Fell for my mistress.... Damn it !.....

[sodbuster]

I had a wife go cold on me. It had nothing to do with "losing alpha" or any other "pick up BS". Sometimes it takes a few years for her "programming" to show through. You know, the man is always wrong, even if he isn't.... that kind of BS. Her dad PROBABLY smacked his wife around on occasion when she got too out of line. That wasn't in my nature{since I wasn't raised in a "hit your wife environment"}

I told her that I wanted 2 kids, she married me, then wanted to change the deal after the first one. I told her I planned on having 2 kids. You agreed with it, If it isn't with you, it can be with someone else. I told her that in marriage counseling .... ALPHA enough for you?

I think he needs to cut the first one loose..... TELL her he wants a Divorce. See if it jars her back to reality.... AFTER he has his finances nailed down, accounts that SHE can't empty as a parting gift....

 

[HeadLightsOn]

SS is becoming full of moralistic commentators. If someone posts their home truths, you don't have to agree with what they're saying. But can we cut the high and mighty moral preaching? People cheat on other people all the time, sexually and non sexually. And the many many reasons for doing so are simply not black and white.

We stay with people that we may not be (sexually) attracted to for all sorts of reasons. If you remove children from the equation,there are still a myriad of reasons why a person will stay with another, while having a second life elsewhere. The Catholic Church is good at guilt tripping, but we should keep that attitude off this forum. I've said it once and I'll say it again:

If you're going to cheat, don't drag your sorry guilt back home and affect the lives of those around and close to you. Keep you own guilt locked within you and don't destroy someone else's life. If you can't do that - don't cheat.

 

[Dingo]

Lots of varied and interesting opinions. Thanks.

I kept the post short... I don't know what else I can add. Basically... If you play be prepared to pay an emotional price.

We will take it to its inevitable conclusion.... Unfortunately whatever happens there is going to be pain.... SS has helped me prepare for that. Pain is temporary and I/we will survive.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Lots of varied and interesting opinions. Thanks.

I kept the post short... I don't know what else I can add. Basically... If you play be prepared to pay an emotional price.

We will take it to its inevitable conclusion.... Unfortunately whatever happens there is going to be pain.... SS has helped me prepare for that. Pain is temporary and I/we will survive.

I don't think your wife is a good partner. If she was she wouldn't be cold. I can't imagine her financial assistance is that great and she definitely does not help your morale.

 

[LiveFreeX]

Cheaters will use any rationale they can to justify their lifestyle.