F*ck I hate being blown off

[Vice]

In all honesty brah, and not to hijack the thread, but what the hell do you DO at a bar by yourself? Especially if money is tight and you can't afford to pay the ridiculous prices a bar charges for a friggin' beer? What do you do to not come across as a "creeper" or loser?

Just curious.

Good question.

Personally, I do whatever the f*ck I want to.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

In all honesty brah, and not to hijack the thread, but what the hell do you DO at a bar by yourself? Especially if money is tight and you can't afford to pay the ridiculous prices a bar charges for a friggin' beer? What do you do to not come across as a "creeper" or loser?

Just curious.

Damn I haven't been on these forums in a while feels to get to back on here and educate you guys!

From the sounds of it you have NEVER tried going to a bar alone...have you? It's pathetic that so many people NEED to go to a bar with people in order to feel "secure." A real man just goes out there and isn't afraid of looking like a "creeper."

This is what you "DO" at a bar by yourself: You PICK UP CHICKS.

I'm 22 now and I started going to bars alone sometimes this past few months not because I don't have people to go with but sometimes it feels better. The reason is because your bros can get in the way of picking up chicks!

How to Pick Up Girls at Bars ALONE:

First off, you need to get rid of this childish idea that you're a creeper or something. Let me ask you a question...have you ever travelled alone? What did you just stay in your hotel room and jack off the whole time? I HOPE NOT.

So get your mindset right first off. Go out and say to yourself...let's see how much FUN I can get myself into. Go up to the bar and grab a drink. Regarding the MONEY comment stop being a loser. Either start making more money or just take a couple of shots of hard liquor before getting into the bar. Plus A cheap beer is only a few bucks...cmon now.

Now you have your beer in hand, just chill out and sit somewhere comfortably maybe start up a convo with the bartender or someone nearby. What you need to look for are: GIRLS in a DUO or SOLO (very rare). Just take your drink over, tell them you're waiting for a friend, and suggest that you join them.

Then make some good convo and go from there.

Seriously, it's not that hard to have fun and pick up chicks at bars by yourself. But you will obviously need to practice a few times because it sounds like you've never ndone it before.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Good question.

Personally, I do whatever the f*ck I want to.

obviously you don't because you felt that was a good question.

 

[The Mad Ghost]

She is doing something i like to call the "Crazy dude test"... she is flaking on purpose to see if you over react and act hostile at all.. women do this alot these days cause the over population of males have cause increase desperation and frustration in many men which cause them to act hostile and violent with women so women play BS games to see if you will snap easily..

When a ho does this you need to become very neutral and just say "ok kool we can kikit some other time" do not try to indicate when the exact next time will be .. you must act like it does not matter to you if or when it happens...

Yup its ****ed up games but we have to play them if we want sex

This.

 

[Schwank]

So later tonight I go on msn and I see the girl who blew me off was on. She shoots me a message saying sorry but her thing with her friend went too long. Yeah sure, I bet her "friend" is some dude, and the "thing" was f*cking. B*tch can't even come up with a suitable excuse, especially when there's things like cell phones that could be used to call or text someone instead of blowing them off. C*nt.

It might be a good idea to drop all the misogynistic labels. Listen, I've copped far worse than what you have (at least from what I've read from your threads). But I don't get all ****ty with the opposite sex. If you're this angry with a girl over such a minor incident then it's probably best you DON'T get a girlfriend. Because what will happen when you're going out with a girl and she dumps you... for another guy?

Learn to control your emotions first.

And you should know by now that women use the internet or text messaging to flake; it's far easier than doing it orally. And you should also know by now that if a girl accepts an offer in person, it doesn't mean ****. A girl will often accept a date offer in-person because they don't want to hurt the guy. (Hey, that's better than asking out a girl and having her shake her head and laugh in your face, isn't it?)

 

[Scion]

Schwank: why are you defending her bad behaviour? She treated me with disrespect end of story. If she didn't want to go out she could have texted me hours before with some obviously fake excuse, instead of just having me wait for her (though after 8 I knew she wasn't ever gonna call). And yeah I'd be pissed if I had a girlfriend that left me for another guy, but at least i'd have had some success with women.

 

[Kailex]

To Scion:

Whenever a woman blows me off... I'M HAPPY.
That's right... you know why? Because in essence, I am dodging a bullet, most likely. Yes, there is the OFF CHANCE that it was something I did or didn't do... but throughout the years, you see PATTERNS. If you KNOW that it's NOT something you do... then you know it's just her.

And how do you know if it's not you?

Experiment.

If EVERY girl rejects you the same way by using the same approach, it's you. But if you get dates with some and flakes with others, it COULD be you, but it's most likely them.

Whenever a girl flakes out on me... do I sit at home and just ponder what went wrong?

NO.

I go out... even if it's by myself, and then comes Part 2.

In all honesty brah, and not to hijack the thread, but what the hell do you DO at a bar by yourself? Especially if money is tight and you can't afford to pay the ridiculous prices a bar charges for a friggin' beer? What do you do to not come across as a "creeper" or loser?

Just curious.

I love this question!!!

Why? Because everyone assumes that because you go out alone... you are a creeper/loner. But, that's far from the truth... do you know how many people both male/female I've met at bars by myself?

I mostly do happy hours though. I love those, because it's a great social atmosphere and a lot of people there are there to let off steam and enjoy lower prices on alcohol and to just overall relax.

People at happy hours are a little more receptive as well.

Sometimes on Thursdays, I'll hit one or two different bars at a social-type bar and sit there and ask what's on tap for happy hour. An hour or two in, you won't spend more than 10 to 15 bucks and you have the chance to meet people.

And usually people at these happy hours are willing to talk to anyone at the bar because there's a little more festive environment to it... guards are let down more in this situation than at night at a night club.

At least, that's a huge pro for myself. And if you don't meet anyone and you just sit there... you're enjoying a cheaper beer within a great atmosphere, right?

But the biggest thing of them all is that whenever I go somewhere... I NEVER FEEL like I'm a creeper/loser... because it shows if you do. You won't be receptive to talking to people and you'll be more worried about what they are probably thinking about you. Nah, I walk in as if everyone knew me there and just talk and try to have a good time. I usually rather go out alone anyway than with people that could screw up my approaches.

 

[Schwank]

Schwank: why are you defending her bad behaviour? She treated me with disrespect end of story. If she didn't want to go out she could have texted me hours before with some obviously fake excuse, instead of just having me wait for her (though after 8 I knew she wasn't ever gonna call). And yeah I'd be pissed if I had a girlfriend that left me for another guy, but at least i'd have had some success with women.

I'm not defending her behaviour; I agree that it was a little discourteous. The point I was trying to make was that you over-reacted. I've had many girls blow me off in a similar fashion. You can fight it all you want, ***** about how rude and snobbish girls are, but it won't do you any good; that's just how they are, and girls won't change. So you can wage a war you can't win, become drained and feeled depressed, or you can dust yourself off, accept that it's not happening with this certain girl and just keep on getting more numbers. Expand your social circle. The more social contacts you have, the more opportunities with girls will present themselves.

 

[DanelMadr]

When a girl flakes on me, I call her to make sure she is all right...if she gives no explanation and apology, I just say OK see ya around and NEXT her.

I could probably secure another date with some teasing and witty remarks but fakk it...I don't want to put my penis in someone who doesn't have the common courtesy to apologize. It will get worse with her.

I remember I chat up a girl - very young and very hot mobile operator street seller/student - and secured a date for next week.

She didn't show up. It was in time I had no idea about seduction whatsoever, so no wonder here.

I texted her if she is OK and she wrote me she had damaged her spine and is heading to hospital right now. I had a feeling she is lying so I offered my help and told her I'm on my way.

Then she had to change her lie....that she is in the hospital and that her female friend is with her. I wrote her that I will still be able to help her since her friend is only a girl and it is better when two people help in case of spine injuries.

So, she told me she has her BF with her. He, he.
So, I told her it does not matter I am almost in the hospital and I will pretend I don't know her - and I will help her anonymously.

She freaked out and told me that she is leaving the hospital right now and I shouldn't come.

See...from injured to hospital to home in 20 minutes. Surgeons these days can do miracles.

I hope she didn't enjoy drowning in her own lies....and it will stop her from lying next time. Who knows.....and who cares actually....I had my small revenge....hearing her squirm

 

[Maxtro]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but isn't it bad to give a woman the power so you're waiting for her to text you?

Why didn't you contact her?

 

[FrankieFunkinGamble]

So later tonight I go on msn and I see the girl who blew me off was on. She shoots me a message saying sorry but her thing with her friend went too long. Yeah sure, I bet her "friend" is some dude, and the "thing" was f*cking. B*tch can't even come up with a suitable excuse, especially when there's things like cell phones that could be used to call or text someone instead of blowing them off. C*nt.

Ha! Dude, girls are flaky this is nothing new. Do you really like this girl? If you're just starting to get to know her than why do you even really care? This is an opportunity to meet someone new.

 

[-E-]

I love this question!!!

Why? Because everyone assumes that because you go out alone... you are a creeper/loner. But, that's far from the truth... do you know how many people both male/female I've met at bars by myself?

I mostly do happy hours though. I love those, because it's a great social atmosphere and a lot of people there are there to let off steam and enjoy lower prices on alcohol and to just overall relax.

People at happy hours are a little more receptive as well.

Sometimes on Thursdays, I'll hit one or two different bars at a social-type bar and sit there and ask what's on tap for happy hour. An hour or two in, you won't spend more than 10 to 15 bucks and you have the chance to meet people.

And usually people at these happy hours are willing to talk to anyone at the bar because there's a little more festive environment to it... guards are let down more in this situation than at night at a night club.

At least, that's a huge pro for myself. And if you don't meet anyone and you just sit there... you're enjoying a cheaper beer within a great atmosphere, right?

But the biggest thing of them all is that whenever I go somewhere... I NEVER FEEL like I'm a creeper/loser... because it shows if you do. You won't be receptive to talking to people and you'll be more worried about what they are probably thinking about you. Nah, I walk in as if everyone knew me there and just talk and try to have a good time. I usually rather go out alone anyway than with people that could screw up my approaches.

Thanks brah, awesome reply. I'll have to check out happy hours as there are a bunch of bars nearby, lots of businesses so they should be pretty crowded. I don't have a problem talking to random people (guys or girls) so I'll just make that outgoing attitude work for me when I go.

 

[J Roc]

if you have OPTIONS you wouldn't care if some girl blew you off. You would just call up another girl on your roster. MORE OPTIONS PLAYA!!!

 

[Scion]

if you have OPTIONS you wouldn't care if some girl blew you off. You would just call up another girl on your roster. MORE OPTIONS PLAYA!!!

yes, but to have more options i'd need girls that agree to go out with me. So far I've just met girls that aren't interested and attention *****s. I'm working on it but I'm afraid at my rate it'll be a while before I'm spinning multiple plates.

 

[Dex Bama]

Dude I know what you mean. I get blown off all the time. i drive like forty mins to pick up a gil and she doesn't answer my call when i get close. It sends me over the edge. makes my blood boil. I go crazy with rage that a piece of **** ***** would treat me like that. and there's no reason for it. Average FRUSTRATED chump. that's why i've started this life style. I don't want to be frustrated anymore. it's ba for my health and social life. So yea it's all about having a new perspective and really, tryin not to put yourself in a sitaution where you let her have the ability to ruin your night. d something else and tell her she can tag along.

 

[DonGorgon]

That seems like BS to me. A girl flakes, gives a sh*tty excuse, and you're just supposed to take it as a test and continue on? I could agree with not letting it get to you and just saying "No worries" or something . . but to continue on with that girl? Really?

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well they have all the PU$$Y so yes they can play games and only the dudes willing to deal with that crap will F them... thats life..

 

[The Mad Ghost]

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