Female users:

[kraytkiller]

This is a series of serious questions, not meaning to call anyone out or be rude or anything. But, if your a female, why do you come to this site? Assuming your a regular browser like me.

Also, has coming here changed the way you treat men? How would you feel if these tactics were used on you in real life, and you noticed that the guy had sosuave knowledge?

Just curious

 

[instantnoodles]

Good question. I am a female - thought I'd put it out.


A while ago, I stumbled upon on this website by chance, whilst Googling something about relationships. It near the end of the year and few topics on here caught my attention. I began to read more and more, intrigued. Whether you're a DJ or not, males or females of all ages (dating age) can learn something on here that can improve an aspect of your life - whether it would be learning how to get over someone , learning to keep your man happy or just simply learning the game so you can avoid getting into the wrong ordeal and into one you prefer (example: not friendship, maybe a relationship). I understand this site was originally running for men, however most of the knowledge on here can be pretty much learnt by both genders to suceed in seduction.

I know what a guy's intentions are just by reading the DJ bible. I can easily sort out the results of the dates I went on based on my interests at the time, according to who I might be interested in and who could potentially let me down. I used to do this when I dated and it worked well for me

I know the Game very well. I know most concepts like negging, kino, cold approaches and what to do when the other party flakes on a date. I read the DJ Bible and I read "The Game" by Ken Hoinsky

I'm a very calm girl, unless I have something going on in my life. It happens to all of us. However I learnt, just by going on here, (for example) if someone flakes on a date, i know just how to deal with it. Something useful. I'm also really shy and quiet. I'm inexperienced in the dating world, not afraid to admit that. However I think I'm wise enough to utilize the information on here for my own good. Reading topics about confidence changed the way I interact not with just men, even people in everyday life.

I also know what to do when a guy negs me Turn it around! Be witty! Don't be butthurt about it. Same goes for men here too.

Coming here hasn't really changed the way i treat men. Rather, if I know a man doesn't have a good attitude, i cut contact and avoid. No need to fight about it. Simple and clean cut. If a man has a good attitude, I know these types of men are the ones I'm attracted to and while I don't necessarily "game" him, but I can deal with him in a mature way because of Sosuave. I also understand why some men today are so negative about women and dating in general. It's unfortunate.

I'm quite aware these tactics will be used on me if the guy runs into me the very first time. I work at a retail store so I am always interacting with people. It's normal of course, if the guy negs you, wants your number etc. These guys are obviously testing their seduction skills. However I wouldnt like it if we were in something serious and these tactics (example: punish and reward) are used. Another tactic I wouldnt like is "bargaining for sex" in something serious.

Even if I don't want to be a DJ, it's great to learn something new in this world.

My 2C. Enjoy.

 

[libellaswing]

I've been lurking here for a while, the posts are just interesting to me. I think a lot of the guys here are decent, trying to better themselves, and aren't necessarily looking for a shît ton of meaningless one night stands; a lot of focus I think is on how to maintain attraction and respect in a relationship (of course some do seem to focus more on just racking up notches in the bed post, but hey, lots of women are that way too).

I realized after my first boyfriend that I don't want to be "worshipped," I don't want anybody to go on about how "perfect" I am, because that's just silly and far from the truth. The men I've always been most attracted to are those that can...hmm...keep me in line? keep up with me?...when my playful snarkyness borders bîtchiness (by "keep me in line," I don't mean smashing in my face or anything). I need to respect my boyf, as I don't want to wear the pants in a relationship. I shudder to think I might be the most important thing in a man's existence. Everyone should be driven to succeed in various aspects of life, and never depend on one person/thing to produce happiness. This way of thinking is something this site values and that both males and females can benefit from.

I don't think I've treated men differently since lurking sosuave. When I read posts about various tactics, or advice given about what to do in this or that scenario, I usually smirk and think, "yeah, that would probably work on me."

I like this forum, and find myself rooting for a lot of the guys here.

 

[Greasy Pig]

Love the replies girls. They show a great deal of maturity and empathy.
I admit I'm surprised but pleasantly so.
Bravo.

 

[zinc4]

I for one am looking to bang the most beautiful women possible as often as possible and am having moderate success.......

 

[Eternal_water]

I get the impression women read this site for ego boosts.
It should be for men only!

 

[libellaswing]

Thank you Greasy!

As for reading this site for ego boosts, hmm, not at all in my case. If anything it might make me more self-conscious. I mean, I've seen some of you "rate" girls who I would deem very pretty or even stunning, as fives and sixes! Hell, I don't even have Eff-book anymore - didn't feel like faux glamorizing my life and seeing others doing so was wearing. There are a few of us who aren't constantly clamoring for ego boosts and attention (I'm on the shy side, and am vaguely awkward at accepting compliments anyway).

I've noted that threads often seem to spiral out of control when women post, which is why I've mostly refrained from doing so.

 

[SamTheHobit]

I get the impression women read this site for ego boosts.
It should be for men only!

Totally agreed.

 

[pinkfl]

Got some good advice and support after my breakup.
Decided to return the favor and give support and advice to others. I don't pretend to know what all women want or look for, I do not give pickup advice. I work best giving advice for those in relationships, or to those that want one.

I also read this site to be aware of what guys see as "red flags", and also to pick out behavior that indicates that the guy is playing a game with me. It makes me more aware of "Game" strategy.

 

[TheCWord]

It should be for men only!

Totally agreed.

Sounds gay.

 

[JoeMarron]

However I wouldnt like it if we were in something serious and these tactics (example: punish and reward) are used.

Everyone punishes and rewards people in their life. If your friend keeps flaking on you then naturally you're not going to want to hang out with them as much. You might not like it but its necessary if a person wants to live life without being disrespected and taken advantage of.

 

[instantnoodles]

Everyone punishes and rewards people in their life. If your friend keeps flaking on you then naturally you're not going to want to hang out with them as much. You might not like it but its necessary if a person wants to live life without being disrespected and taken advantage of.

Sometimes I make a mistake only once, I'm human. I'm a fast learner so if I make it the first time and I get punished, that's what I'm taking about. I get scared too - "What if I won't be forgiven?" When it was truly a mistake ...

 

[PlayHer Man]

I think women read this site to gather intelligence. They read to understand how men think and how to keep the upper hand in their relationships with men.

You have nothing to lose by knowing MORE about the opposite sex. There is a lot of power in knowing the key weaknesses possessed by the opposite sex and what you are truly capable of doing to them (and getting away with).

I don't buy the "I just want to get along" claims because everyone knows men are extremely low maintenance in relationships. F*ck us, don't cheat, don't get fat, don't be a b!tch and don't complain too much --> We're happy.

Women already knows all this. Not like its a big secret. They don't come to SoSuave to be better women.. they come to learn how to better manipulate men. Why else would you need to gather intelligence on a site like this?

Both genders want to have their cake and eat it too. The more you know about the true nature of the opposite sex.. the more you'll succeed at exploiting them for your benefit. :rock:

Even on THIS site men are easily fooled by the classic innocent charm women are sooooo good at. :crackup: :crackup:

 

[instantnoodles]

They read to understand how men think

This. You do it to learn about women too.

how to keep the upper hand in their relationships with men.

Not this. I wouldn't care to. I don't need to be some dominant figure. That's a guy's job. If I have to do something that requires dominance, sure why not.

everyone knows men are extremely low maintenance in relationships

Too damn general. Generalizing. :crackup:

They don't come to SoSuave to be better women

Too bad. I did. I need to improve, whether this site is for guys and/or girl. Blow steam all you want.

The more you know about the true nature of the opposite sex.. the more you'll succeed at exploiting them for your benefit

Hypocrisy all rolled up and sprinkled with innocent charm at its best

 

[PlayHer Man]

This. You do it to learn about women too.

Never said I didn't.

Not this. I wouldn't care to. I don't need to be some dominant figure. That's a guy's job. If I have to do something that requires dominance, sure why not.

But you definitely want SOME level of power in your relationship right? Otherwise you would just lye on your back and let your man boss you around. In that case.. you need to know very little about men since a submissive pet only has to obey. Right?

Too damn general. Generalizing. :crackup:

Not really. I explained how to please men. No man has come forward to argue against my claim.

Too bad. I did. I need to improve, whether this site is for guys and/or girl. Blow steam all you want.

So what have you learned here? What were you doing wrong before? What changes have you made in your relationships after reading this site?

Do tell.. :yes:

 

[Eternal_water]

Sounds gay.

No. It doesn't.

 

[JohnChops]

Sounds gay.

agreed, here we see another example of the hatred towards women on this site. Christ.

 

[Dedication]

While I like instantnoodles post as it appears to be mature on the surface, I have to agree with PlayHer Man.

Even with all the rational reasoning in a the world, a girl is still a girl.

 

[SamTheHobit]

agreed, here we see another example of the hatred towards women on this site. Christ.

It's a discussion board for MEN and should be just that.

No Hatred whatsoever.

Stop over reacting.