F*cking UP

[Love Ninja]

It's interesting that all of the strategies and methods discussed on this forum suggest that our mistakes with women could give way to getting more experience and making better decisions in the future. Which I believe.

In essence "There are no mistakes..."

Afterall, unless you look at women with scarcity, then losing a single prospect is completely irrelevant. Completely!

I say risk... Risk big!
Don't listen to the handful of guys here that go around calling other posters, that share their stories, "pussies" or "idiots".

Screw them... at least you're taking action.

A few posts ago I was told I'm in the FRIENDZONE and theres no salvation because I screwed up. But DIDN'T listen to their judgments, only their feedback- and their feedback, as unkind as it was, had value ... but I also decided that they didn't define my reality! AND I AM SO HAPPY I MADE THAT DISTINCTION.

Risk alot! Risk Big! GO against the grain sometimes! Rules AND people are not etched in stone!

“When in doubt, make a fool of yourself. There is a microscopically thin line between being brilliantly creative and acting like the most gigantic idiot on earth. So what the hell, leap.”

 

[drtk]

You are an inspiration to us all man.

 

[decadentdestruction]

It's interesting that all of the strategies and methods discussed on this forum suggest that our mistakes with women could give way to getting more experience and making better decisions in the future. Which I believe.

In essence "There are no mistakes..."

Afterall, unless you look at women with scarcity, then losing a single prospect is completely irrelevant. Completely!

I say risk... Risk big!
Don't listen to the handful of guys here that go around calling other posters, that share their stories, "pussies" or "idiots".

Screw them... at least you're taking action.

A few posts ago I was told I'm in the FRIENDZONE and theres no salvation because I screwed up. But DIDN'T listen to their judgments, only their feedback- and their feedback, as unkind as it was, had value ... but I also decided that they didn't define my reality! AND I AM SO HAPPY I MADE THAT DISTINCTION.

Risk alot! Risk Big! GO against the grain sometimes! Rules AND people are not etched in stone!

“When in doubt, make a fool of yourself. There is a microscopically thin line between being brilliantly creative and acting like the most gigantic idiot on earth. So what the hell, leap.”

thanks for writing this ...

 

[Larversurus]

Well written. I agree completely. Those people calling other people idiots are those who'll never get anywhere.

 

[AKA FLEX]

Good posts. The biggest regrets you will have in life are the risks you didn't take...

 

[Paradox]

I agree. Nice post. If a woman really likes you then she will overlook mistakes. I have always said that the "rules" are just guidelines.

This is not a an actual science like math or chemistry. What works for one woman may not work for another.

BTW--Moving this to "tips forum"

 

[Groovy]

From my experience there are different kinds of "damn, I ****ed up" situations.

One is when you say a line that's ment to up her interrest level or somethng and she gives you a "uhhh. okay..." WTF kind of face. And you feel uconfortable and come off as wierd. - THAT'S NOT A MISTAKE, That's stupidity! Or lack of game! Whatever you wanna call it. Stay off of that! That's not the kind of "mistakes" you want to do.

But in that case... The best thing is to act like nothing happened and keep playing it cool and laid back.

The other one is when you two are joking around and have a playful mood, and it doesn't really matter what is being said. You can say something way off, and you don't get the feeling that the world stopped and everyone is silently laughing and saying "What a loser" to you in the inside.

So when two people establish a good connection, and you both are having a good time and are laughing and joking around with eachother... There isn't much "mistakes" you can do. (Altough I have to stress, keep in the frame. Don't do something TOO wierd!).

And remember! The worse thing that can happen to you is what? Nothing! Literally nothing.

In short, talk to people with a laid back mindset and nothing can go wrong! Even if you don't get the girl, you still have fun, so you never loose. And the more risks you have, the more fun you have! If you crash and burn because of a big risk at least you can laugh at yourself later.

Thanks for the nice piece of advice btw! I hope people get it.

 

[h_roberts]

I effed up yesterday with a girl whose digits I got Friday night. This is the one in the other forum that I posted about who I told I would call the next evening and to be expecting it.

This girl was pretty hot, as good as or above anything I've ever had the sack to hit on. So naturally at this stage in my relearning process I was really nervous and stressing as what to say if I called. So I called and got her voicemail. I had jotted a couple of things down to say in the case I got the voicemail, and by doing so I came across as rehearsed and nervous. I just know it didn't sound right.

Lesson learned. I will NEVER go into a phone call with notes again. Just wing it and be laid back. Doesn't really matter what you say, probably the shorter the better. If she's interested, she'll return the call.

Move on, lots'a hos out there.