SmoothTalker
Master Don Juan
Met this girl a few weeks ago, at the time I just got her email, later on she gave me her home number.
Called her up for the first time today to set something up for sometime next week since I figured everyone would be busy until then with Christmas, but she said she was free this evening, so I invited her to dinner at a place we had previousy discussed. Now usually I do something more creative and exciting than dinner, but today I was honestly too tired for anything active (helped a friend move all day yesterday), and besides I like this place. The place we chose is about a 5 minute drive from me, and a 25 minute drive from her. I asked if she had a way of getting here (we're students and a lot of people don't have cars) and she said yes, so we agreed to meet at 5.
I got caught up in something on the way there so I arrive about 10 minutes late and find that she's not there yet. I grab a table and order a drink and just kill some time. After about 5 more minutes I get pretty tired of waiting and give her a call at her home number (don't have the cell) to see if she forgot and her room mate says she left a while ago, so I'm really not sure what's taking so long. Well whether she shows or not I'm hungry, so I order an appetizer.
Just a bit shy of half an hour late, she finally shows up. Now normally I would be pretty unimpressed with a date being half an hour late, but in this case I really have to give her a break because the bus she wanted to take didn't show up (the public transit in my area is crap). What surprised me was that she even came, by bus her trip was almost an hour and a half, which I consider a pretty damn strong IOI. Also she apparently felt bad that she was late and couldn't let me know, so she made me a card while on the bus haha, okay whatever..
Aside from the late arrival the rest of the night goes pretty well, we chat, I do some C&F, joke around a lot, keep good eye contact, tease her a tiny bit. At one point there was a moment of awkward silence, though I've discovered a fun little way of diffusing such situations. When I feel it coming I gesture while saying ".... wait for it...., and there's the awkward silence!" and laugh. Makes her laugh and gets the ball rolling again.
I am a bit annoyed that our seating arrangement really does not allow for much kino, but she seems rather into me regardless, and the EC is definitely helping.
After we leave I offer to drive her to a bus stop that will save her about half the trip because I have to go to that area anyway. She agrees so I drive her, just light fun conversation on the drive. At this point I float the suggestion of a second get together that's more to my liking (playing pool in this case) and she agrees in principle.
When we get to the destination I park but decide not to get out (it's cold in Canada, after all). We exchange cell phone numbers at this point for easier future contact. As she's getting ready to leave she turns to look at me and I spread my arms for an 'awkward car hug', which we do. After the hug I hold my hand on her shoulder for a second and pause before fully seperating, and go for a kiss, which is well received. Very brief make out ensues, after which I set a more specific day and time for the next date.
Overall, I felt it went good. I wish she had shown up on time, but as someone that took the bus for years here before buying a car, I can understand the reliability is crap, and I can appreciate that she made the effort of going that far just to see me. A date which allowed more kino would have been nice, but even without it I was getting rather good vibes. I think if we had a more appropriate setting I probably could have gone a bit beyond making out, but I can save that for next time.
I've had a pretty rough time since ending an LTR not too long ago, so I'm glad to be getting back in the game. I'll probably post an FR for the next date if anything interesting happens.
Called her up for the first time today to set something up for sometime next week since I figured everyone would be busy until then with Christmas, but she said she was free this evening, so I invited her to dinner at a place we had previousy discussed. Now usually I do something more creative and exciting than dinner, but today I was honestly too tired for anything active (helped a friend move all day yesterday), and besides I like this place. The place we chose is about a 5 minute drive from me, and a 25 minute drive from her. I asked if she had a way of getting here (we're students and a lot of people don't have cars) and she said yes, so we agreed to meet at 5.
I got caught up in something on the way there so I arrive about 10 minutes late and find that she's not there yet. I grab a table and order a drink and just kill some time. After about 5 more minutes I get pretty tired of waiting and give her a call at her home number (don't have the cell) to see if she forgot and her room mate says she left a while ago, so I'm really not sure what's taking so long. Well whether she shows or not I'm hungry, so I order an appetizer.
Just a bit shy of half an hour late, she finally shows up. Now normally I would be pretty unimpressed with a date being half an hour late, but in this case I really have to give her a break because the bus she wanted to take didn't show up (the public transit in my area is crap). What surprised me was that she even came, by bus her trip was almost an hour and a half, which I consider a pretty damn strong IOI. Also she apparently felt bad that she was late and couldn't let me know, so she made me a card while on the bus haha, okay whatever..
Aside from the late arrival the rest of the night goes pretty well, we chat, I do some C&F, joke around a lot, keep good eye contact, tease her a tiny bit. At one point there was a moment of awkward silence, though I've discovered a fun little way of diffusing such situations. When I feel it coming I gesture while saying ".... wait for it...., and there's the awkward silence!" and laugh. Makes her laugh and gets the ball rolling again.
I am a bit annoyed that our seating arrangement really does not allow for much kino, but she seems rather into me regardless, and the EC is definitely helping.
After we leave I offer to drive her to a bus stop that will save her about half the trip because I have to go to that area anyway. She agrees so I drive her, just light fun conversation on the drive. At this point I float the suggestion of a second get together that's more to my liking (playing pool in this case) and she agrees in principle.
When we get to the destination I park but decide not to get out (it's cold in Canada, after all). We exchange cell phone numbers at this point for easier future contact. As she's getting ready to leave she turns to look at me and I spread my arms for an 'awkward car hug', which we do. After the hug I hold my hand on her shoulder for a second and pause before fully seperating, and go for a kiss, which is well received. Very brief make out ensues, after which I set a more specific day and time for the next date.
Overall, I felt it went good. I wish she had shown up on time, but as someone that took the bus for years here before buying a car, I can understand the reliability is crap, and I can appreciate that she made the effort of going that far just to see me. A date which allowed more kino would have been nice, but even without it I was getting rather good vibes. I think if we had a more appropriate setting I probably could have gone a bit beyond making out, but I can save that for next time.
I've had a pretty rough time since ending an LTR not too long ago, so I'm glad to be getting back in the game. I'll probably post an FR for the next date if anything interesting happens.