I know dude, this whole thing isn't good for me. Like I said, in hind sight I know I should've listened to the you can't negotiate feelings / desire advice I heard. Obviously why I freaked out, saw there wasn't mutual desire and thought I could control it by talking to her. Because it does just seem really stupid to even think about trying. You're right on both points man. IDK , need to change my mentality pretty drastically.AlexDP said:Joverby,
I understand why this is important to you. Two things though:
a) This girl is borderline you say. She's no good for you. Yet you're pressuring her to be in an official relationship. What does that say about you?
b) If you want to be in an official relationship with a borderline, if you want her to want it, this is not the way to do it.
Try to relax and think about this on a more rational level. I am in no way having a go at you, I understand you completely. But the way you're behaving and thinking right now isn't going to help your cause.
Before I brought it up she was making plans for this weekend w/ me(all on her own accord). So I probably did freak out premmaturely about it but obviously there are a lot bigger issues going on.
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And IDK how you think the lies are no big deal. Unless you don't think she is I guess. I know the bigger issue with that statement is why would I want to be w/ someone who I think lied to me. The short answer, IDK.