Female AFCs and how to handle them.

[Greasy Pig]

I relented on Saturday and fvcked a chick who's been pursuing me for a while.
She's probably a HB7.5, fit, small and dirty.
But since we fvcked she's been texting sh1t like:
"You know you can do no wrong in my eyes."
"I'll always think you're wonderful"
"you know I put you on a pedestal"

It reminds me of me before I took the red pill.

I'm finding it hard to know how to deal with it.

The less I respond to her, the more she says this kind of sh1t.

Any others with similar experiences? How did you deal with it?

 

[jhl]

Depends man. You've been on this forum for 1.5+ years so I'm gonna give you the benefit of the doubt that you aren't asking this q b/c she's a super problematic insecure girl.

If that's the case however, you pump and dump.

If that's not and she's legit and likes you and vice versa then I would give her a bit less than what she wants and reciprocate back. Somewhere in the range of 50-80% but you gotta calibrate based on girl and reaction.

My gut guess tells me that you don't like her that much based on the tone of the post though. You're thinking on the lines of FB right?

 

[Greasy Pig]

Definitely not keen on pursuing anything serious. She's likeable and good in bed, I just fear that her verbalising her high opinion of me is bordering on bunny boiler, BPD kind of sh1t.
I reckon I send 1 text to her five and she doesn't give a fvck.
Was wondering if other guys had experienced this treatment and how it worked out in the end.

 

[SecondHalf]

Ironic, just the kind of nutcase that could fix me right up for a spell.
Have to admit though, the last pathetic I ever had, I couldn't take after a while and dumped her.

But, yep, for now, she'd be ideal!

SH

 

[Greasy Pig]

Update: fvcked her again at the weekend. She was hanging around me at a bar and I literally told her to fvck off and leave me alone.
Anyway, an hour later I leave to go home and she's still outside in the cold waiting for me. I again told her to leave but she followed me home (I was walking). So I was drunk and fvcked her again.

I've told her dozens of times that I don't want a relationship with her and twice she has said: "fine, it's over" but then begged me to fvck her again.
Yesterday, in desperation, I told her I couldn't give her exclusivity because I was fvcking other women.
She said she couldn't accept that and would leave me alone.
Then today she texts and says she's been thinking and doesn't mind if I fvck other women just as long as I keep fvcking her!!

I wouldn't say she's exhibiting classic BPD behaviour but I feel sorry for her that she just won't stick up for herself and move on.
She is female AFC.

 

[SecondHalf]

An unbreakable plate.
Handy!

Any chance she could go fatal attraction on you?

SH

 

[Greasy Pig]

I'm not sure. The real reason I'm not committing to her is that a mutual friend told me this plate has suffered depression in the past.
I really get the feeling that she sees me as her way out of the doldrums but I don't want to be that emotional crutch.

 

[TWG2]

She is the want-what-I-can't-have type.

These sorts of people fantasize all day long about someone or something that is totally out of their reach and for them fantasy becomes reality. In fact, the fantasy becomes more important than reality. They will use the fantasy as a decision making tool in their lives.

Having sex with her is a mistake as well. I know it sounds stupid but sex releases hormones that can cause them to become obsessive. So you get that 'I'm so in love with you' 'look I wrote a poem for you on your Facebook wall' bull****.

Getting into a relationship with her - especially if you have nothing in common - is a monstrous mistake because it will kill the fantasy. As a woman once told me 'marriage is loving your man when he's sitting on the couch eating chips and watching football with a finger up his nose'. Women like you are talking about who are big on fantasy can't love that sort of man and when you add that there isn't much in common interests to hold the relationship together...

Basically it's not gonna work and you already know this. If you felt that she was right for you you'd be with her.

 

[konmai]

She is female AFC.

That or one of those chics... you know the kind that's all over you but the moment you fall for them, bam... they are no longer interested in you. I've personally never met a female AFC.

 

[Greasy Pig]

She says sh1t like: "I just want to take care of you"; "I can't stop thinking about you"; "I've been raised to know that women have to make men happy".

It's sad really. It will eventually get to the stage where I'm going to have to be a complete cvnt to her.

 

[Burroughs]

sounds like a needy, imbalanced girl....is she asian perhaps?

be cautious

 

[Uberguy]

Having sex with her is a mistake as well. I know it sounds stupid but sex releases hormones that can cause them to become obsessive. So you get that 'I'm so in love with you' 'look I wrote a poem for you on your Facebook wall' bull****.

^This. If you keep having sex with her, she's going to keep coming after you. So if you want this to stop, the sex has to stop. Thinking you can just have casual sex with her w/o her thinking she has a chance for something more won't work. It'd be like leaving food all over your house, and then wondering why you have ants.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OkebxEVP8cw

 

[ilikecharlene]

AFC doesn't apply to women, since men are supposed to lead (despite what modern PC society says).

I would say she really likes you and wants more. the question here though is do you?

It's best to come clean with her, and say you only wanted a **** but you still want to be friends. I would also say she seems needy. Would this be her first relationship? Has she not dated in a while?

 

[Greasy Pig]

She's not Asian and her last boyfriend treated her like sh1t, cheating on her, rejecting her and then begging her to come back and all that.
I've been completely and bluntly honest with her from the start. Told her I'm a bachelor and that wasn't going to change.
She said she appreciates the honesty but still wants to fvck me. Poor, misguided girl just has no self esteem.

As I predicted, I had to be a cvnt to her last night. She rocked up to the bar I normally hang at and starts trying to kiss me. I literally had to put my forearm to her throat to stop her kissing me.
I took her outside and told her she was embarrassing herself and me but she was so out of it she couldn't comprehend. Just kept saying she didn't care and she just wanted sex.
I spent the best part of an hour telling her it was unhealthy to think that way and she would just get hurt. She's a nice girl and I told her I didn't want to put her thru any more pain.
Still she wouldn't leave me alone.
Eventually I said: "Look, I'm single and I'm fvcking other women. You say you don't care if I fvck other women? Well, I'm going to try to crack on to your friend. I guarantee you do not want to be with a man who would do that."
She said she still wouldn't care so I walked straight up to her friend (who doesn't know I'd already fvcked her friend) and within an hour I was kissing her outside.

Got the number and then 10 mins later, Girl 1 is back and telling me I should totally go for her friend and saying this while trying to grab my d1ck.

I really feel sorry for her. She must have absolutely no concept of self worth and it's sad.

 

[timmylivingalie]

I relented on Saturday and fvcked a chick who's been pursuing me for a while.
She's probably a HB7.5, fit, small and dirty.
But since we fvcked she's been texting sh1t like:
"You know you can do no wrong in my eyes."
"I'll always think you're wonderful"
"you know I put you on a pedestal"

It reminds me of me before I took the red pill.

I'm finding it hard to know how to deal with it.

The less I respond to her, the more she says this kind of sh1t.

Any others with similar experiences? How did you deal with it?

I had a chic do that too me back in my early twenties so became obsessed and stalked me day and night. She finally saw me holding hands with a hot chic at the carnival and after that she started leaving me alone.

 

[speed dawg]

I've found that you must up your game even further to deal with these low-self esteem types. The lower the self-esteem, the further into 'Jerk' mode you have to go.

Seems like you're doing the right things.

 

[Boilermaker]

Female AFC ?


Never heard of the term.

Probably because it doesn't exist, and it never will..

 

[origin138]

She's not Asian and her last boyfriend treated her like sh1t, cheating on her, rejecting her and then begging her to come back and all that.
I've been completely and bluntly honest with her from the start. Told her I'm a bachelor and that wasn't going to change.
She said she appreciates the honesty but still wants to fvck me. Poor, misguided girl just has no self esteem.

As I predicted, I had to be a cvnt to her last night. She rocked up to the bar I normally hang at and starts trying to kiss me. I literally had to put my forearm to her throat to stop her kissing me.
I took her outside and told her she was embarrassing herself and me but she was so out of it she couldn't comprehend. Just kept saying she didn't care and she just wanted sex.
I spent the best part of an hour telling her it was unhealthy to think that way and she would just get hurt. She's a nice girl and I told her I didn't want to put her thru any more pain.
Still she wouldn't leave me alone.
Eventually I said: "Look, I'm single and I'm fvcking other women. You say you don't care if I fvck other women? Well, I'm going to try to crack on to your friend. I guarantee you do not want to be with a man who would do that."
She said she still wouldn't care so I walked straight up to her friend (who doesn't know I'd already fvcked her friend) and within an hour I was kissing her outside.

Got the number and then 10 mins later, Girl 1 is back and telling me I should totally go for her friend and saying this while trying to grab my d1ck.

I really feel sorry for her. She must have absolutely no concept of self worth and it's sad.

Sounds like a BPD girl. The more you push away and introduce other plates, the more she'll want you. Pretend you're falling for her and she'll go away.

 

[backbreaker]

the thing is very few women actually have game they don't have to have it.

if you were in a place with 10 guys and there were 30 girls and there were only 3 attractive guys out of the 10 you never would really have to develop game beucase just being one of the 3 the women are going to be fighting over you regardless of what you do or do not do. This is the predicament most attractive women are in.

dealing with a hot women is like selling a car to an ******* or jerk client. They will give you this facade or this *****/******* sheild beucase that's what they know how to do but once you are able to get past that, they don't' have anything left because they have never had to have anything else.

lol this is a really funny analogy but it's really true. What's a video game I know everyone here has played. .. you remember bald bull from Mike Tyson's punch out? when you first get to him he has that little freaking charge and he has those heavy punches that will knock you out and you are like god damn glass joe wasn't this hard or that don flamingo dude, but after you play it a while and you realize okay he is going to rotate what hands he throw the punches with and you realize that you can hit him when he does the rush at the right time and stun him and knock his ass out, lol he really doesn't have antyhing left. that's what a hot woman is like. she will give you the "i'm a high value woman" punch by not giving youa ll of her attention or / and continue to see other dudes, then she will give you the my ex boyfriend combo and once you have played the game long enough and figured out how to dodge those 2 moves, she has one a mike tyson esque combo move up her sleave, and that's the you need to commmet card. and that motherfvcker is a KO if it lands lol.

but once you get past these three speical moves.. they are just about all the same. you can knock them out at your will.

 

[Greasy Pig]

Hate to sound like a broken record but she's back texting today how she realises it's just sex and that's all she wants.

But I agree with some of the posters. I think if I did pledge my allegiance to her and gave her the relationship she craves, she would end up despising me.

And I liked the analogy of her ending up with an abusive pimp who feeds her feelings of worthlessness. By the sounds of it, her last boyfriend preyed on that.
I'm determined not to fvck her again. My biggest weakness is that I get super horny when I'm drunk and she is really filthy in bed.

Must. Be. Strong.

Besides, her friend who I kissed at the weekend is a hard 8.5 with 10/10 teats. I just want to bury my face in them. :-D