fat chicks hard to get with

[SoCalMike]

I've noticed that girls with low self esteem are actually hard to lay sometimes. My theory is they're afraid of being hurt.

Here's an example - the other night I posted an ad on CL, and what seemed like a cute girl responded. Her pics looked decent. So we chatted for a while, and decided to meet at a bar. When she showed up I was not very happy - she was a little overweight. Not obese, but definitely fatter than the pictures looked. She either photoshopped them, or they were old pics.

At any rate, she still wasn't too bad looking, for a semi-fat girl. So to be polite I had a couple beers and talked to her. I could tell she was pretty into me (touching me a lot, eye contact, etc.) and the more beers I had the more I felt like going for it. After all, I figured she'd be easy.

So when we left the bar, I walked her to her car to say good night. Standing at her car I decided to put some moves on her, see what happens...so I went in for the kiss, and she gave me one, but not for very long. Then she pushes me away and says "let's take it slow". WTF? This is coming from a little tubby girl who should feel lucky I'm even wasting my time with her. I know that sounds arrogant, but I'm just being honest.

Actually, this happened to me once before back in college. I was drunk, horny, and got turned down by a girl who was pretty fugly. LOL

Anyone else have similar experiences, being "rejected" or told to "go slow" by some fat or ugly girl?

Fellas, lesson here is just because a chick is fat, or ugly, doesn't mean she'll be easier to get into bed. In fact, she can be harder sometimes! Don't waste time with these girls no matter how long your dry spell has been or how horny you are.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...Anyone else have similar experiences, being "rejected" or told to "go slow" by some fat or ugly girl?

Fellas, lesson here is just because a chick is fat, or ugly, doesn't mean she'll be easier to get into bed. In fact, she can be harder sometimes! Don't waste time with these girls no matter how long your dry spell has been or how horny you are.

Are you asking for advice on how to lay fat and ugly chicks that have low self esteem? :nervous:

 

[flexion_]

Never happened to me - I don't go out with fat/ugly women. Just my preference.

 

[Captain AFC]

erm... are you sure she does this just because she's a little overweight or has low self-esteem.

There really are girls out there that don't necessarily subscribe to the "I should fulfill all of my wildest fanatasies or desires without hesitation," regardless of appearance.

 

[legolas]

Ya dude, don't think for a moment that just because a woman is fat she's going to be desperate and put out on the first date. Bad assumption on your part, because number 1, chicks don't need to be fat to put out quickly, they just need to be under certain circumstances (e.g. Spring Break or drunk) and number 2.no matter how low her self esteem, she's still worried about appearing slutty. I'm surprised you even considered the possibility.

 

[Zonder]

I get this a lot from ugly chicks (I'm kind of good looking). I don't try to lay them, but just when I'm talking to them. I'd start a convo for some reason, either because they're behind me in a line, or because I'm asking directions, or we're in the elevator...stuff like that. And then they'd just plain reject me, even though I wasn't even making a move.

Imagine a chick you can barely look at reject you with the second sentence out of her mouth. If they'd just give me the direcitons to the place I want to go to instead of telling me how they're not into dating and their boyfriend is coming in a second, things would be a lot easier. Or sometimes you're in a longer convo with a chick for some reason (work, or a friend's friend, or something) and she'll at some point reject you even theough you're just talking to her to be polite. It used to bother me a lot, now it's just a bit annoying).

Strange how chicks with high confidence level don't act this way (they usually give signs of low interest instead).

 

[SoCalMike]

Hey guys, I think my meaning wasn't clear. I wasn't expecting to get laid the first 10 minutes after talking to her. I just meant that when I'm in a situation like that with an attractive girl it goes a lot farther a lot faster. Fat/ugly girls do not seem comfortable with their sexuality - due to low self esteem (?) fear of being hurt (?)

Yeah, I don't go after fat or ugly chicks either, but the pics fooled me, and since I was there and a little drunk I decided to go for it.

None of you have been in this situation? Yeah... sure.

 

[SoCalMike]

I get this a lot from ugly chicks (I'm kind of good looking). I don't try to lay them, but just when I'm talking to them. I'd start a convo for some reason, either because they're behind me in a line, or because I'm asking directions, or we're in the elevator...stuff like that. And then they'd just plain reject me, even though I wasn't even making a move.

Imagine a chick you can barely look at reject you with the second sentence out of her mouth. If they'd just give me the direcitons to the place I want to go to instead of telling me how they're not into dating and their boyfriend is coming in a second, things would be a lot easier. Or sometimes you're in a longer convo with a chick for some reason (work, or a friend's friend, or something) and she'll at some point reject you even theough you're just talking to her to be polite. It used to bother me a lot, now it's just a bit annoying).

Strange how chicks with high confidence level don't act this way (they usually give signs of low interest instead).

I think you got my point across 10x better than I could.

I'm not referring to just getting laid, I should have specified that. I just meant the "I'm going to hurt/reject you before you can do it to me" thing.

 

[Tazman]

I think it's because they're aware that guys will **** them (most guys believing they're easy), but they want to feel like they're worth more than just that. Also, if they're attractive enough for YOU to want to **** them, there are plenty of other guys who would as well, so they're not as hard up as you might think.

 

[WaterTiger]

It's the same thing when a HB9 blows of an average looking guy, he feels like crap.
She blows you off because she can't believe a good looking guy is interested in her. She thinks you're just after a quick f***...and she's probably right. It might surprise you, but even fat chicks get sick of being nothing more than a blow-up doll with a pulse.
Why do you think a fat chick should feel grateful that you want to make her feel like crap, just because YOU want to get your rocks off? They are, after all, still human beings.

 

[LongDrinkofWater]

It could be that this fat chick thought in her mind that she was a '10' rather than have low self esteem. Nothing at all to do with you.
How many times have you seen some overweight chick dressing like, dancing like, or flirting as if she was the hottest thing on earth? I know I have too many times. On one hand I think 'ok, fat but dosen't care what anyone else thinks' but on the other I'm thinking she's making a fool out of herself.

 

[juanita]

It could be that this fat chick thought in her mind that she was a '10' rather than have low self esteem. Nothing at all to do with you.
How many times have you seen some overweight chick dressing like, dancing like, or flirting as if she was the hottest thing on earth? I know I have too many times. On one hand I think 'ok, fat but dosen't care what anyone else thinks' but on the other I'm thinking she's making a fool out of herself.

u re absolutely right here. i just happen to have a chubby friend, looks like a complete potato and has the same equal face. u can't believe what high self esteem she has! and she seriously considers herself the hottest babe on earth. so maybe that chabby girl of yours is still living in a past when she had normal body. this happens too.

 

[SoCalMike]

It's the same thing when a HB9 blows of an average looking guy, he feels like crap.
She blows you off because she can't believe a good looking guy is interested in her. She thinks you're just after a quick f***...and she's probably right. It might surprise you, but even fat chicks get sick of being nothing more than a blow-up doll with a pulse.
Why do you think a fat chick should feel grateful that you want to make her feel like crap, just because YOU want to get your rocks off? They are, after all, still human beings.

Good point. I guess in my mind as just view it as this: an attractive guy is not going to want a relationship with a fat girl. Fat girls know this. If the attractive guy goes after fat girl she know's it's just for NSA sex.

Now, that being said, does the fat girl not just want to have NSA sex now and then? I mean, is she getting laid so much she can be picky? Not likely. This girl told me she hadn't had a b/f in 4 years!

If I were a fat guy, and some hot girl wanted to "use" me for sex one night you think I'm going to say no?

My view, arrogant as it may sound, is if you're fat or ugly (guy or girl) and an attractive person wants NSA sex with you, then take what you can get - don't try to act like you're some big prize. But they can't, because they know they'd get attached to you and get hurt.

That's my point here - it's an act, just used to save face.

 

[SoCalMike]

It could be that this fat chick thought in her mind that she was a '10' rather than have low self esteem. Nothing at all to do with you.
How many times have you seen some overweight chick dressing like, dancing like, or flirting as if she was the hottest thing on earth? I know I have too many times. On one hand I think 'ok, fat but dosen't care what anyone else thinks' but on the other I'm thinking she's making a fool out of herself.

Man that is so true. But again, it's just an act. She knows what she is. Even if she's in denial about it, she knows.

 

[DJnoob]

I think you got my point across 10x better than I could.

I'm not referring to just getting laid, I should have specified that. I just meant the "I'm going to hurt/reject you before you can do it to me" thing.

When I was really fat, this I had the mentality of the "FAT CHICK"

If a really hot chick was trying to talk to me, In my head I would be like

"what could a hot chick like this possibly want from me, I have nothing to offer her.. I don't look good, im fat, etc etc, there are better guys than me, she's just gona hurt me later on, or maybe she just wants to use me for something (definitely not sex) and just dump me later on when she's done with me. Well, I aint gona help her, fvck her"

 

[SoCalMike]

When I was really fat, this I had the mentality of the "FAT CHICK"

If a really hot chick was trying to talk to me, In my head I would be like

"what could a hot chick like this possibly want from me, I have nothing to offer her.. I don't look good, im fat, etc etc, there are better guys than me, she's just gona hurt me later on, or maybe she just wants to use me for something (definitely not sex) and just dump me later on when she's done with me. Well, I aint gona help her, fvck her"

Exactly, it's a defense mechanism. Sometimes guys have this idea that if a girl is fat or ugly she'll be easy which is usually not the case.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Exactly, it's a defense mechanism. Sometimes guys have this idea that if a girl is fat or ugly she'll be easy which is usually not the case.

In other words greasy doesn't necessarily mean easy.

 

[SoCalMike]

In other words greasy doesn't necessarily mean easy.

LOL Quote of the day.

 

[OrioleMagic]

Some fat chicks give good head, so don't knock it. lol :rockon:

I'm not saying you have to marry one.

My personal taste runs more to the thick women. Say 5'6" and 150 lbs, with 80% in the tits and Asz. Skinny, Paris Hilton types don't do anything for me.
Alright, I know I'll get a lot of hate for this, but if you never fvcked a thick chick you don't know what you're missing.

 

[juanita]

a question to Oriolemagic: i have always been wondering why some guys sometimes prefer fat girls, so u seem to be an expert on this. could u please enlighten me on this subject? it's sometime very weird to see in gym a guy with a normal body coming together with a complete plum girl. so this question was bothering me for a long time i don't know why.