Father cheating on mother

[BlackRob87]

Hahahahahahahah.....

First you make fun of the guy about al these things (Fussing,only watching tv, COMPLAINING.) just to be doing the same sh1t.

Right now your complaining like a little b1tch plain and simple, you can deny it but just read your posts on the issue and you will see my point. What your parents do is there business not YOURS , would you like your parents messing around in YOUR business? NO so stay out of theres.

Ehh whatever you will probably show her and ruin a 30 year marriage just because you dont like the guy.....fvcking selfish.

Well im glad im amusing you...hope I made your day. I was venting and can really care less what you think because I dont know you and you dont know all of the dynamics of whats goiing on. I have a right to be concerned about my parents.

anybody else that actually had something to say thank you.

 

[penkitten]

i am gonna throw my two cents in again:

i would rather accidentally trip over the tape and play it out of curiosity and find out alone RATHER than have my teenage son tell me.
i would not want to know that my children found out first.
in fact, i would rather not know that my children knew at all exactly what the marital problems and issues were.

it isn't a conversation that i would want to have with my child.
if i wanted a shoulder to cry on, or someone to discuss it with, it would be with an adult that wasn't my child.

i hope that this makes sense to you before you act upon anything.

 

[Interceptor]

Rob,

you have no 'evidence'.

All you have is a recording of a conversation.

For all you KNOW, your father did NOT take up this woman up on her offer.

DO NOT go JUDGING someone when you have NO REAL EVIDENCE.


Since you DO NOT HAVE EVIDENCE, you CANNOT 'tell' your mother about this.


DO you understand????!!!



You are to approach your father about the recording, and aks him what it IS.

"Dad, the other day I found this recording. What is it? Is that you talking? Who is that woman?"

And just wait for an answer.

Give your father the benefit of the doubt first.

At the end of the day, imagine if the roles were reversed.
Would you want to be tried and judged without giving your side of the story??


Think about this before you start jumping to conclusions, and creating drama.

 

[LoneSilver]

Something just hit me in the face real hard on this whole matter unless I missed something...

My question is why would anybody a cheating parent be recording a convo about sexual stuff with another woman in the first place?..It doesn't make any sense to me something is missing here as if it were planned or something by the father..

Just some further thoughts questions..

LoneSilver

 

[BlackRob87]

i am gonna throw my two cents in again:

i would rather accidentally trip over the tape and play it out of curiosity and find out alone RATHER than have my teenage son tell me.
i would not want to know that my children found out first.
in fact, i would rather not know that my children knew at all exactly what the marital problems and issues were.

it isn't a conversation that i would want to have with my child.
if i wanted a shoulder to cry on, or someone to discuss it with, it would be with an adult that wasn't my child.

i hope that this makes sense to you before you act upon anything.

Yea I guess your right. I am not going to say anything. Im still mad but it was probably one time on his part...who knows. Ill just play it off like I dont know nothing and if we ever get into a big fight or something ill just move out of the house.

 

[penkitten]

Something just hit me in the face real hard on this whole matter unless I missed something...

My question is why would anybody a cheating parent be recording a convo about sexual stuff with another woman in the first place?..It doesn't make any sense to me something is missing here as if it were planned or something by the father..

Just some further thoughts questions..

LoneSilver

when i saw that it was a tape with voices on it, i thought the poster meant a vhs tape , like a sex tape, and the thought never occured to me that:
1. no one seems to use vhs tapes these days
2. that it could be audio tape, which no one seems to use these days either.

cheating partners make video sometimes, it's part of the riskiness of it.
but if the tape is for a tape player or a vhs , it is could be very old, and could be a younger version of mom.

sometimes as odd as it is ....

 

[BlackRob87]

Rob,

you have no 'evidence'.

All you have is a recording of a conversation.

For all you KNOW, your father did NOT take up this woman up on her offer.

DO NOT go JUDGING someone when you have NO REAL EVIDENCE.


Since you DO NOT HAVE EVIDENCE, you CANNOT 'tell' your mother about this.


DO you understand????!!!



You are to approach your father about the recording, and aks him what it IS.

"Dad, the other day I found this recording. What is it? Is that you talking? Who is that woman?"

And just wait for an answer.

Give your father the benefit of the doubt first.

At the end of the day, imagine if the roles were reversed.
Would you want to be tried and judged without giving your side of the story??


Think about this before you start jumping to conclusions, and creating drama.

Its evident enough. And I was planning on confronting my dad first.

 

[BlackRob87]

Something just hit me in the face real hard on this whole matter unless I missed something...

My question is why would anybody a cheating parent be recording a convo about sexual stuff with another woman in the first place?..It doesn't make any sense to me something is missing here as if it were planned or something by the father..

Just some further thoughts questions..

LoneSilver

He was probably showing off

 

[BlackRob87]

when i saw that it was a tape with voices on it, i thought the poster meant a vhs tape , like a sex tape, and the thought never occured to me that:
1. no one seems to use vhs tapes these days
2. that it could be audio tape, which no one seems to use these days either.

cheating partners make video sometimes, it's part of the riskiness of it.
but if the tape is for a tape player or a vhs , it is could be very old, and could be a younger version of mom.

sometimes as odd as it is ....

Nope. Its was a recorder that is attached to his homelink system(garage door openner) in his truck. Mostly all the new cars have them, maby not the recorder but the homelink. The recorder is mostly used for recording an idea you might have while driving so you can reflect back or for whatever. The recorder is not detachable as it is made into the sunviser....so whatever happend, happend in that truck.

 

[azanon]

Hey guys

I really dont post much here althought I read on this forum alot.

Back to the topic...I found some disturbing recording in my dads truck. It was a recording of him and another women and she was saying "Want me to give you some head baby" and my dad just laughs....then she says "your suppost to say yeah" and that was the end of the convo. It was NOT my mother at all.

I want to tell my mother what I know because I have known about this for some time now. My father aint **** all he does is watch tv all day and talk **** and fuss about every damn thing like he is female. My mother hardly complains about anything and im fed up with him and his ****. My mom deserves to know the truth.

Now my question is....how do I go about revealing this to my mother? Do I tell my dad I know that he cheated on her with another women and give him the opportunity to tell her himself or just give the evidence to my mother or tell them both together what I know? They have been married for 30 years.

I would like some insight from you guys as some of you might have been in a similar situation. Thanks

Your parents relationship is none of your business. I think you demonstrate this truth by staying out of it. I'm getting worked up at even the thought of my kid thinking my relationship with my wife is any of his business, lol.

I agree with what one of the original responders said; always do the right thing. The right thing in this case is to stay out of it. You should have enough to worry about in your personal life.

I could list tons of reasons why this is the best move. I'm confident any licensed counselor would agree with me.

.......................

You can actually group telling on affairs into one lump group. There's never a situation where its a good idea to tell a cheated-on spouse; not any single example you can think of. It's always asking for trouble for you or multiple people.

 

[Bloke]

I am in disbelief in some of the people on this board.

If you let your father get away with this scott free & don't confront him, than you're a coward.

Confront him. Give him the ultimatum to tell your mother (she should hear it from him), or you'll tell her.

Of course there's gonna be a lot of pain involved, for all. But would you rather your mother go through life getting treated like crap, by a cheating husband ?

Ignore these wankers telling you you're selfish if you tell her. I find it to be the very opposite. You're being selfish if you keep this a secret from your mother, much easier to turn a blid eye while someone hurts your mother. Be a man.

But I think you already know what the right thing to do is.

 

[azanon]

OP, i suggest taking note of the age of those telling you to tell, vs. those telling you not to do it. After doing so, use common sense to deduce which is likely to be the wiser advise.

 

[( . )( . )]

Now my question is....how do I go about revealing this to my mother?

Stop being a c@ckblockin little weasel, this is none of your business. If you pulled that sh!t on me I'd beat the living suitcase out of you, son or not. Did he raise you to be a home wrecking drama queen?

 

[jafyk]

I guess from what most of the posters here are saying...if you are aware that your friend's girl is cheating on him you should just look the other way?

 

[Bloke]

Stop being a c@ckblockin little weasel, this is none of your business. If you pulled that sh!t on me I'd beat the living suitcase out of you, son or not. Did he raise you to be a home wrecking drama queen?

The irony.

 

[Yahooey]

Do not meddle in your parents marriage. As some of the other posters have said, you do not know the whole story.

If you have issues with your dad, do not confront him. Have a discussion about YOUR relationship with him.

FYI: My parents had a fvcked-up marriage with sh!t in the open that, IMO, kids should not see.

 

[wayword]

Ehh whatever you will probably show her and ruin a 30 year marriage just because you dont like the guy.....fvcking selfish.

First off, if he was cheating, then HE is the one who "ruined" their 30 year marriage. Not any whistleblower...

Otherwise, that's like saying a cop who catches a bankrobber is the one who screwed the bank over.

It's a tough call. You could maybe have a casual chat with both one day, and talk about how you don't want to get married because around 60% of spouses cheat on each other today. Maybe talk about how important honesty and full disclosure is in a marriage? Pose a hypothetical question about, if you knew someone was cheating, should you tell? Or, if you had cheated on your spouse, should you tell...or would they really even want to know if your spouse was cheating on you? If your mom says NO, then I guess you don't "have" to tell her. Just keep beating around the bush until you can maybe flush some doves out and someone cracks...

Later, I might also try to bring it up subtly with your dad, about what he thinks about cheating, see how much he will volunteer. Feel it out, and see if he gets a paranoid or worried look in his eyes, like he thinks you might know...

Also, that clip is not 100% proof that he cheated. Maybe only 75% likelihood, lol.

 

[intrextrovert]

I dunno man...

I would give the tape to the father. Talk to him about it.