Female Blogger tells b!tches "NEVER say thank you!"

[bigneil]

Wow, this woman (in 2010) - (based on the advice of an of course self-serving female) guaranteed any women who follow her don't get a 2nd date with me - all under the opposite headline.

3 Things That Will Ensure a Guy WON'T Ask for Date #2
. NEVER SEND A "THANK YOU" EMAIL (OR TEXT) AFTER A DATE

Here's why, according to (Rachel) Greenwald: "Men told me that while they appreciate the 'thank-you-email,' it ultimately causes them to lose interest in a woman, because men like the chase." And when they get a gracious message the next day, instead of making them think you have great manners, it makes them think you're a little desperate. "Even if he enjoyed your date, the thank-you-email is more deflating than endearing (on average) because, if he liked you too, he'd want to contact you first to pursue you," she says. "The fix? Thank him graciously at the end of the date, but don't steal his thunder the next day." She says if you don't hear from him at all, that simply means he's just not that into you.

I hate to say it, because I like to think we woman should be able to do whatever the hell we want to do ... but I think Greenwald's right.

Girls? Boys? What do you think? Ladies, have you had a good experience after sending a thank-you email?

http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/a3775/dating-rules-thank-you-notes-second-dates/

 

[bigneil]

I find this information absolutely false. Raise your hand if you lose interest in a woman who sends a thank-you text after the FIRST date?

Not only that, I've found that women who don't say thank you never agree to a second date even if I ask! This advice is polar opposite of reality (like I said, men should NEVER take the dating advice of women!)

 

[zekko]

Typical dating advice. Everything is geared toward avoiding any possible suggestion of looking desperate, whether it actually makes them look desperate not.

I also highly doubt that both genders are so in love with the idea of chasing and pursuing (another typical dating advice theme).

 

[Serenity]

Trying to not appear desperate seems just as desperate as the opposite, women who act like normal and well-balanced people are the winners. Because trying to not seem desperate is a part of a game that suggests the exact opposite, if they weren't desperate they would just be cool but instead they go to these lengths trying to game a dude.

Thanking for the time and expressing a desire to see me again certainly worked for my girlfriend. Had she not sent that text it would never have become anything, it wouldn't if she blew up my phone either. She had little experience and didn't follow stupid dating advice, she just did the rational thing and told me what she wanted.

I've seen equally stupid advice on this forum, but it doesn't work any better from a man's side of it. Just imagine if both men and women started playing this game, it would be kinda funny but ultimately tragic. Nobody sending that 'thank you' message, everyone assuming the other lacks interest. Nothing happens if people play stupid games, the game is a deception for people who don't have the courage to expose themselves. It's a way to hide behind a mask, playing someone they're not because they don't think their real selves are good enough.

 

[bigneil]

When it comes to dating, it's analogous to a job interview. Remember: SHE is interviewing YOU for the job. Girls will hate this, but it's true. The man is the employer and the woman is the employee. That is, he will provide her with enough resources to get by IF she does a good job (they hate that part more than anything and it's not true if you are married). It is STANDARD that after any interview (i.e., date) that the candidate send a thank-you letter to the would-be employer.

The woman needs to say something like "Thank you for taking me to that restaurant, it was wonderful!" What is the guy supposed to say: "Thank you for ALLOWING me to take you to that restaurant (AND PAY)"??

Note: my new model didn't thank me after the date - and the next day was her birthday. Do you think I texted happy birthday? Nope. Same thing happened with my last girlfriend, who I took on a third date a few days before her birthday. She got no birthday present.

 

[El Payaso]

SHE is interviewing YOU for the job. Girls will hate this, but it's true. The man is the employer and the woman is the employee.

How can she interview you for a "job" when she is the employee?

 

[bigneil]

How can she interview you for a "job" when she is the employee?

I stand corrected - I meant she is interviewing for the job with you.

 

[El Payaso]

I stand corrected - I meant she is interviewing for the job with you.

Oh, okay.

 

[RangerMIke]

The woman that wrote this is assuming that men are attracted to the same things women are. She is mirroring what SHE finds attractive. It is WOMEN that like to chase... if she does not feel the desire to pursue a man she will not be attracted to him.

Any chick that follows this advice will end up with a man she will quickly tire of... sure it is nice to have someone that will fawn all over you, but with women sooner of later they hate that sh!t.

 

[bigneil]

The woman that wrote this is assuming that men are attracted to the same things women are. She is mirroring what SHE finds attractive.

Exactly. This is also what explains why women get covered in tattoos. We're lucky hot men don't wear eye patches anymore.

UPDATE - RangerMike revealed that marieclaire unwittingly revealed exactly how women think - all I had to do was reverse the pronouns:

Here's why, according to (SS): "WOMEN told me that while they appreciate the 'thank-you-email,' it ultimately causes them to lose interest in a MAN, because WOMEN like the chase." And when they get a gracious message the next day, instead of making them think you have great manners, it makes them think you're a little desperate. "Even if SHE enjoyed your date, the thank-you-email is more deflating than endearing (on average) because, if SHE liked you too, SHE'D want to contact you first to pursue you," (SS) says. "The fix? Thank HER graciously at the end of the date, but don't steal HER thunder the next day." (SS) says if you don't hear from HER at all, that simply means SHE'S just not that into you.

 

[Urbanyst]

Sh*t tests and mind games all day. The usual procedure of being as dishonest, fraudulent and indirect as possible.

Everything wrong with today's culture stems from the fact that women and men have become rivals rather than teammates. Everyone is more miserable as a result. You think the red pill sucks? Women are even more miserable about today's dating market and dating culture than men. Supposedly women are more unhappy today than most times in history. But they don't see how the dysfunctional decisions they make every day play a role in their misery.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Machiavelli would have orgasm after orgasm dealing with todays women, that would be one fvcked up paradise of plots and deception day after day.

 

[SmooveMooves]

To be fair this is 7 year old advice.

Women are probably giving out even more retarded advice on modern dating help websites.