Feeling like it is too late to become a DJ ...

[Firefly]

I am 35 years old, and suddenly feel like it is too late for me to ever become a DJ. There are some advantages that I still possess:

1. Good education
2. Look very young for my age (Usually get mid- to late-twenties)
3. Invovled in media, so get lots of backstage passes, invites to movie premieres etc.


but I feel there is still so much for me to overcome

4. Muscular but still chubby physique
5. Lack of a proper social group. Have a lot of female friends but many of them tend to undercut me when I am with other women, so can;t use them as social proof.
6. Lack of "exciting" hobbies - No experience in motorbike riding, skydiving or any of those things that women seen to consider "manly"

Any suggestions or tips?

 

[jophil28]

I am 35 years old, and suddenly feel like it is too late for me to ever become a DJ. There are some advantages that I still possess:

1. Good education
2. Look very young for my age (Usually get mid- to late-twenties)
3. Invovled in media, so get lots of backstage passes, invites to movie premieres etc.


but I feel there is still so much for me to overcome

4. Muscular but still chubby physique
5. Lack of a proper social group. Have a lot of female friends but many of them tend to undercut me when I am with other women, so can;t use them as social proof.
6. Lack of "exciting" hobbies - No experience in motorbike riding, skydiving or any of those things that women seen to consider "manly"

Any suggestions or tips?

Too old ? What!
You are 16 years behind me - start running kiddo..

 

[Colossus]

There is no such thing as too old.

First of all, why do you hang out with women who undercut you?

Second, dont take up a hobby just because it would be 'exciting' to women. I'll tell you right now that if I had the money my a$$ would be on a motorcycle anytime the roads are dry and the temp is above 55. Motorcycling is something I love to do...it's in my blood. But, Im poor and can barely afford to buy what I need, so that will have to wait.

Dude, 35 is not that old. You could potentially be living the most awesome Man-life right now if you work at it.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Have a lot of female friends but many of them tend to undercut me when I am with other women

Only because you let them. Insult them right back. They will respect you for it.

 

[romangod]

I am 35 years old, and suddenly feel like it is too late for me to ever become a DJ. There are some advantages that I still possess:

1. Good education
2. Look very young for my age (Usually get mid- to late-twenties)
3. Invovled in media, so get lots of backstage passes, invites to movie premieres etc.


but I feel there is still so much for me to overcome

4. Muscular but still chubby physique
5. Lack of a proper social group. Have a lot of female friends but many of them tend to undercut me when I am with other women, so can;t use them as social proof.
6. Lack of "exciting" hobbies - No experience in motorbike riding, skydiving or any of those things that women seen to consider "manly"

Any suggestions or tips?

The things you are concerned about can be easily overcome. Make working out your hobby and that'll take care of two of your concerns. You'll get in shape and may even make some friends you can hang out with. I'm still concerned about why you don't have any good male friends. To me, this is more important than transient relationships with disloyal females. Girls come and go but a good friend is priceless. Good luck.


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[Colossus]

Also---female "friends"??

Read The Ladder Theory.

 

[Magma]

There is no such thing as too old.

First of all, why do you hang out with women who undercut you?

Second, dont take up a hobby just because it would be 'exciting' to women. I'll tell you right now that if I had the money my a$$ would be on a motorcycle anytime the roads are dry and the temp is above 55. Motorcycling is something I love to do...it's in my blood. But, Im poor and can barely afford to buy what I need, so that will have to wait.

Dude, 35 is not that old. You could potentially be living the most awesome Man-life right now if you work at it.

I wholeheartedly agree. As with the motorcycle example, I had no experience with them up until five years ago. Then I decided to nut up and buy one. I chopped the sh1t out of it, taught myself how to weld and fab on metal, and created one b1tching chop (think "The Horse Backstreet Choppers" magazine). Now, I can't imagine my life without it. Basically, I've become a "lone wolf" with my bike and that attitude attracts women. In addition, they look at that bike and say, "You did that!?" Oh yeah, I also ski, fly fish, make concrete countertops on the side, spend multiple days in the backcountry, and teach history to middle schoolers (among other things). My lifestyle does not permit boredom to occur.

Just find something that interests you and do it. Plain and simple. The secondary benefits from engaging in a fun, unique, and exciting activity will blow your mind. Your inner game will skyrocket, and in turn, you will attract more women.

Carpe Diem! Do something today! Right now! It's your life. Start living it, brother.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Here's a Chinese proverb for you - You know when the best time to plant a tree is? 30 years ago. You know when the second best time is? Now.

 

[KontrollerX]

"Feeling like it is too late to become a DJ ..."

Nonsense.

We got guys over 50 here that run circles around the younger guys in the DJ game.

4. Muscular but still chubby physique
5. Lack of a proper social group. Have a lot of female friends but many of them tend to undercut me when I am with other women, so can;t use them as social proof.
6. Lack of "exciting" hobbies - No experience in motorbike riding, skydiving or any of those things that women seen to consider "manly"

Any suggestions or tips?"

Suggestions and tips...

4. Do cardio and cut calories until the fat is gone.

5. Cut loose the dead weight that holds you back from being the man you want to be. Friends that "undercut" you aren't friends at all. These people want to keep you down to a certain level so they can feel better about themselves by being above you.

6. Do what you want to do for a hobby and don't think you have to do everything at once. Pick something you've always wanted to do and then find an instructor to teach you how to do it. If you think you need a hobby though to get chicks forget about it. Only get a hobby if you are genuinely passionate about something and want to learn more about it and experience it for yourself.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

I am 35 years old, and suddenly feel like it is too late for me to ever become a DJ.

Then why does your user profile show you're 27?

 

[LoneSilver]

Insecurity maybe about his age and being here and putting a lower age bracket even though a fib of sorts makes him sort of lurk and fit in but deep inside he's feeling like an outcast if he puts his real age makes him appear inexperienced etc.

It takes balls and confidence to come to a place like this when most are younger your not really sure how you'll be recieved.

Take me for example I'll be 49 in April coming here for advice from someone younger is a bit testing but not everything is black and white in a man's life.

Maybe years of being married then divorced for alot of men older come here to get back into the game of dating or stupid religious teachings brainwashed alot of men into thinking a certain way or in my case a disability crops into your life where your being tested on your game and how it effects it with women as well as with men because strangers don't know your story in social settings and if you show up looking like someone pissed at the world and your not but the disability makes you look it life will set you back until you regain control in yourself.

It's like your foundation cracks and you have to fill in the cracks and coming here it does make a difference in my case but I still question alot of what I read especially if one doesn't have a clue of having a disability effects ones life with women but maybe I'm in the wrong place and should move on to a disabilities forum or something.

Just my thoughts but only the OP can answer for himself.

LoneSilver

Then why does your user profile show you're 27?

 

[joekerr31]

dude, there are 80 year olds who act like DJs.

right now there's some old man in the nursing home pinching the nurses butts and flirting with every woman he meets.

too many people look at being DJ as an 'act' you put on to close women. instead it shoudl be seen as a way of being. getting up every morning and living life to the fullest.

see a woman that you like, flirt with her, see where it goes and just go with the flow.

i mean, your question in essence is kind of like asking "guys, im 35 and feel kind of old. i saw an awesome car today and thought of buying it, but then i thought, naw, im 35, i should probably buy a mini van"

i mean, WTF, theres no way you'd ever say that to yourself right? you'd never see something in the store window that you wanted and not buy it cuz of your age right?

so when you see a woman that you like why would you not 'buy' her (figuratively speaking). why would you deny yourself something that you wanted simply because of age.

btw - i do know where you are coming from on this. i feel the same way sometimes. it gets tough as you get older to keep ones excitement over life up. but its the key to living - you gotta get up and appreciate everything around you and enjoy it all.

 

[joekerr31]

Here's a Chinese proverb for you - You know when the best time to plant a tree is? 30 years ago. You know when the second best time is? Now.

RT, i love these things. you should start a thread with 'profound sayings'

they always put me in a positive mood.

 

[Last Man Standing]

I am 35 years old, and suddenly feel like it is too late for me to ever become a DJ. There are some advantages that I still possess:

1. Good education
2. Look very young for my age (Usually get mid- to late-twenties)
3. Invovled in media, so get lots of backstage passes, invites to movie premieres etc.

I don't see what your problem is! Me thinks it's your attitude and perspective!!!

 

[grinder]

It been a while since I posted here and I do plan on getting back here some more to share the positive results of what I have learned here.

But I have simply been to busy, too happy, and my plates literally runneth over.

All I tell ya Firefly is to read, practice in real life, share, pay attention to what you are told, and get back out there and practice some more. Never stop.

At 49 I have encountered very few obstacles that had not been in place since I was 20 anyway. They were all (as they always are) internal.

The concepts and principles here are universal and yes they do work.

 

[jophil28]

You all want to feel good and alive?
Go to a SAlsa class a few times, Most of the women are under 30 and hot. When you are dancing you get to put your hands over every part of her upper body for three minutes and at the end of the song she smiles and says ,"thank you " ..Then another chicka moves along in front of you, another song is played and you do it all again...more smiles and then, "thank you "...

Tough gig, but I do it because I am a charitable ,caring guy. Ha !

 

[Mr.Positive]

You all want to feel good and alive?
Go to a SAlsa class a few times, Most of the women are under 30 and hot. When you are dancing you get to put your hands over every part of her upper body for three minutes and at the end of the song she smiles and says ,"thank you " ..Then another chicka moves along in front of you, another song is played and you do it all again...more smiles and then, "thank you "...

Tough gig, but I do it because I am a charitable ,caring guy. Ha !

Not to get offtopic, but Jophil, I've been meaning to ask you something about this..

I've been wanting to take salsa lessons for awhile. Do you go alone, with a buddy, or bring a date?

I've been thinking of asking a "plate" of mine to go, but you have me thinking of possibly taking the lessons solo....to savor the dance with a hot chicka.

 

[MacAvoy]

I went to a group salsa class once. It was awesome, however it was organized by a group that I use to hang out with. We went to a local mexican restaurant, had a great meal, then had a dude give us lessons. It was a great mixer, everyone was new to it so it was perfect opportunity to dance with a bunch of hot strange women.

I'd be interested in doing it again.

 

[Mr.Positive]

I am 35 years old, and suddenly feel like it is too late for me to ever become a DJ. There are some advantages that I still possess:

1. Good education
2. Look very young for my age (Usually get mid- to late-twenties)
3. Invovled in media, so get lots of backstage passes, invites to movie premieres etc.


but I feel there is still so much for me to overcome

4. Muscular but still chubby physique
5. Lack of a proper social group. Have a lot of female friends but many of them tend to undercut me when I am with other women, so can;t use them as social proof.
6. Lack of "exciting" hobbies - No experience in motorbike riding, skydiving or any of those things that women seen to consider "manly"

Any suggestions or tips?

Firefly, I'm here late in the game too...34 years old, here only over a year or so.

Since I really started looking at myself, learning from this forum, and trying to apply the information from this forum to my life. My life has greatly improved.

Tons of more self-confidence. Applies to all areas of my life. Women have lost their "power" over me, and it's a feeling of freedom that I think most guys never get to experience.

It's never too late to start re-inventing your life.

The goal isn't to get better with women I've learned..that's a nice side product of everything.

You will start giving this vibe off that seems to be irresisable to women. You don't 'game' them. They 'get' to spend time with you.

The goal is to live your live, happily, the best way that you can. Keep improving. Know yourself, your strengths....your weaknesses. Conquer your fears. Live a true life, and you will succeed.

You sound like you have a good grasp on what you need to improve on. Hit the gym!! Check out the health section on this forum.

Don't improve yourself to get women. Improve yourself for YOU. Women seem to just show up along the way.

Enjoy this wild ride we call life.

 

[Firefly]

Insecurity maybe about his age and being here and putting a lower age bracket even though a fib of sorts makes him sort of lurk and fit in but deep inside he's feeling like an outcast if he puts his real age makes him appear inexperienced etc.

It takes balls and confidence to come to a place like this when most are younger your not really sure how you'll be recieved.

Take me for example I'll be 49 in April coming here for advice from someone younger is a bit testing but not everything is black and white in a man's life.

Maybe years of being married then divorced for alot of men older come here to get back into the game of dating or stupid religious teachings brainwashed alot of men into thinking a certain way or in my case a disability crops into your life where your being tested on your game and how it effects it with women as well as with men because strangers don't know your story in social settings and if you show up looking like someone pissed at the world and your not but the disability makes you look it life will set you back until you regain control in yourself.

It's like your foundation cracks and you have to fill in the cracks and coming here it does make a difference in my case but I still question alot of what I read especially if one doesn't have a clue of having a disability effects ones life with women but maybe I'm in the wrong place and should move on to a disabilities forum or something.

Just my thoughts but only the OP can answer for himself.

LoneSilver

You nailed it in one, Lonesilver. When I first came on, there wasn't even a Mature aged Forum, and I felt odd joining a forum that seemed to consist mainly of 18-25 year olds. I think I will try to be more honest with myself and others, and stop pining for something that I can no longer be.