It has definitely been a mixed bag for me. Some have simply said, I'm on the pill so it doesn't matter let's go for it. Some asked for it but don't seem too strict about it with the typical "just the tip" stuff. Some are more strict and even carry their own condoms.
The last girl that came over to my new place (I was in the middle of moving to a house I recently bought and therefore in between houses) and as we got underdressed I told her I didn't have any condoms here and were at my other place. She said, "that's okay, I brought some" which honestly took me by surprise. She obvi wanted it and was prepared for it, and obviously, I wasn't and that wasn't my goal to the surprise of most guys here probably.
I straight up said, "Nope! it ain't gonna happen tonight hun". I'm not p***y whipped or desperate. I rather use my OWN condoms. I mean she didn't seem crazy but I am not gonna take that chance. She obviously took it personally and her attitude changed and left my place right after. Needless to say, I deleted the contact and that was the last of her.
The girl before her, just two days before the girl above, same scenario but I was at my other place and had condoms but told her no (even though I regret it as it would have been a fun time and now knowing there wasn't gonna be another time) and she seemed okay with it at first. She then bailed a few days later for whatever reason. Deleted the contact and again, that was the last of her.
Goes to say, girls are not used to rejection.
But to your post, it really depends on the girl and her interest in you. So three scenarios among many other:
A girl with super firm values aka a "quality" girl will always protect herself and demand a condom even if on the pill. Even though with the right guy she miiiiight bypass it.
A girl with no strict boundaries and high interest, with the right male, will bypass it.
A girl with or without strict boundaries and medium interest, will not bypass it.
Keep in mind these are possible scenarios, and there is no absolute one-size-fits-all scenario. There are many factors that can play into a potential sexual encounter. Sex for women is a thing of the moment, it is strictly attached to how she feels right then and there. And emotions simply float for them, so it's so subjective from moment to moment.
Regardless, men should look out for themselves. We have only one way to protect ourselves from getting a woman pregnant and catching an STD. Use it unless you know the girl, are committed and are aware of the risks.
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