Father banging younger women

[catman]

Crissco...

Id be very happy to be in your shoes. Theres nothing better to have that kind of wingman in your arsenal.

If he bangs the girl ur with then problem solved. Next. And then joke about it over some scotch.

If my dad were still a DJ (he was back in the day big time) I would be hanging with him twice a week. Far superior then my other wings at the moment.

So its bros before hos unless its your dad?? Im confussed if you cant trust your own father to leave the women your with alone who is he suppose to trust? enlighten me on this???

 

[C-quenced]

:yawn:

Someone must have really ****ed you up dude. I don't think I ever encountered anything on SS to rival the level of illogicality presented here. You're entitled to your off the wall opinion on what actions make a man but for future references don't come here presenting it as fact. It isn't and niether is your martyr like beliefs therefore you may want to consider taking that elsewhere.

 

[Trader]

:yawn:

Someone must have really ****ed you up dude. I don't think I ever encountered anything on SS to rival the level of illogicality presented here. You're entitled to your off the wall opinion on what actions make a man but for future references don't come here presenting it as fact. It isn't and niether is your martyr like beliefs therefore you may want to consider taking that elsewhere.

Aww..the truth hurts too much for you. I see your mommy holding a band-aid for your boo boo

 

[C-quenced]

Aww..the truth hurts too much for you. I see your mommy holding a band-aid for your boo boo

Oh so there was "truth" involved?

 

[corrector]

How is your father managing to score with YOUR women? Is he being an AFC-suggar daddy or does he really have game? How does money fit in to the equation? Is he supporting you and you are an omega male there?

People giving advice here must be on drugs to suggest an alpha male wingman next to an omega male -- that's like the dynamics here, right? It's like having Brad Pick as a wing-man, you'll just get pity-lays for Brad Pick's sake but the shallow ladies would see you as "invisible" if he was your wing-man. Maybe your father can set up a pity-lay with the girls you are seeing since they are not attracted to you, but to him? You should talk to him about that rather than argue with him since you want to get laid too.

He has been divorced for 10 years, so why would what he does now bother you?

I can relate to you because my dad would cheat on my mother and use money that was loaned to him by her to prop himself up as a suggar daddy. Personally, I think he's an AFC big time. I've checked his cell logs and the girl just playing him for money but he ain't getting no booty as she rejects him when he asks for sex, she would bang other guys FOR FUN that are her age. He still wires money to her by western union. He's a chump. He seems to have an easier flow with women than I do -- but again -- not all attention is the right type of attention. Friendzone -- "users" -- doesn't mean "true love" or banging here -- I think it reflects more on the quality of women you are with than your father's behaviour.

So, the question I have to ask -- is he an AFC just being some sort of sugar daddy or fatherly figure to these girls? Do these girls have a father themselves? Either he is appearing as a suggar daddy to them and is appealing to them by a provider role or money -- or that the women really dig him for other qualities.

My question, is if he is just fulfilling a "father figure - provider" then why would this bother you since that is not natural game and betrays a low self-esteem in the girls that you are with that wouldn't be quality relationship material anyway.

 

[corrector]

duplicate post.

 

[2crudedudes]

how old are you?

 

[yuppaz]

I think that if you can trust your dad (hopefully you can), and if he is good with women and not just the sugar daddy type, or has some super status because he was a rockstar or something then you really should ask him to help you out with your game. You still seem to have some lingering AFC type issues where things just "Aren't supposed to be like that..it's all love and cherish and marriage and kids with a special girl". Sorry man but it's not. I'm a dad and I'm guilty of teaching my young son that it's totally ok to talk to pretty girls, and it isn't a big deal. I'm not teaching him how to push and pull or how to get physical or anything (he's too young for that), but I WANT him to be able to have whatever he wants in life, I bet your father feels the same for you. Maybe he isn't a great teacher, but I would bet money that he would be TOTALLY cool with helping you get great women and once you start doing that and you start to see that they are in huge abundance and no big deal like he does, you will realize why your question and your worries are unnecessary. If he's good with women, dude you don't have to worry why would he take his son's when he can get his own. I just can't see that happening. If anything for me, when my boy grows up, if he likes one of my girls I'll try to help him out with her. You are coming from a scarcity mindset because you don't yet realize that there are just so many options, and if you don't have that many options, it's probably because your being lazy / too fearful and not approaching or trying to get better game.

Seriously ask your dad for advice, ask him to watch you chat some girls up and ask him what you need to do to improve.... he might get a little ego boost (so what?), but he'll be a great mentor because your his son and he wants the best for you.

 

[ChalengeGuyFan]

Actually:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Jh4aGQBUZM

Work on yourself, don't wish to put your father down.

 

[Crissco]

I think that if you can trust your dad (hopefully you can), and if he is good with women and not just the sugar daddy type, or has some super status because he was a rockstar or something then you really should ask him to help you out with your game. You still seem to have some lingering AFC type issues where things just "Aren't supposed to be like that..it's all love and cherish and marriage and kids with a special girl". Sorry man but it's not. I'm a dad and I'm guilty of teaching my young son that it's totally ok to talk to pretty girls, and it isn't a big deal. I'm not teaching him how to push and pull or how to get physical or anything (he's too young for that), but I WANT him to be able to have whatever he wants in life, I bet your father feels the same for you. Maybe he isn't a great teacher, but I would bet money that he would be TOTALLY cool with helping you get great women and once you start doing that and you start to see that they are in huge abundance and no big deal like he does, you will realize why your question and your worries are unnecessary. If he's good with women, dude you don't have to worry why would he take his son's when he can get his own. I just can't see that happening. If anything for me, when my boy grows up, if he likes one of my girls I'll try to help him out with her. You are coming from a scarcity mindset because you don't yet realize that there are just so many options, and if you don't have that many options, it's probably because your being lazy / too fearful and not approaching or trying to get better game.

Seriously ask your dad for advice, ask him to watch you chat some girls up and ask him what you need to do to improve.... he might get a little ego boost (so what?), but he'll be a great mentor because your his son and he wants the best for you.

Out of every answer I got on here, this is what I believe to be the closest truth. Yes I do have a scarcity issue when it comes to women. For me its hard to open up my heart and trust people because ive been hurt badly in the past. I guess inna sense im a bit jealous of him, that's all. Hes told me hed rather me find one women who will make me happy then 5 different ones. Personally ide rather that too.

I was talking to my cousin about this and he said, if the girl is going to be with you shes going to be with you, if she leaves with you at the end of the night who gives a **** because im the one whos going to be fuc*ing her anyway, not my dad, cuz...(Not talking about if she cheats)

And no hes not a sugar daddy, hes just very flirty with everyone(im the same way). He always has to be in control and *****ng hate that. I believe life is more about control of oneself not of others. And no my father didn't score with my women. Its just hard to trust him because of his past.
To the one poster who said I cant respect my father because hes not a man, I think ur 100% bro, he doesn't even know how to speak like a civil human being in certain situations.

I went from being the man of the house(living with my mom) to moving in with my dad. Its like night a day. Its a lot better for me, because I my father wasn't in my life as much as he should have been, but also being the man of the house has its benefits.

Its funny though, he has to put people down to make himself feel better, I think he belittles himself so much on the inside he uses women as a way of escaping his problems.

I feel like im setting my own self up for failure with this mindset, which isnt good, its a destructive mindset that I need to get my self out of.

 

[amoka]

Look here, majority of us here advocate you mellow yourself and learn from your father. Let us know how that goes.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

You should be looking up to your father for having game and being able to go out and score with younger hotter women! Instead you're acting like a whiney b*tch about it and you seem pissed off he gets more tail than you. Hence being afraid to bring women around him. LOL why the f*ck should you be bringing women around him anyway?!

Either way stop acting so insecure and start learning what he's doing right that YOU are doing wrong..most likely the "female friend" thing you have going on.

 

[Iceberg]

What is eating away at you, is not the fact that he's hitting on girls your age, but the fact that your father cheated on your mother. This is human nature for you to feel that way.

That's why I find it so funny when amoralist guys say: 'Oh it's cool for say Tiger, or a rich powerful man to get a little on the side.'

But when you find out it is YOUR Dad who is getting a little on the side, it pisses you off.

To the OP: the bottom line is this, you are a man, and it is your nature such that you simply CANNOT respect your father because he cheated on your mom.

Game recognizes game. And in this case, a real man can recognize other real men when he sees it. Unfortunately, your father is not a real man, that's why you cannot respect him.

You nailed it. It's a shame your response went ignored.

It's easy for everyone else to say, "Oh wow. Your dad's a pimp. You guys should sarge together." Of course if their dad had cheated on their mom, and then started banging women younger than these guys, they'd feel the same way.

We want our dads to be the rock of our lives. Stable and strong. Moral.

My dad and mom divorced before I was old enough to walk. But he recently divorced my stepmother. A terrible woman. But he ends up dating my younger sister's friend...some 24 year old chick. It's easy for people to say that my dad's a pimp, and blah blah...but at the end of the day, the man who carries my name and my family's reputation is a walking joke. Something that people whisper about when he's not around.

That is what the original poster is bothered by. That someone who he's supposed to look up to is like some character on a bad TV drama. Yeah, logically if any of us are 50 and single, we'd be open to dating 25 year old chicks. But after cheating on your wife? Or dating one of your daughter's friends? That's not the kind of dad that kids brag to their friends about.

 

[Crissco]

I forgot to add that part in but that's exactly it bro.
Im sorry to hear that you have to go through that man. I definitely feel for you.
Lets look at it on the positive side, maybe we can learn a thing or two.

Personally for me, im lucky hes still around(even tho sometimes I wish he wasn't), pays for certain things, pays child support...etc..But yea, everything you said hit the nail on the head. Funny part is, im a really good looking guy with a great body. Its just that one thing that ****ed me up...(I also have two of my cousins live with me from 9-16 years old, they where 17 and 19 when they moved in, but thats another story)

Now its just using it to my advantage and how to boost my own confidence.

You nailed it. It's a shame your response went ignored.

It's easy for everyone else to say, "Oh wow. Your dad's a pimp. You guys should sarge together." Of course if their dad had cheated on their mom, and then started banging women younger than these guys, they'd feel the same way.

We want our dads to be the rock of our lives. Stable and strong. Moral.

My dad and mom divorced before I was old enough to walk. But he recently divorced my stepmother. A terrible woman. But he ends up dating my younger sister's friend...some 24 year old chick. It's easy for people to say that my dad's a pimp, and blah blah...but at the end of the day, the man who carries my name and my family's reputation is a walking joke. Something that people whisper about when he's not around.

That is what the original poster is bothered by. That someone who he's supposed to look up to is like some character on a bad TV drama. Yeah, logically if any of us are 50 and single, we'd be open to dating 25 year old chicks. But after cheating on your wife? Or dating one of your daughter's friends? That's not the kind of dad that kids brag to their friends about.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

You nailed it. It's a shame your response went ignored.

It's easy for everyone else to say, "Oh wow. Your dad's a pimp. You guys should sarge together." Of course if their dad had cheated on their mom, and then started banging women younger than these guys, they'd feel the same way.

We want our dads to be the rock of our lives. Stable and strong. Moral.

My dad and mom divorced before I was old enough to walk. But he recently divorced my stepmother. A terrible woman. But he ends up dating my younger sister's friend...some 24 year old chick. It's easy for people to say that my dad's a pimp, and blah blah...but at the end of the day, the man who carries my name and my family's reputation is a walking joke. Something that people whisper about when he's not around.

That is what the original poster is bothered by. That someone who he's supposed to look up to is like some character on a bad TV drama. Yeah, logically if any of us are 50 and single, we'd be open to dating 25 year old chicks. But after cheating on your wife? Or dating one of your daughter's friends? That's not the kind of dad that kids brag to their friends about.

Why do you give a flying f*ck what other people talk about behind your dad's back or that you can "brag" to your friends about him (are we going back to 1st grade here?!)

At least he's doing what he wants to do and not feeling the need to live up to some ridiculous "moral" code that society pressures onto him.

How is he a walking joke for dating a younger women in her 20s? He's divorced, single, and can do whatever pleases him. Why is it wrong or unethical for an older guy to date a women in her 20s?

Is it really a moral issue for you or is part of that you're just kinda pissed off to see your dad nailing hot women that you feel that YOU should be entitled to merely due to your age?

If that's the case (and be honest with yourself) then start working more on your game, start strategizing a game plan so that YOU TOO can date and nail hot chicks.

And maybe you should talk to your dad for some advice so that when you're 50 you'll be going out with some of your son's hot friends in their 20s !

 

[Iceberg]

Why do you give a flying f*ck what other people talk about behind your dad's back or that you can "brag" to your friends about him (are we going back to 1st grade here?!)

Because I've grown up with friends who have happily-married parents. It'd be nice to just have a normal, mustache-wearing, newspaper-reading father. It's not destroying my life or anything...but it'd be nice.

At least he's doing what he wants to do and not feeling the need to live up to some ridiculous "moral" code that society pressures onto him.

How is he a walking joke for dating a younger women in her 20s? He's divorced, single, and can do whatever pleases him. Why is it wrong or unethical for an older guy to date a women in her 20s?

It's not unethical. It's just that myself (and my siblings) would prefer that this girl not have been one of his daughter's (my sister's) friends. If this was some random waitress at a bar, I'd be happy for him. When it's your 21-year old daughter's best friend, I don't see how this is good for raising a kid. I'm gonna wager that if your mom started dating your best friend, you'd be slightly bothered. Just a little.

Is it really a moral issue for you or is part of that you're just kinda pissed off to see your dad nailing hot women that you feel that YOU should be entitled to merely due to your age?

If that's the case (and be honest with yourself) then start working more on your game, start strategizing a game plan so that YOU TOO can date and nail hot chicks.

No. Where do you get the impression that I'm having women problems? I'm good-looking, I'm happy with life and I get plenty of girls. I'm gonna bet that when I'm 50 I'll be pretty good-looking then too. Once again...it just comes back to wanting to have a normal dad.

And maybe you should talk to your dad for some advice so that when you're 50 you'll be going out with some of your son's hot friends in their 20s !

Hey, when it comes to stock tips and investments, I'll ask my dad for advice until I'm blue in the face. When it comes to interpersonal relationships, women or otherwise, he's not the guy for the job. You're just gonna have to trust me on that one.

This all just comes back to me wanting to have a regular dad. Now, you could just say to me "What is regular?" "What is normal." Maybe you grew up with "normal" parents...and maybe it sucked. Maybe I don't know what I'm talking about because I didn't have "normal" married parents. But I've seen plenty of friends with "normal" married, car-fixing, bass-fishing dads, and I occasionally get envious of that.

So while it's okay for my single dad to date any girl he wants, you'd think that he could hold off on his daughter's friend. That's not asking too much, right? There are situations in life when you say "No, I'll pass on this girl."...maybe she's a friend's ex. Maybe she's your coworker. I'm just thinking, it'd be nice if a guy could say, "No, I won't date my daughter's friend."

 

[CoolBlue]

What is eating away at you, is not the fact that he's hitting on girls your age, but the fact that your father cheated on your mother. This is human nature for you to feel that way.

That's why I find it so funny when amoralist guys say: 'Oh it's cool for say Tiger, or a rich powerful man to get a little on the side.'

But when you find out it is YOUR Dad who is getting a little on the side, it pisses you off.

To the OP: the bottom line is this, you are a man, and it is your nature such that you simply CANNOT respect your father because he cheated on your mom.

Game recognizes game. And in this case, a real man can recognize other real men when he sees it. Unfortunately, your father is not a real man, that's why you cannot respect him.

you win the worst poster of the year award

 

[Trader]

you win the worst poster of the year award

Who are you

 

[apotheosis]

Dad sounds kind of cool, although i guess i can see how it would be a bit weird when its actually you in the situation.

I have a mate whose dad is very similar. Absolute player in his 50's now i think. Always got a different young girl on the go, lol.

PS - whats the deal with posting new threads as a new member?
I posted a thread a few days ago which was my first post, and it still doesn't seem to have been processed??

 

[Crissco]

Im getting better at accepting this but it honestly its still hard. I had a situation come up a couple of days ago, where he was hitting on someone my age and it got me very very jealous. I thought she was a cool girl and seemed relationship worthy and he goes and hits on her later. I honestly dont trust my father, simple as that.

Any other advice you guys can give me to deal with this?