Is this True???
Are girls allowed here???
Are you telling me that ALL men want a relationship??? (due to brainwashing, or whatnot...)
I've been with the nice guy. I know he wants a relationship. Underneath it all, i think he is a jerk and too afraid to show it.
I've been with a jerk. Who foolishly pretended to love me, to move me to another state, only to break up 4 months later. His intention behind that, I will never know.
I know all men want sex, everyone wants that... but are you telling me, that even jerks want MORE than that?
This information is very shocking. Because as I'm reading this post, and skimming through the mass seduction manual, I notice that its not shauvanistic and macho, if you told me it was written by a female, I would probably believe you. The impression that I get, is that men and women want the same thing.
Is this TRUE?
I know that - in GENERAL - girls get dumped on throughout most of their teenage years. While guys are trying to mature and figure out what to do with their horomones, girls get hurt, and typically the hurt that sticks, because its their first impression of dating. [guys wanna have sex, girls wont do it, and they move on to find someone who will?????? yes? no? what were you thinking when you were a teenage boy????]
I know that - in GENERAL - around the early to mid twentys, many guys get dumped by their first true love... the "one that got away". I did this to my childs father. We got together young, and I fell out of love, if it was really love to begin with, for me. I was told - I outgrew him. Sounded about right to me.... I've tried to figure out why this happens so frequently. I thought it might be true that men take their women for granted. Girls get tired and bored, and need to change.... while the guy had NO IDEA that anything was wrong at all, because the girl didnt have the balls to say it, or they guy wasnt listening well enough. (just a theory)
I think you've cleared up something for me though.....
Women DO settle. Maybe men do too. But Im sure that I have, even though I said that I never would. After the awkward early teenage years of getting dumped on, and not knowing why (obviously thinking it was my fault), and the later teenage years, rebelling, trying to convince myself that I didnt care what anyone thought of me... I got lonely. And I took what I could get. BUT I did wind up with a great young relationship, that I TRIED not to outgrow (and a beautiful child). It happens. And it's all based on lies.
"I dont love you" Is almost impossible to admit, when you originally thought you did, hoping to GOD that you'd get it back somehow, because this poor guys heart is totally on the line. It hurts almost as much for the girl, as the guy (almost).
Girls lie. You know that. You're almost better off with a cold heartless *****. At least she will tell you the truth. But... when a girl is sensitive, and knows what hurt feels like - with all good intentions, she will try not to hurt your feelings. And if she falls out of love with you, you wont know it - because she is lying.
I think, In my humble opinion - that if you can get a girl to feel so comfortable to be able to tell you every single truth, whether bad or good, and you can do the same with her, this mess might end..... though, I dont exactly know how to go about it. The professionals call it "communication", but its easier said than done.