F___d Up Dating Scene?

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OK, I want to talk about whats up in sydney --

From what I've experienced, there seems to be a strong apathy toward dating culture in sydney. It also seems that girls just simply aren't interested in meeting new guys. Everyone seems so ****ing conservative, at least where I am -- you only have a chance with a girl if you're in her social circle - i.e. school, college, uni. Even some of my friends in uni have said that its tough to beak into the tight cliques that tend to form!

So I'm wondernig -- what's the antidote to this? There's a hell of a lot of overseas students here in sydney -- how do they cope?

Maybe it's just me. Maybe my I'm supposed to be dressnig like a million dollars, have a groupies hanging to my shirt, roll up in a limozine, etc. just to get a ****ing date in the park with one of these broads.

But for the most part it seems like you can be the hottest guy on the block -- and still not get *anywhere* because you're just not in with the right cliques.

Oh BTW, sorry to be negative, but Sydney is *seriously* lacking in hot chicks. The ratio of fugly:average:hot is 70:20:10 im afraid.

Any feedback?...
 

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I live in New Zealand, and the situation is the same.

What's worse is that this is a secluded, medium city with a medium University ----> meaning every person here still has all their friends from Uni, and the Uni students grew up and went to high school with the same group of friends.

You've gotta get into groups and clubs - charity, political, sports, whatever. If you think you can stand it, show up for a meeting. It beats cold approaching in a town that's just not built for it.
 

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this can't possibly be the case at night clubs can it?

it may not be your scene - it certainly is not mine... but it might be worth checking out.

it seems to me that people going through their day to day lives seem like they're not very into meeting strangers either.

but i'm betting the bar/club scene is different. i'm thinking of adding these venues to my repertoire. you guys may benefit from that as well.

delta
 

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I live close to Sydney though I am not in Uni yet. So i can't really comment.

Also as i dont drink, going after drunk or alcohol girls at clubs aint my thing. Rather quietish type. well not very but you know.
 

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We used to go to Sydney on leave and tear the place apart. Get out there and have fun! There's still a chick or two in Sydney I sleep with when I'm up there.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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hey LB,

i totally hear you about being the "quietish type"... but hear this ok, take it to heart, if you're not getting chicks as you are and as you are comfortable with, YOU NEED TO CHANGE!

seriously, i spent a great deal of my youth being bookish and smart as a whip and nerdy as heck.

but it got me nowhere. with women.

i have at least the development of a pretty good career to chalk up to my twenties but if there are no chicks for you now as you are and where you go, change.

spread your wings. stretch yourself. try the bar/club scene if you can. if you have buddies who do, tag along and just check it out.
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or you can go the complete OTHER way and try going to church if that's more your speed.

idea is, get yourself to a place where women are and where it is okay (and they are open) to meeting you.

luck

delta

p.s. as a yank, i'm surprised as all heck that the land of nicole kidman and naomi watts is filled with fuglies! i would've imagined it is literally crawling with blond beauties!
 

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manuva said:
We used to go to Sydney on leave and tear the place apart. Get out there and have fun! There's still a chick or two in Sydney I sleep with when I'm up there.
So how did you meet these convenient ****-buddies -- I mean if you tore the place up Im assuming you mean went wild at the clubs, etc. Not just crashed out with some people you *already knew from way back*.

The fact is, if you're in the right social circle, you're pretty much SET UP as far as women concerned. I used to be in that situation with the local church -- I never even knew about sites like this!!

Unfortunately that all fell apart.

Its funny, I meet a lot of chicks online from the U.S. -- and I'm talking places like New York. They're very open to conversation! These are supposedly "harder to get" girls yet theyr very friendly and flirtatious.
 

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It's a few years since I was in Sydney regularly.

Yeah, I'd meet them at clubs where we were partying hard. I think chicks in Sydney are a lot easier to 'get' than in Melbourne.

The f*ck buddies I catch up with occasionally in Sydney are girls I met in bars and clubs whilst out partying. I didn't meet any of them through friends or contacts.
 

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last time I checked, girls down under still had ***** and estrogen
 

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manuva said:
It's a few years since I was in Sydney regularly.

Yeah, I'd meet them at clubs where we were partying hard. I think chicks in Sydney are a lot easier to 'get' than in Melbourne.

The f*ck buddies I catch up with occasionally in Sydney are girls I met in bars and clubs whilst out partying. I didn't meet any of them through friends or contacts.
Maybe I need a trip up to QLD, last time I was there was when I was 15. Had a the girls chasing me. Pity I was too stupid to actually lay any of them.

I could get out into the club scene more like some other guy was saying. There's been a huge influx of students (mainly asian), maybe that will shake things up a bit.

But when I step into the local bars, etc. the people have this way of making strangers really FEEL LIKE STRANGERS. The guys too. I'm not just talking b_tch-sheild.

Hey let me know if ur in Sydney sometime we could roll together :D
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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