Similarly a man can delude themselves that their 4 inch penis is “good enough”, that having a low status doesn’t matter etc.
The main evolutionary survival mechanism is the ability to see strength as something other.
Women in the early days of humanity would have been saved when their men were murdered by another tribe. They would then become child bearing asset, essentially, of another tribes men.
They therefore evolved mechanisms to develop love with these men. To attach to them.
This is how the woman can delude herself that her violent BF “isn’t a bad guy” or that the violent guy she has a sexual interest “has another side”.
She can delude and rationalise this. It’s where hypergamy comes from.