations to facilitate my micro game:
--Looking sharp at all times, just in case
--Getting work out of the way in the evenings, so I can be outdoors in the middle of the day
--Doing various things outside normal routine: going to an amateur concert, visiting the city library, going to a Christmas market, taking pictures of snowy buildings - almost anything out of the ordinary is good, if the ordinary isn't doing anything for you
--Walking in the areas where I am more likely to meet girls my age
When you keep things like this in mind every day, your opportunities increase.
It turned out she is a student at the nearby college, and we talked for a while. I showed her the picture I had just taken, and so on. I brought up Christmas presents and said I wanted to go find a present at a Christmas market this weekend. I suggested she go with me, and she said okay.
Then I suggested we go by train to a bigger nearby city this coming Saturday, and go to the much bigger Christmas market there. She was reluctant for a moment, but then agreed.
Note: I did not ask her to go to the bigger market first, because it would have been too much. It was big enough for her to agree to go to a market in the same town. But once she had agreed to that, I could bring up the train ride.
I really got the perfect opener for a conversation here, taking a picture, and a girl takes a picture just a few steps from me at the same time. Gave me something to talk about. It does pay to approach girls out of the blue, but you need to be a little smart about it; it must seem like you have a reason. Like you are not just talking to her because she looks good and you are horny. I wouldn't just go up to a girl passing by in the street and say, "Hey there, sexy!"
I have talked to some other girls recently, and it didn't pan out. But that is to be expected. Like looking for a job or an apartment, you miss a lot more than you hit.
Macro preparations to facilitate my micro game:
--Looking sharp at all times, just in case
--Getting work out of the way in the evenings, so I can be outdoors in the middle of the day
--Doing various things outside normal routine: going to an amateur concert, visiting the city library, going to a Christmas market, taking pictures of snowy buildings - almost anything out of the ordinary is good, if the ordinary isn't doing anything for you
--Walking in the areas where I am more likely to meet girls my age
When you keep things like this in mind every day, your opportunities increase.
