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Originally posted by Ladiesssman
Peak, what do you do? How do you response? If my girl is this powering and manipulative, I wouldn't know how to handle her.


If she orders you, "go get me a drink." What do you do?

And all those other scenarios that you've shared with us?
what do you do?

"What's the magic word?" ;)
 

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Originally posted by Ladiesssman
Peak, what do you do? How do you response? If my girl is this powering and manipulative, I wouldn't know how to handle her.


If she orders you, "go get me a drink." What do you do?

And all those other scenarios that you've shared with us?
You simply say "No," bluntly. Let her throw her girl-fit and hold your ground. Then she'll think you're super-manly.
 

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a good way of what I did was..

I respect that X is your way.. But Y is my way and that is not going to change... we can still do X.. but I'll let u know that its because "I want" u to be comfortable...

ACCEPTANCE.. BUT FRAME CONTROL.. LEADING AND BEING THE MAN..
 

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hey guys. give me your take on this.

I share a few classes with a hb 8 whom i've known for about a year. she flirts with me often, but shes a little bit of an AW so I dont really want anything thing to do with her romantically, or sexually for that matter. i just consider a buddy a because i dont engage her much.
 

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hey guys. give me your take on this.

I share a few classes with a hb 8 whom i've known for about a year. she flirts with me often, but shes a little bit of an AW so I dont really want anything thing to do with her romantically, or sexually for that matter. i just consider her a buddy because i dont engage her much.

now the real question. i saw her in class a few days ago and i sat in front of her and talked to my friends and her for a lil' bit. when things quiet down a little she says, "raidou, do u like me?" (apparently she has some kind of concern, shes asked me this before) she had a concerned or dissapointed look on her face when she asked. Stupid me. i jus nodded my head like a moron trying not to make her upset(i didnt really want to talk anymore anyway). She didnt say anything else.

could this be a power move? or me jus over analysing as i do often. somehow i think the former is true.
 

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Heres a funny one:

at college, we need to get recertified in first aid

I was talking to one of the girls who is interested in me (shes in the same class, I was telling her when the first aid course was) and she said "ok, why dont u give me the information, or sign me up for it?"
I just looked at her with a "yeah right" expression...
"yes, I will *give you the information*"
like I have time to sign her up for something SHE needs :rolleyes:
 

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1) Telling you explicitly about various guys hitting on her, "stalking" her, her ex's still wanting her, etc etc. Being desired (even by men she has no interest in) boosts her own ego, and telling YOU about it is supposed to make you jealous and DHV.

Good counter here is to see her game for what it is, don't care and point out the fact that these guys are all losers. And even better to flaunt your own BETTER-LOOKING (or whatever she is most competitive with) girls that you're now flirting with too.

2) Getting you to do minute favors for her...mainly just for the powertrip. The trap here is that they're often so small and insignificant, you figure why not, what does it matter? But, that is exactly why you SHOULDN'T do them. Because if it was something she really needed help with, it wouldn't be so trivial. Therefore, it's just a test to see how compliant you are.

Proper response: Do it your damn self. Deal with it. Etc.
 

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I don't do this on purpose, but it works wonders. I never answer my cell phone.

I can't stand being the person sitting, standing, whatever, and starting to ring spontaneously, plus between the blackberry and the phone, I'd never shut off. So I just don't answer the phone because its usually on silent.

I dunno why but it bugs her a lot
 

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Peak said:
Power Move Quotes from my ex (a foreigner to this country) who I have to thank for helping me see the light of day when it comes to women.



When you are trying to have a life away from the gorgeous woman so you can actually spend some time not thinking about her:
"You don't call me often enough. I hate it when guys don't call me at least every two days cause it means that they are trying to play games".

Nah, it probably means their busy with their life

You broke one of her unwritten and quite changeable rules:
"We need to talk".

When you haven't bonked her yet:
"I'm not sure if I want to make love with you or not cause I really need to FEEL totally in love first. I don't understand it but I have been feeling like that only for the last 3 months".

Interesting. Maybe you should see a phycologist for that

When she breaks a date at short notice:
"I called and told your office mate that I couldn't make the date cause I was dragged into urgent meetings at work. I didn't realise the message wouldn't be passed on to you."

my office?? why didn't you call the cell babe?

Her lateness:
"In my country when we make a date we always turn up 20 minutes late, it's normal!"

you're in america now, get with the program

When you wish to retain your precious sporting time:
"Rock climbing [insert the sport you love] is so dangerous do you really have to do it? It makes me feel so uncomfortable and I couldn't be with a guy that may get seriously injured so easily!"

too late :)

When you want to binge drink with your buddies:
"Yeah I don't like it when guys go out in groups drinking, it's ugly. I could never see a guy that does that."

you're already seeing one

When you are drooling to see her naked, but haven't yet:
"I always walk around the house naked when no-one is there, but yesterday my neighbours saw me while I was in the backyard."

LOL! im, sorry, but, man you're dumb *while trying to contain laughter*. Its ok [insert name], you'll learn


When she lies about really being "into" you.
"I called you so many times, you must have been out of your office, so I went out with my friends instead."

Breaking a date well in advance:
"Oh sorry can we put the date off till (3 days later), cause I met some of my country mates at a pub last night and I promised them I would cook them dinner cause they are leaving the state tomorrow. I'm sure you would find it boring and we will be speaking (another language) all night."

make sure to save me some of whatever you're making =)

When she wants physical control:
"I only like to be touched sometimes, depending on my mood. Sometimes I'm really horny that I'm just always wet, but other times I don't want to be touched and I can't predict when either will happen."

I bet I can help you predict *make out with her*

When she wants to make you think you have very strong opposition for her:
"Well I couldn't believe it when he drove fifty kilometres to buy me the bikini I have been looking in the shops for the last 2 weeks. To top it off he bought my brother a stuffed turtle for his birthday, it was so sweet!"

Awesome, can you get him to buy me [object of your choice]?

When she goes out with friends:
"You don't mind if I dance with other guys while I'm out with my friends do you? Well of course they always buy me drinks after but it doesn't mean anything."

yeah i do mind. and don't let them buy you drinks, thats just asking for trouble, trust me

Testing your reaction to her personality traits:
"Well we are so alike that I'm not sure if we are compatible as a couple."

only way to find out babe, give it time

To see if you will breakdown and finally go clothes shopping with her:
Five minutes into a coffe date -- " oh my goodness, I forgot that I needed to buy a new top for tonight. Let's go to the nearby shops are look for one".

you don't need a new top, you're fine

When you have purposely not seen her for a week so that the bytch's interest may have actually got a little higher:
"Well it's been so long since we've seen each other I don't know how I feel anymore"

let me remind you *make out with her*

Her attempts to make you feel even more insecure:
"Well he always gives me single free tickets to (latest sporting or social event you can't afford) so that maybe we can catch up for a drink just to say hello".

go for it

When you finally get some lip smacking from the bytch:
"oh my goodness I have to go otherwise I will miss my bus!.

bye

[This message has been edited by Peak (edited 01-11-2001).]
Don't ever act like their power move bothers you. Always act like you know she's totally into you. Always pretend to believe that her 'power moves' are true. Assuming that her power moves are true (she's never lying or doing anything dishonest), her 'power moves' are usually an indicator of some character flaw. Usually stupidity, phycho-ness, or anxiety. Call her out on that flaw. Make fun of her for it. Never let a power move bother you. Never confront it head on. Always be happy-go-lucky and always be willing to walk away.

What i'd like to do if theirs way too many power moves that I can handle or power moves that I can't handle with my style. At this point I wouldn't care if I ever saw her again. First, Make a date, then make a excuse not to show 3-4 hours before, and stop calling her after that. But don't officially break up with her. If she doesn't ever call back, good. If she does, make her work for you. If she gives you crap, just make an excuse that you have to go. If she wants to go on another date before she proved herself to you, make an excuse not to go to that one too.
 

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goood reversal of the power moves, this is a very good thread. i think we should expand on the topic.
 

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I don't do this on purpose, but it works wonders. I never answer my cell phone.
Ditto, I always have my phone on silent and never answer calls. People always say i'm hard to get-a-hold-of but my girlfriend hates it with a passion and since i'm a shmuck for her wittle cute azn pout, its now on vibrate :(


-Cod3r
 

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Thing with power moves; its ok to agree if you genuinely dont mind doing it, or even if you want to do it.
now on the other hand, the second you feel any kind of obligation, or that sick feeling in your gut telling you that your power is being stripped away, then you say no.
Her: "Hey ADDMAN! lets go to *this restaurant*"
Me: "sounds great, I was actually pretty hungry and in the mood for *whatever kind of food is served at the restaurant*. dont forget your wallet, sugar plum"
Her: ".... ok!"

usually if its a small favor, and they ask politely, I dont mind doing it. if they ask me rudely, or neglect the magic words, then they can do it :)
 

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I have a hair-pin bowl on my nightstand. Girl's always forget them so I just put them all in there. Anytime a girl can't find something for her hair I let her take as many as she wants. I'm not sure if this classifies as a power more (I do have around 20 at the moment :down: ) but my friends find it humourous and my two good female friends love it although they always tease.
 

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Ah jeez - brilliant thread but it just brings up memories of past idiots I've had to throw to the trash. Actually, 99% of threads in here kindle up those memories. :)

It's simple really.. as long as you're not a brute you can easily say "Do it yourself you lazy cow" or "**** that, don't be lazy" etc.

One specific example: Young chick with huge tits who I'm getting to know asks if I will go to the cigerette machine to get her some cigs (it's across the room), I simply told her "**** off, do it yourself!" .. but NOT in a brutal way.. more of a 'No chance' sort-of way.

I also advise making a point of asking them to do things for you - if they do so willingly you know you're on to a good thing - don't do it constantly though they will twig and start refusing and try to game you back! He he.

Tell them "Pass us that DVD" "Just put that DVD in will you" etc.... if a chick has problems that don't allow her to comply with simple sh*t like this throw her in to the garbage.. move on..... she's got ISSUES. You gotta test these girls.

Oh yeah... and if they REFUSE TO WALK THROUGH DOORS THAT YOU OPEN FOR THEM OR THEY TRY TO MAKE A JOKE OF IT........... GET RID OF HER QUICK-SHARP! :)

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Krynnster said:
My girlfriend (okay... I think it's time I started to call her "girlfriend") just pulled the ultimate move on me last weekend: she gave me a key to her apartment. I'm not sure this is exactly a "power move" but it does signify something like "you're mine".

K.
This is not a powermove, it's a powerless move. It says she is yours and insecure. Why would a girl want a guy to be able to pop in whenever he pleases when she is not able to do the same? Lost her mind.
 

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Her: "Let's go shopping."
Me: "OK..." *gets in car and drives down the highway and pulls into adultworld* "Alright, lets go shopping."
Her: "I meant clothes shopping."
Me: "Oh, that sucks. I meant porn shopping. Guess you got to be more direct."

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Her: "Let's go shopping..."
Me: "Alright" *gets into car and drives down to the highway to the shopping mall*
Her: "Let's go to JCPenny's and then..."
Me: "Whoa! I'm going to EB Games and then Suncoast video. Go clothes shopping on your own. Have fun."
Her: " :eek: Wait... Just for a minute or two?"
Me: "I would rather have a circumcision without drugs."

NOTE: I said that in a ****y way. Also, I tell the girls that I am dating upfront that I REFUSE to go clothes shopping anymore and would rather be suprised by what they have on. Not one girl, gives me problems about it.

comic_relief
 

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Her: 'I want Weinerschnitzel!'
Me: Of course you would.

We walk to Weinerschnitzel, about a 10 minute walk..Semi far.

Her, right at the door to Weinerschnitzel: Wait! I think I want some pizza now!
Me: Too bad. *Walks in, starts ordering*

Pretty sure that's a simple way to pass things such as her changing her mind tests. Another way to pass it could've been 'Well now I want some weinerschnitzel'.
 

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WildThang said:
Is there some common thread that makes it easy to improvise an answer to all of these -I mean something more practical and subtle than 'I'm in charge and you're not, and I'm not taking any crap from you'?
Try this ,' I'm in charge and you're not, and I'm not taking any crap from you." :crackup:

Then arm yourself for her inevitable test of your willingness to ENFORCE your rightful leadership.
 
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