Favors?

[needstochange]

When girls usually ask me favors, I often do this:

Her: Can you throw this in the trash for me?
Me: No! Haha just kidding. Sure I can, but what's in it for me?

Not exactly like that but you catch my drift. But when I do it girls percieve me as an a-hole or as someone lazy

Why is that? Am I doing something wrong?

 

[Daniel1099]

just look at her and give her a look like ur about to punish her for even saying that and say "No."

if she is like "WOW JERK!"

then give her a sexy as smile and be like "Haha im joking...damn..."

then slap her ass or something on the way to the trash.

this works well with REALLY hot girls because they are usually treated like Queens.

dont do this ALL the time. it will get old

 

[NewAndImproved]

Girl: Can you take a picture of me (my friends)?
Me: And what will I get in return?

I'm 100% when using this line. For some reason the girl always "gets it." At the very least I'll get an IOI. Kiss closes come with HER initiating it. I've never used it as an opener though. Only with girls I've already built a little rapport with or with an acquaintance.

 

[Vypros]

It really depends on the favor.

If she asks "Can you throw this in the trash for me?" your answer probably *should* be "no." Why? Because she is perfectly capable of doing it herself, she just doesn't want to. Don't set yourself up to be her *****. So, unless she has a cast on her leg or something, don't fall into the trap of doing b1tch things for her or become her lackey.

On the other hand, something like, "Can I borrow your phone for a minute?" is a favor you can do (after you give her a bit of a hard time about it).

So my advice is to gauge what kind of favor it is. If it's something that she can do for herself and she is just asking you because she doesn't want to do it, then DON'T do it, and make no bones about not doing it. You don't have to be an a$$ about it, but you also don't have to be her lackey either.

On the other hand, if it's something she genuinely needs help with, then only agree if it's something you CAN do and you WANT to do for her. Sometimes you can give her a hard time about it (make it playful) and sometimes you can just do it.

Discover your boundaries and assert them. Throwing a piece of trash away for her isn't a favor. It's being her b1tch, whether you give her a hard time about it or not.