Facebook "Are we dating the same guy" groups

[JacquesMemoirs]

Yeah, the truth is that women date a lot more and they sleep around a lot more than most men - by a landslide. They cheat more too

With the internet women have really become tyrants - It reminds me of Medusa.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Yeah, the truth is that women date a lot more and they sleep around a lot more than most men - by a landslide.

Considering the similar sizes of reproductive age male and female populations, how do you suggest this plays out? The only way this would be possible is if a small cohort of men was fvcking and dating the majority of the female population. This means not just hot women but also average and below average women (which are far more numerous). If you live in the real world, you know that this idea is utter nonsense. Top tier men - the so-called Chads - have zero interest in banging, let alone dating average and ugly chicks (for much the same reason why billionaires have zero interest in shopping at Walmart).

 

[The Duke]

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[Clockwerk50]

Yeah, the truth is that women date a lot more and they sleep around a lot more than most men - by a landslide. They cheat more too

With the internet women have really become tyrants - It reminds me of Medusa.

If we’re looking at gender dynamics from an evolutionary perspective, it’s often said that men are polygamous, meaning they have an inherent tendency to seek multiple sexual partners. This is linked to the biological drive to spread their genes as widely as possible. Women, on the other hand, are typically described as hypergamous, meaning they are more inclined to seek out partners who are of higher status, resources, or security.

Because of this, women often tend to be sexually monogamous, not because of a lack of desire, but because their reproductive strategy tends to focus on securing a stable, high-status partner who can provide for them and their offspring over the long term. This leads to a preference for committed relationships, where trust and security are key.

Obviously, these are just guidelines, and everyone is different. But I have to challenge your comment as facts, especially with all the work that has been done in the manosphere throughout the years where many of these ideas have been debated and refined.

 

[JacquesMemoirs]

I’ve never followed a manosphere and never read any of the authors you guys mention

But look, not every guy gets a girl. Some guys stay at home eating ice cream and watching South Park on Saturday nights. Women on the other hand get action if they need it, and they do.

Women minimize their body counts and they’re experts at hiding rendezvous and cheating and masterfully hiding the evidence is built into the nature of females. So you do the math

 

[Clockwerk50]

I’ve never followed a manosphere and never read any of the authors you guys mention

But look, not every guy gets a girl. Some guys stay at home eating ice cream and watching South Park on Saturday nights. Women on the other hand get action if they need it, and they do.

Women minimize their body counts and they’re experts at hiding rendezvous and cheating and masterfully hiding the evidence is built into the nature of females. So you do the math

I get that you may not be aware of the broader research on this. Your argument relies on several assumptions: that women have more sex simply because they have more access, that they cheat more than men despite mixed research (@The Duke table below), and that deception is somehow inherent to their nature. But here's the contradiction, there's a general consensus, especially in evolutionary psychology, that women tend to be hypergamous, meaning they seek out high-status or high-value men. Since those men are in low supply, that actually limits casual sexual access, not increases it. Women cannot be both highly selective and constantly sleeping around, as their biological drive doesn’t align with the idea of promiscuity to the same extent as men due to factors like the nine-month pregnancy period and the greater investment required in raising offspring.

 

[JacquesMemoirs]

Well, men tend to always be a few steps behind with identifying when his woman is getting ready to split. Most men think everything is fine but she’s already got one foot out the door and lining up new dudes to fill his spot.

The women will faithfully keep by his side until she’s ready to split, then he is left wondering what the hell just happened. That in itself is cheating. I’ve read it’s called monkey branching but really it’s just premeditated cheating

Most women think that men are cheating by watching porn. I think women are right about that.

But men won’t think it’s cheating if she has emotional affairs? A woman having an emotional affair is the definition of dishonesty, if not cheating itself.

But my guess is more than half of the women I’ve slept with already had a guy, maybe a boyfriend, a husband, fiancée, or any other commitment. Women will manipulate the narrative to sound like she’s not cheating. In my experience, (all guesswork here), 50% of women I’ve slept with were probably in a relationship with some other dude.

Women will even lie about their notch count in anonymous surveys.

There’s honestly no age range when it comes to women. They’re cheaters from day 1.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Well, men tend to always be a few steps behind with identifying when his woman is getting ready to split. Most men think everything is fine but she’s already got one foot out the door and lining up new dudes to fill his spot.

The women will faithfully keep by his side until she’s ready to split, then he is left wondering what the hell just happened. That in itself is cheating. I’ve read it’s called monkey branching but really it’s just premeditated cheating

Most women think that men are cheating by watching porn. I think women are right about that.

But men won’t think it’s cheating if she has emotional affairs? A woman having an emotional affair is the definition of dishonesty, if not cheating itself.

But my guess is more than half of the women I’ve slept with already had a guy, maybe a boyfriend, a husband, fiancée, or any other commitment. Women will manipulate the narrative to sound like she’s not cheating. In my experience, (all guesswork here), 50% of women I’ve slept with were probably in a relationship with some other dude.

Women will even lie about their notch count in anonymous surveys.

There’s honestly no age range when it comes to women. They’re cheaters from day 1.

Well, what you’re describing actually aligns with a few well-known concepts from the manosphere and what it's trying to teach men about how modern dating dynamics really work: monkey branching, where a woman doesn’t fully leave a relationship until another man is lined up, usually an orbiter; the light switch effect, where emotional detachment happens quickly but has actually been building in silence; gender dynamics where women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of relationships; and the AWALT mindset ("all women are like that"), which basically states that women are hypergamous, emotionally strategic, and always ready to trade up when a better option shows up.

However, I was specifically debating your claim that women “sleep around a lot more than most men — by a landslide.” Your argument has already shifted. You went from talking about women sleeping around more than men, to emotional affairs, porn being cheating, about women lying in anonymous surveys, etc.

 

[self_is_an_illusion]

Has anyone heard of these groups? They are private groups that cover certain areas across the country. Only women are allowed to join. I had no idea these groups existed until this weekend. Some of them have 20-65K members in each group, depending on the size of the area the group covers.

The way it works- a woman can post a pic of a guy either with their first name only or ANONYMOUSLY and other women can comment on the guy.

I recently had a female friend let me know that a pic of me was posted on the group that covers my area. There were several comments, all good, but one chick made a comment to my pic "Hard no". I know the chick that commented with this, as she is butt hurt that I cut her off a couple of years ago.

1.) Not sure how these groups can use people's pics without their permission.

2.) If your pic was on there, is bad publicity still good publicity?

3.) I think it would be good to start one for women lol. Women bytch about single guys talking to mulitple women, but they dont like that same pill when they have to swallow it. Maybe put some of these rachet women on blast.

Thoughts?

What does it say about a society that allows and even normalizes the public posting of people’s images without their consent, particularly in a context where their reputations are being judged anonymously?

What’s important here is not just whether this behavior happens in one direction or the other, but whether we’re fostering a culture of respectful interaction.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

What does it say about a society that allows and even normalizes the public posting of people’s images without their consent, particularly in a context where their reputations are being judged anonymously?

What’s important here is not just whether this behavior happens in one direction or the other, but whether we’re fostering a culture of respectful interaction.

No, what's important is whether the normalization is engineered or organic.

 

[JacquesMemoirs]

What does it say about a society that allows and even normalizes the public posting of people’s images without their consent, particularly in a context where their reputations are being judged anonymously?

What’s important here is not just whether this behavior happens in one direction or the other, but whether we’re fostering a culture of respectful interaction.

I agree, posting photos like that online is seriously bad. It should be illegal

 

[JacquesMemoirs]

the light switch effect, where emotional detachment happens quickly but has actually been building in silence

A whole separate topic in itself.

but the truth is she puts out plenty of hints and men just don’t pick up on it in time.