Feel like crap. Need assistance.

[unlucky11]

This happened recently so its fresh in my mind. There is this HB9 girl that I was seeing for 7 months, she hated me for something I did, and we didn't speak for 1 month.

Yesterday, I messaged her best friend to see how she was doing. She said not good, and that she was going to take her to an all-night party to cheer her up. I continued talking to her and asked if she was seeing anybody at the moment. I was always suspicious of this one guy that constantly called and texted her while we were together. So I asked her best friend if she was seeing him now. She replied by saying she was seeing other people but not him.

So I called her up, and we talked about random things. Everything was really smooth, and she seemed not to hate me anymore. We were joking and she finally opened up again without giving me the cold shoulder. Eventually, she asked if I was going to the club where they were going tonight. I didn't give her an answer but I told her that I would text her if I came. I call my buddy, and he's interested in going so we head down.

When I get to the club, I see her dancing by herself so I approach her and ask if she'd like to dance. She quickly turned around and confronted me about asking her best friend about this guy friend of hers. Gets pissed off and tells me not to talk to her ever again. I try one more time, and she just pushes me so I leave her alone. Now she won't even talk to me without hatred towards me.


How did I screw this up again? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

 

[jophil28]

So I called her up, and we talked about random things. .

That is where you really shot yourself in the ballz.

Now read this - if a woman has not talked to you for more than 3 weeks it is OVER 99% of the time. When women retreat for more than this time, you have been deleted in her mind as a contender, and re-labeled as a "problem".
After a month of radio silence she has blackened your name and reputation with anyone who has stood still long enough to hear her victim story of how rotten you are.

Why the F do I have to tell you idiots how it works ?

 

[unlucky11]

That is so true. Your right in every aspect of that, you become her problem. Which is obviously not what I intended for. I just find that gaming a girl would only work for something short-term. Eventually, the flowers bloom and your true self is exposed.

Which is why the real problem lies within myself to find that true purpose in life and doing something that I would be proud of is so essential to the overall game.

 

[unlucky11]

Thanks for the advice, Jphil. My parents married young and are still happily together, and sometimes the girl just gives me that comfort feeling as silly as that may sound.

 

[unlucky11]

Thanks jophil.

 

[Jariel]

How did I screw this up again? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

If it's not obvious to you, then she's just being a drama queen and wants you to play into her childish games. I've seen this 100s of times before and it's usually some kind of power play where she wants you to apologise and kiss her as$.

Don't do it and NEVER blame yourself or seek answers as to what you've done wrong. It'll send you insane and if she's not mature enough to tell you what you did, then your life is better off without the drama.

 

[unlucky11]

Thats good advice. Thanks Jariel. i needed that outside perspective to see the light!