Feild Report--- Want your comments.....

[hb]

Alright I was coming home from work yesterday, by train (if you guys are not from NY just visualize it as a public bus).
I was dressed very very well. I was in business atire, grayish color suit with gold pinstripes and a nice bright yellow shirt. I had my tie untied, untucked my shirt for that laid back relaxed look. I get on the train and I see this pretty pretty thing. Cute figure gorgeous face nice hair....... EVERYTHING. So im sitting on the train and my stop is about 10 minutes away. For the first 8 minutes im just sitting there STARING at her. Not avoiding eye contact. Shes looking back. She eventually got intimidated and looked down. Im sitting accross from her and im trying to force myself to find the perfect way to talk to her. Nothings coming to mind. The last thing i wanted to do was talk to her and have everyone hear me.
Two minutes before my stop I said fvck it. I got up and sat RIGHT next to her. She flashed a smile. I simply said hi, may i ask you your name, you had me admiring your beauty that whole time.
At this time everyone was just watching me kick game to this girl, I just blanked them out and didnt pay attention to them.
This is kinda funny, the first thing she said was Im kinda too young for you. (i thought she was too old for me) She told me her age and i was like na thats perfect and i pulled out my ID So i was talkin to her and what not, and sure enough I missed my stop but i didnt care. I asked her if she would like to give me her number. She paused for a second and said

her: i would but i have a boyfriend
me: So what, I dont care if you got a man.
her: but i dont think he'd be cool with that.
me: Ok well then how about you just give me your number and we can talk as friendz
(She pauses)
me: alright if you dont wanna give me your number thats alright
her: ok i'll give you my number

I give her my phone and she enters it

I smile, say nice talkin to you, she smiles back and i leave just in time. I ended up walking the journey back

The funny thing is, when i first saw her sitting there, i knew i wanted to have her, and it took me quite a while to just say **** it and get and sit next to her. I was quite nervous thinking about talkin to her but as soon as I got up to sit next to her, everything seemed to flow well, and i wasnt nervous anymore!

I can just imagine what the rest of those AFC'S sitting around me were thinking....................

(Getting numbers isnt quite as hard as the next step. The next step of meeting them is usually where i fail. Its usually phone convos where I dont know what to say that messes me up. I also usually call them a week later. Contrary to what most believe, i have come to realize that if a girl looks good and has guys hit on her, they dont sit there and wonder why this boy hasnt called. I dont think im gonna wait too long to call)

She also has a bf, how the fvck am i gonna make this work??

 

[NoBull]

me: alright if you dont wanna give me your number thats alright
her: ok i'll give you my number

That reverse-psycology always works, good job.

She could be lying about the whole boy-friend thing 'cause you're just a stranger, so call her up, talk to her and try to find out for sure.

But my suggestion is, stay the f*ck away from women with boy-friends, it's just disrespectful for the guy, but you can throw in one of those "If you ever break up, you know who to call " lines.

 

[biker_gixxer]

Nice work bro. You were feeling anxious about approaching her, but did it anyway. Sweet.

Keep using that confident tone if and when you talk to her and you'll be fine. I bet you were feeling like a million bucks after getting of the train right? Well, hold on to that feeling, especially when you talk to her again. Play the scenario again in your mind and any doubt or nervousness you might have will be replaced with confidence.

As far as phone conversations go, run scenario's through your mind on how it might go, the things she may say and what your responses will be. I've used this method before and it works wonders.

The BF thing might have been a test to see how you react. Their may not be a boyfriend, lol.

 

[hb]

Why would she lie about having a bf, and lets say she was lying, since i said "i dont care if u have a man", i sound like a playa. Another thing is, i dont know how to seel the deal. A chick gotta be comfortable with you before she decides that she wants to chill. I cant just call and ask her if she wants to hang out. I will most likely get turned down. hmmm what to do???

 

[peter_g]

Grow up

Good job, you bugged a girl enough till you gave you a number just to shut you up!!!

Are you that desperate that you have to keep bugging a girl even after she tells you that she has a bf!!!!!!!

Even if she was lying about having a bf, haven't you realized yet that girls don't like to flat out say no and will just make up an excuse if they are not interested!!!!

You are probably the kind of guy who steps out of the shower to take a piss!!!!!!!

 

[hb]

um yeaa and the number is real, i called it already. If she didnt want to give me it, she coulda just gave me a fake number cause im probably never gonna see this chick again.

You got the type of mindset that makes u AFC. If u havent learned anything by now then let me tell you this. How many girls do you know that are fvckin a guy or have fvcked a guy that they werent attracted to at first site? (i knew she was feeling me from the start due to the eye contact) Um Do you know any girls to begin with?

 

[peter_g]

Dude!!!!

Dude, you basically said that you stared at this girl for 8 minutes straight!!! I think she probably was freaking out because you wouldn't quit staring!!!! Just because a girl looks at you doesn't mean anything!!!!

Like i said before, you are the kind of guy who steps out of the shower to take a piss!!!

 

[peter_g]

wait

Wait I almost forgot!!!!

YOU CALLED HER THE NEXT DAY!!! YOU ARE SUCH AN AFC!!! HAVEN'T YOU LEARNED ANYTHING FROM THIS PAGE, REMEMBER EVERYBODY ON HER SAYS THAT IF YOU CALL HER THE NEXT DAY YOU ARE AN AFC, AND YOU SHOULD WAIT ABOUT A WEEK TO CALL HER!!!

 

[Tempest]

i say, call her up with the intentions of JUST BEING FRIENDS. keep the conversation brief. like the other guy said, plan out the situations that could happen on the phone (not just the phone, but when meeting her as well). know what you're going to say, what you're going to talk about, where you're going to meet, what you're going to say to something you KNOW she's going to say to you, ect.

next time she says, "i have a boyfriend" or "i just want to be friends", just comeback with "great, 'cuz i bet you have a lot of hot, single girlfriends, and you're going to introduce me to each and every one of them!". or you could've simply just said, "who said anything about being your boyfriend?"

another thing which i specifically have learned from DYD which i've been using with EVERY girl is...

right before you hang up the phone with her (after you've made all the plans, ect), just say "great, i'm looking forward to thursday night. if anything else, we can just be FRIENDS." hang up, and don't talk to her until the meeting date. this is IMPORTANT. boom, suddenly it triggers her to thinking, "wtf, a guy that's actually interested in just being friends with me? is there something wrong with me? why isn't he interested in me like all the other losers?" this is something she probably has NEVER heard before. and then during the date, continue to hint at things to her about just being friends.

remember, it's OKAY to just make friends with girls. you learn from it. you meet new people from it. it's practice and it's FUN.

 

[hb]

um actually called her the second day, just about an hour ago d!ckkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk

One of your replies to a post, i just did a quick search and i see you seem to have low self esteem

"Dude, sorry to tell you, but this whole site is based on a bunch of guys who think way to positive, no matter how ****y your smirk is, or how you dress or how much cologne you use, or how funny you try to be, people are labled early in life and that label sticks with you through out your whole life."

"That is not to say you cannot get a girl, but it will be hard to do."

RIGHTTT PETER, BECAUSE GIRLS ARE LIKE ROCKET SCIENCE! They are the hardest thing to get. okay now stop fvckin up my post fag.

 

[peter_g]

shower

Dude, don't you have anything better to do than to do a search of my previous postings??? You could be out hitting on every girl that looks at you!!!!

Once again!!!! You are the kind of guy who steps out of the shower to take a piss!!!

 

[farstrider]

Re: wait

Originally posted by peter_g
Wait I almost forgot!!!!

YOU CALLED HER THE NEXT DAY!!! YOU ARE SUCH AN AFC!!! HAVEN'T YOU LEARNED ANYTHING FROM THIS PAGE, REMEMBER EVERYBODY ON HER SAYS THAT IF YOU CALL HER THE NEXT DAY YOU ARE AN AFC, AND YOU SHOULD WAIT ABOUT A WEEK TO CALL HER!!!

i will have to disagree, you can call the chick anytime, what makes a person an AFC is when hes being desperate,needy, oneitis,read too much into ****, etc... if he was calling in a mindset thats more detached, self centered and know what hes doing then it wouldnt matter that much? i mean why stick this label of AFC to someone just becuz he called that chick the next day? so does that mean a person who kept thinking about a chick but wait 4 days to call is less of an afc than a guy who doesnt give a **** and do whatever he wants, hence calling her the next day? i think what seperate dj from afc is more about the mindset instead of sticking to the rules

 

[Heizen]

Re: wait

Originally posted by peter_g
Wait I almost forgot!!!!

YOU CALLED HER THE NEXT DAY!!! YOU ARE SUCH AN AFC!!! HAVEN'T YOU LEARNED ANYTHING FROM THIS PAGE, REMEMBER EVERYBODY ON HER SAYS THAT IF YOU CALL HER THE NEXT DAY YOU ARE AN AFC, AND YOU SHOULD WAIT ABOUT A WEEK TO CALL HER!!!

Those arnt hard and fast rules, and if she didnt want to give her number to him, she wouldnt have said anything when he said "Fine, you dont have to give me your number" It could have been a sh!t test for all you know; but from the looks of your posting (and postings) well, you dont

Good job HB!

 

[eric66]

Wtf women do tests to..? aw man this is so fustratingly gay!!!!

 

[NoBull]

Wait I almost forgot!!!!

YOU CALLED HER THE NEXT DAY!!! YOU ARE SUCH AN AFC!!! HAVEN'T YOU LEARNED ANYTHING FROM THIS PAGE, REMEMBER EVERYBODY ON HER SAYS THAT IF YOU CALL HER THE NEXT DAY YOU ARE AN AFC, AND YOU SHOULD WAIT ABOUT A WEEK TO CALL HER!!!

A real DJ doesn't give a f*ck. He calls the same day, next day, 35 hours later, it doesn't matter.

An AFC however; gets her number, and then waits exactly 5-7 days to call. That trick is catching on, it's becoming very predictable.
IMO, 5-7 days is a long time, and she'll most likely lose interest then, and probably forget about you.

A DJ doesn't need rules to govern his game. Though, these rules can sometimes be good for an aspiring DJ.

*EDITED*

 

[chicksrock]

I don't know what the fvck everyone else is ranting on about in this thread.


FIRSTLY:...hb...great work in getting the # ! You were smooth as hell.....inspirational stuff......that was as cold as an approach gets and you handled the situation really well....

So I don't see why you have doubts in your head that you can't keep good conversations on the phone/date her or any other woman for that matter....

Just be as smooth as you were on that train and you will be fine!

good luck!

 

[NoBull]

It's all good, you've read my replies, but I missed this part:

So im sitting on the train and my stop is about 10 minutes away. For the first 8 minutes im just sitting there STARING at her

what the fu(k is this??
what was going through your mind for 8 minutes? I sense hesitation. In your next approaches, get over that.

 

[FreeStyleZ]

Peter, you're an idiot.

 

[Golden Arms]

hb - well you approached, which is more than 90 % of guys on this site would've done - props for that

peter - what is your obsession with pissing in the shower ? Go to find a urination forum where you can post about that all day long

 

[AMF]

Re: Grow up

Originally posted by peter_g
I'm a total ****