Feeling bad that she is not a virgin

[seabumma]

I am in my 20's and I plan on saving my virginity till marriage. I felt devastated when the girl I was interested in told me she ended up losing hers 3 weeks before meeting me. It did not seem to phase her much . I did ask her if she regretted it, and all she could say was "yea". She then went into details about how it hurt, how long it lasted, etc. I felt like telling her to shut up, as going into details made me feel even worse. She does know that I am a virgin.

I told her she was still special, and told her to try not having sex anymore till marriage (don't know why I said it, I just did). She said she didn't want to make any promises, because if she does have sex she will feel bad. I told her to consider it, and she said if she is ever in the situation, she will think about me.

Why do I feel bad knowing that she might indulge in having more sex, even though we are NOT in a relationship. She lives in the environment where she can meet a lot of men, but due to her extremely shy nature, it does not happen much. She knows I am a virgin.

Should I just forget about this girl and move on. Is it fair for a virgin to end up with a non-virgin?

I live in the states by the way. Not some third world country.

 

[DonJuanit0]

If you were in Greece and you would say not sex till marriage most of the ppl would simply laugh m8! I had sex when I was 15 for the first time on my life! I really don't and ain't be able to understand what are the standarts on your country bla bla bla, but I believe that it's kinda hursh to force someone not to have sex... It's a human instict that needs to be done... And I wouldn't easily believe that she regreted it cause m8 women don't hook up with anyone randomly w/o thinking what happens after it, especially when it's their first time! Except if she was drunk or smth which would still not be something nice to know! I would only say to you that you should relax and not feel bad about it...

 

[Kerpal]

Better get used to it. It seems like if a girl is good looking, she's most likely had sex by the time she's 15.

 

[shaunuk]

OK, so you're not in a relationship with her and you're trying to get her "not to indulge in sex until marriage"...It's really none of your business.

It's not even worth waiting, and how could you ever expect anyone to not have anymore sex simply because you like her?

 

[spider_007]

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[Bible_Belt]

Just go get laid. There is no "special." Women do not want a virgin. Do not tell any girl that you are a virgin until after you have had sex with her. Go have sex. It is fun, you will like it, and women will like you more because you have experience.

 

[BlackJackal]

I am in my 20's and I plan on saving my virginity till marriage. I felt devastated when the girl I was interested in told me she ended up losing hers 3 weeks before meeting me. It did not seem to phase her much . I did ask her if she regretted it, and all she could say was "yea". She then went into details about how it hurt, how long it lasted, etc. I felt like telling her to shut up, as going into details made me feel even worse. She does know that I am a virgin.

I told her she was still special, and told her to try not having sex anymore till marriage (don't know why I said it, I just did). She said she didn't want to make any promises, because if she does have sex she will feel bad. I told her to consider it, and she said if she is ever in the situation, she will think about me.

Why do I feel bad knowing that she might indulge in having more sex, even though we are NOT in a relationship. She lives in the environment where she can meet a lot of men, but due to her extremely shy nature, it does not happen much. She knows I am a virgin.

Should I just forget about this girl and move on. Is it fair for a virgin to end up with a non-virgin?

I live in the states by the way. Not some third world country.

You might as well learn how to get over that right now. Being a virgin aint as noble as u would think anyway. As far as her bein a special case, she's not. She dont feel half as bad as she claims and quite frankly she dont owe you anything. Get over yourself guy. You only feel bab because she didn't veiw you in the same special light you placed her in, which might have made her stay a virgin for you.

 

[dbot]

Better get used to it. It seems like if a girl is good looking, she's most likely had sex by the time she's 15.

That could be true if you assume all good looking females grow up in a moderately liberating environment, free of religious pressure or emotional stress brought on by the parents. If that's not the case, then most girls won't break free of these shackles until long after they've moved away from their parents and submitted to outside influence.

To the original poster, if you want to save yourself for marriage, that's fine. But don't judge other people who choose not to do the same, or you're going to face a long, hard road ahead. Find someone that you love and care about, and if they share those feelings for you as well, then that's all that should matter.

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

I used to have this obsession with being with a girl who hadn't had a lot of sex partners. Even still, it seems like the more attached I get to a girl the more I despise the fact that she has seen a lot of pen1s in her life.

 

[shaunuk]

Bible_Belt is exactly right...A lot of male virgins I know don't even realise how much girls knowing they're a virgin is hurting their chances severely with them...

As a general rule...girls like guys who get girls

why? Because you're "pre-selected" or however else you wanna phrase it. If a girl knows lots of girls already like you and have opened their legs to you, you seem MUCH more attractive. The reasons why should just be obvious.

OP, you're waiting for "the right person" and for it to be "special"...in my opinion, you're making a mistake. Bottom line.