Facebook, Jealously and Maintaining Frame

[bacchus]

I've been single now for about a year now after being locked down in a 7 year LTR. I had a hiccup at the start and got involved with a crazy/possibly BPD chick, but got out of that quickly thanks to the sage advice of some of my brothers on this message board. Since then, I have made living the Don Juan life my mission.

All I have to say to anyone out there hating on the Don Juan principles/Manosphere (and it seems there are more and more haters cropping up), trust me when I say that I went from being a complete AFC at the end of my relationship - to the point where I had to break up with her because she no longer respected me - to being a 33 year old fairly average looking dude with a steady diet of 20-24 year old HB8s+ that want to hook up with/date me... all because I made this **** my mothafvcking MISSION. And no, I don't make a lot of money (although I do have a pretty badass job)

Thanks to all of you (and especially to ROLLO TOMASSI if you're reading this - you've changed my life). I love you guys.

I still have a major sticking point that I was hoping to get some help with. When I was last single, nobody had really heard of Facebook. Myspace etc wasn't popular. Now, it is everywhere and I find myself getting extremely jealous shortly after any of the girls I date add me to their Facebook. Last night, for instance, as I was laying naked in a state of post-coital bliss with a slim, busty and perky 21 year old, the inevitable "do you have Facebook" question came up as I was preparing to leave to go home. We added each other, and of course once I got home my curiosity gets the best of me and I check out her page right away.

I found the same thing that I always find with any of the HB8's+ in their early 20s... lots of lots of sexy pics, some that had received 100+ likes, and numerous "damn girl u so fine" type comments from jacked and admittedly better-looking-than-me guys. How do I compete with this shlt? Especially if I want to lock one of these girls down at some point?

Knowing what I know now about hypergamy, isn't it inevitable that the barrage of attention hot women receive on Facebook will led to getting cheated on/dumped for a more attractive alternative?

 

[The Duke]

Well its you she is in bed with right? She's not in bed with the jacked dude telling her how fine she is on her fakebook. She has multiple men pursuing her and she chose you over them for a reason. I haven't seen a hot girl yet go out with one of those guys who that are telling her how beautiful she is. You know why? Because its not attractive language to her. It does nothing to pique her interest. Its does nothing to make that guy stand out above the crowd of pursuers.

Women will always go after whatever is most the most attractive alternative. You can't prevent it, so stop worrying about it. Just carry out the practices that are discussed on this forum so you can remain "attractive", and don't look back.

I used to date this HB9. Before me she had been with tall guys with big muscles. I am definitely not all that! lol. But I didn't care about them because I knew I brought something to the table that those guys couldn't. Thats why she was fukn me and not them. Girls choose the guys they do for a multitude of reasons(status, money, make them laugh, emotional/situational connection, power, bad boy, hobbies, romantic, alpha traits, beta traits, father figure, security, etc).

I have yet to meet one of these big muscled up bad boys that knows anything about women. I just don't see them as the competition.

Enjoy your time, consider yourself a badazz knowing there are a ton of guys out there wishing they were in your shoes.

 

[expos]

isn't it inevitable that the barrage of attention hot women receive on Facebook will led to getting cheated on/dumped for a more attractive alternative?

First, congratulations on dumping that BPD trash and changing your lifestyle.

Always go into these relationships with these "80-100+ profile picture likes" girls with one foot out the door and one foot in. Always suspect the worst, always wear a rubber, and always get your head to a place where you can detach easily and walk away with not much damage.

Happened to me recently. I knew the girl had options, routinely got 50-100 likes on her profile pics, and she had cheated on her husband. I was ready to bail on DAY 1 if I encountered any flakiness or suspect behavior.

There is always going to be competition in the dating world...remember that you are competition to them as well.

 

[HoneyHitter]

Mademoiselle Carrousel

Well its you she is in bed with right? She's not in bed with the jacked dude telling her how fine she is on her fakebook. She has multiple men pursuing her and she chose you over them for a reason.

Lol, nice assumption. Who says he didn't just join their ranks by becoming another **** on her ****carrousel?

Enjoy it for as long as it lasts, and certainly keep it wrapped up for this one!

 

[zekko]

Knowing what I know now about hypergamy, isn't it inevitable that the barrage of attention hot women receive on Facebook will led to getting cheated on/dumped for a more attractive alternative?

Since there are no constraints on female hypergamy in the current society, I always just assume going into ANY relationship that having a girl on "lock down" will always be a temporary thing.

Well its you she is in bed with right? She's not in bed with the jacked dude telling her how fine she is on her fakebook.

True, but maybe she was yesterday.

 

[Zunder]

I still have a major sticking point that I was hoping to get some help with. When I was last single, nobody had really heard of Facebook. Myspace etc wasn't popular. Now, it is everywhere and I find myself getting extremely jealous shortly after any of the girls I date add me to their Facebook. Last night, for instance, as I was laying naked in a state of post-coital bliss with a slim, busty and perky 21 year old, the inevitable "do you have Facebook" question came up as I was preparing to leave to go home. We added each other, and of course once I got home my curiosity gets the best of me and I check out her page right away.

I found the same thing that I always find with any of the HB8's+ in their early 20s... lots of lots of sexy pics, some that had received 100+ likes, and numerous "damn girl u so fine" type comments from jacked and admittedly better-looking-than-me guys. How do I compete with this shlt? Especially if I want to lock one of these girls down at some point?

You are on Facebook = Beta.
You are adding girls you pump straightaway and then going checking their page when you get home = Double Beta
You say "I find myself getting extremely jealous shortly after any of the girls I date add me to their Facebook" = Triple Beta with a cherry on top.
Leaving "BetaBook" may not cure your Betaness, but it is sure as hell a good way to start yourself on the road.
Get. The. Fvck. Off. Facebook.

 

[bacchus]

You are on Facebook = Beta.
You are adding girls you pump straightaway and then going checking their page when you get home = Double Beta
You say "I find myself getting extremely jealous shortly after any of the girls I date add me to their Facebook" = Triple Beta with a cherry on top.
Leaving "BetaBook" may not cure your Betaness, but it is sure as hell a good way to start yourself on the road.
Get. The. Fvck. Off. Facebook.

Getting off Facebook... that's great advice (if I was a 43 year old dude who was ok with limiting his sexual conquests to overweight divorced soccer moms). A newsflash for ya buddy... the early 20s demographic lives and breathes Facebook, and you aren't a real person to anyone in said demographic if you aren't on it and almost assuredly will get yourself slotted into the creeper category.

Appreciate the tips Mr. Keyboard jockey.

 

[Zunder]

the early 20s demographic lives and breathes Facebook, and you aren't a real person to anyone in said demographic if you aren't on it and almost assuredly will get yourself slotted into the creeper category..

So, this tells me:
You justify following the facebook herd by advising that are you are not considered a real person, and in fact are a "creeper" if you are not on facebook?

That is one fvcked up way to live.

If you know the answers, and you have a 'steady diet of 20 something lays' what are you doing on Sosuave putting up a post with an obvious beta mindset? I offered you some advice, and it obviously hit a raw nerve. Do whatever you want, but grow a thicker skin.

 

[bacchus]

So, this tells me:
You justify following the facebook herd by advising that are you are not considered a real person, and in fact are a "creeper" if you are not on facebook?

That is one fvcked up way to live.

If you know the answers, and you have a 'steady diet of 20 something lays' what are you doing on Sosuave putting up a post with an obvious beta mindset? I offered you some advice, and it obviously hit a raw nerve. Do whatever you want, but grow a thicker skin.

To sum up your post, you've deduced that I have an "obvious beta mindset", knowing nothing else about me, based upon the fact that I:

1) Am on Facebook and 'follow the Facebook herd';
2) Added a young HB8 to Facebook after successfully nailing her on a first date;
3) Viewed her Facebook page, and;
4) Felt jealously.

Your 'advice' didn't hit a raw nerve, it was condescension disguised as sh1tty advice. My taking exception to that does not mean I do not have thick skin. Since the dissolution of my 7 year relationship, I have received all kinds of advice and constructive criticism on this site which I have taken in earnest and with gratitude. I've also read almost everything posted on this site, and I can't recall one useful post or comment you've ever made - and I have a very good memory. The reality is you know nothing about me. You came to a baseless and premature judgment about my "betaness that needs to be cured", based on a single post, to feel more alpha about yourself as you sit in your basement, in your underwear, with your bucket of fried chicken in your lap, lamenting the wasted years of your life.

My turn to come to a premature judgment about you: you're a pompous idiot, the wannabe schoolyard bully who is enabled by the grace of the anonymity of the internet. That is anything but alpha.

I'll let you get back to your fried chicken now... I have a 22 year old plate to tend to.

Prick.

 

[Zunder]

To sum up your post, you've deduced that I have an "obvious beta mindset", knowing nothing else about me, based upon the fact that I:

1) Am on Facebook and 'follow the Facebook herd';
2) Added a young HB8 to Facebook after successfully nailing her on a first date;
3) Viewed her Facebook page, and;
4) Felt jealously.

Your 'advice' didn't hit a raw nerve, it was condescension disguised as sh1tty advice. My taking exception to that does not mean I do not have thick skin. Since the dissolution of my 7 year relationship, I have received all kinds of advice and constructive criticism on this site which I have taken in earnest and with gratitude. I've also read almost everything posted on this site, and I can't recall one useful post or comment you've ever made - and I have a very good memory. The reality is you know nothing about me. You came to a baseless and premature judgment about my "betaness that needs to be cured", based on a single post, to feel more alpha about yourself as you sit in your basement, in your underwear, with your bucket of fried chicken in your lap, lamenting the wasted years of your life.

My turn to come to a premature judgment about you: you're a pompous idiot, the wannabe schoolyard bully who is enabled by the grace of the anonymity of the internet. That is anything but alpha.

I'll let you get back to your fried chicken now... I have a 22 year old plate to tend to.

Prick.

What an insecure little kunt.
Listen, boy, who put the post on the forum? You did.
Then, when given some advice--which granted, you are welcome to take or leave--descends into whining like a little beta bytch, then throwing tough guy "internet jockey" barbs my way?
Your pathetic 'fried chicken in the basement' comments are probably an indication where YOUR mindset is at, at the moment.

Any guy that says they have to be on facebook because the sect of girls he wishes to 'bang' would think he is creepy if he were not, has ALREADY LOST THE FRAME.

I have never been a bully in my life, having been bullied in school myself until such time as I took up weightlifting and boxing and so could defend myself, and it is not something I would wish upon anyone. What I did was lay out the way I feel about the modern social "phenomonem" of facebook and what a bunch of beta bullshyt it is.
If you took it personal--that is your problem--don't post on a forum and expect only to hear things back you want to hear.

 

[bacchus]

having been bullied in school

Gee, I would have never guessed.

What an insecure little kunt...

Projection.