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[zackfreeflo]

Basically we were set up by a mutual friend i took her to a school dance, and i thought we hit it off. She was opening up telling me about her family, how her parents are divorced etc so i figured i had built enough comfort. She was literally pulling me onto the dance floor all night the only mistake i might have made was leaving her alone a couple of times during the night. Tried a compliance test after taking her home when we were alone after she mentioned how my friend was making out with his girlfriend in the backseat as we drove home. She had her arms crossed that was the first bad sign but i decided to just ASK (stupid right) and she says she cant because she has a boyfriend, so i tell her that i'm not the jealous type and she says shes just faithful. So i give her a neg and as my friend comes to pick me up in my car she turns and says, "Thought i'd let you know you were looking good tonight".

She was texting a couple times during the night and a friend of mine asked her and she said it was her boyfriend she was texting but he only told me the next day.

Did i try too much too soon, did i mess up the timing, is it the boyfriend, should i keep texting her?

 

[Tiguere]

moveeeeee onnnnnm

 

[Pathgen]

A friend of mine used to say, "nobody can have all of them, neither can you"

 

[Iceberg]

Basically we were set up by a mutual friend i took her to a school dance, and i thought we hit it off. She was opening up telling me about her family, how her parents are divorced etc so i figured i had built enough comfort.

That's not sexual comfort. That's "best friends" comfort.

Either way, I don't see anything worth pursuing in this. She's just one girl. Rejected your kiss. Has a boyfriend. You could have 5 other girls during the time you waste trying to figure this girl out.

 

[Mike32ct]

Basically we were set up by a mutual friend i took her to a school dance, and i thought we hit it off.

Being set up with a girl rarely works. They have to click with a guy naturally.

She was opening up telling me about her family, how her parents are divorced etc so i figured i had built enough comfort.

I agree with Iceberg that that sounds friends-like.

She was literally pulling me onto the dance floor all night

She likes attention and dancing. That, by itself, is neutral. Let me guess, she was NOT dancing and/or grinding you up close, face to face. That would have been a sign of interest.

the only mistake i might have made was leaving her alone a couple of times during the night.

Don't follow her like a puppy, but don't ditch your date either unless she's really ignoring you.

Tried a compliance test after taking her home when we were alone

PUA techniques are for cold approaches, not so much for working chicks you already know.

after she mentioned how my friend was making out with his girlfriend in the backseat as we drove home.

She's quite interested in your friend and what he's doing with a girl. Red flag.

She had her arms crossed that was the first bad sign

Agreed.

but i decided to just ASK (stupid right) and she says she cant because she has a boyfriend, so i tell her that i'm not the jealous type and she says shes just faithful.

Don't ask for a kiss. Just try it and see how it goes.

So i give her a neg

Negging is a PUA technique to be used when you first meet a chick. It's out of context here.

and as my friend comes to pick me up in my car she turns and says, "Thought i'd let you know you were looking good tonight".

She's attracted to your guy friend. This is one possible hazard of having a wingman.

She was texting a couple times during the night and a friend of mine asked her and she said it was her boyfriend she was texting but he only told me the next day.

Boyfriend or not, she was either texting a guy she's fooling around with or complaining to a girlfriend about how lame the date/dance was.

Did i try too much too soon, did i mess up the timing, is it the boyfriend, should i keep texting her?

I'm sorry bro. She isn't interested. I will give you dance tips though. You can tell A LOT about how interested a chick is by HOW she dances with you.

High interest:

Holds you tight, and does some face to face, nearly cheek to cheek grinding. This suggests she may be open to kissing and/or a makeout. Grinding her as* is ok, but she should turn around or allow herself to be turned around to be face to face every so often. (A chick who is NOT attracted will NOT let you be in a position to kiss her.)

Low interest:

Grinds with her back to you ONLY and looks around the dance floor (for other sausage). Or she makes no physical contact at all and dances a distance away from you while keeping eye contact to a minimum. This all means she's dancing out of boredom and only for attention.

 

[Zarky]

OP, glad you're here, if you're still in school you will be screwing up opportunities left and right until you're in your late 20s at least. Get used to it and don't get too discouraged, the only way to learn is to fail over and over and over.

That, plus the fact that teenage and early-20s girls are extremely hard to screw. They have little experience, even less confidence. Your best bet at your age is to be a real as#hole to them. The younger the girl the better she responds to as#hole game. I mean be a total d!ck.

 

[Z Man]

Why are you taking a girl with a bf to a dance? That is time and money wasted!

If you didn't know she had a bf, why didn't your mutual friend let you know beforehand? Ugh!

 

[zackfreeflo]

Thanx for the advice guys, and Mike32ct i guess i see where i screwed up. I know screwing up is expected while you're learning and i'm used to that. What kind of game works on girls that i do know?

Somebody please elaborate on this as#hole game.

 

[Mike32ct]

As@hole game is powerful, but it's not my expertise. I'll defer. Can someone help him with that?

The best advice I can give you is to try to meet as many new girls as possible. One of the most powerful tools, IME, is a clean slate. A new girl doesn't know about any past mistakes you might have made in the game. If she's initially attracted, you have something to work with. Otherwise, next.

Keep gaming and good luck.

 

[joverby]

I'm sorry bro. She isn't interested. I will give you dance tips though. You can tell A LOT about how interested a chick is by HOW she dances with you.

High interest:

Holds you tight, and does some face to face, nearly cheek to cheek grinding. This suggests she may be open to kissing and/or a makeout. Grinding her as* is ok, but she should turn around or allow herself to be turned around to be face to face every so often. (A chick who is NOT attracted will NOT let you be in a position to kiss her.)

Low interest:

Grinds with her back to you ONLY and looks around the dance floor (for other sausage). Or she makes no physical contact at all and dances a distance away from you while keeping eye contact to a minimum. This all means she's dancing out of boredom and only for attention.

This guy is spot on with the dancing. I made the mistake of not seeing it when I was getting only the ass grinding, no face to face. We were at a DJ(Dub Step) concert though with a show going on in front of us.

But she would also start moving forward and be between me and another dude, I almost felt like ditching her. But I would just stand still where I was at and not move with her. As to be like, hey if you want to dance with that dude infront of me that's cool. But you can't have both.

 

[Iceberg]

As@hole game is powerful, but it's not my expertise. I'll defer. Can someone help him with that?

The best advice I can give you is to try to meet as many new girls as possible. One of the most powerful tools, IME, is a clean slate. A new girl doesn't know about any past mistakes you might have made in the game. If she's initially attracted, you have something to work with. Otherwise, next.

Keep gaming and good luck.

Ashole game (I guess that's a PUA term) doesn't sound like this guy's style. I mean, if you gotta ask how to be an aszhole, then you probably aren't one and shouldn't pretend to be. Actually a lot of what Zackfreeflo says seemed tied to PUA tricks (compliance test, etc).

As Mike32 said, go out and meet more chicks. It's less about memorizing tricks and tactics and more about getting a social vibe about yourself. Learn to start conversations, learn to flirt, stuff like that. The best guys I've seen at getting girls are the ones who can talk to anyone about anything. They can turn anything into a conversation. And it's not even in a flirtatious way. It's just talking about something funny or interesting, and THEN guiding it down the path you want. I was entering a building this morning, and the door was heavy as hell, so I say to the girl behind me, "There goes my workout for the day." and it starts a quick conversation about the building...Just talk to people.

Most importantly, never get too down on yourself about the loss of ONE girl. Nobody out there is batting 1000. All this "What could I have done differently" stuff...sometimes there's nothing you could do differently. Sometimes the girl just isn't into you.