Need to focus on being more outcome independent
You're at a critical age you should be busy doing a lot of things and whilst your busy doing said things women should be appearing
Then you then interact with the women whilst you are going about your business, its less pressure for everyone
at 39 you can't be going out specifically trying to pick women up off the street the awkwardness of it is going to radiate off you and deter them
Bars fine whatever its open season
Cold approach you need to be a lot more tactful
