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What does it mean when an attractive woman constantly makes strong eyecontact and stares you down, but yet, you cant get a smile or hello from her? Sometimes she will look away, but most of the time she has laser beam eyes at me. Just the other day, I was at the office printer which sets across from her desk. As I was making copies. I could "Feel her", Staring at me. I looked up at her and sure enough. She was given me that look again.

Today I was talking to a co-worker that sets next to her and as I was talking to him, I could see from my side vision and feel her staring at me again. I glanced over at her. she kepted staring for about a second, then looked away. As soon as I went back to talking to this guy, I could feel her eyes on me again.


Now I have tried to talk to this attractive young woman a few times, but I dont have any luck breakin any ice.

Any suggestions?
 

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That's different man. Normally strong eye contact means a girl is really into you.. but if you can't talk to her, I don't know what to say?
 

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Well, I have made attempts to talk to her, but I dont seem to get a confersation going for some reason. Or if I smile at her, she doesnt return it. Once time, she gave a small smerk and looked away. She is I would say an 8 on a scale of 10
 

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Next time she looks at you say *in a ****y voice* "What do think you're looking at!" and then get it going from there. You can gauge her interest level by so many things.. but this situation is tougher. Try your best to have a conversation with her and then you should be able to tell.
 

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She may be nervous. Just act like it doesn't bother you and joke/smile like she's another regular person, she may come out of her shell eventually. Some women are like that around guys they like. I know it has thrown me for a loop plenty of times because I misenterprit it as being something negative, only to later find out they had a thing for me.
 

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people read to much into this kind of stuff. I've know women who are married and they send me every signal you could imagine, but they don't want anything, they are just being friendly. heck, ive had them say "if i wasnt married i'd scoop you up in a second" and hug me excessively. they are just being friendly though, and i know this.

there are women out there who are overly flirty and want nothing. there are women out there who are overly shy and think because they looked at you once that you should know they like you.

at the end of the day all you can ever know is how you feel. thats it.

if you feel it, act on it.

YOU ARE NOT GOING TO DIE BY FLIRTING WITH HER TO FIND OUT MORE AS TO WHETHER SHE LIKES YOU!

i think the whole dj mentality is focused on that very fact. its IMPOSSIBLE to know what a woman is up to and thinking with 100% accuracy. and the reason is that the same signals can mean different things for different women, and different things for the SAME woman but in different situations.

so you gotta just say f*ck it and take control. if you like her, flirt with her. if she flirts back, flirt even more. if she keeps it going ask her out. if she turns you down, next her.

worst case scenario is that she'll feel like a bit of a slut for playing the flirting game only to be called out on her behavior.

not only that she'll miss all your attention.

trust me, women only have the power if you give it to them. if you are prepared to walk away, then YOU have all the power.
J
 

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listen man in my opinion i believe that the stong eye contact is a sure sign of attraction. but the problem with you failing to talk to her may not be your fault. if u can feel her stare and are sure she is into you, it may be that it is a pure lustfull attraction. women like this are looking for a strong assertive man but one who is disscrete. so you may need to make a play on her at the job. i suggest someplace like a supply room or even walking into the ladies room behind her. either way you will find out what she is up to. plus if you do get anywhere with her this way it will be easy to get together again. but be assertive and let her kno who is boss.... but be sure before you make a bold play like this. it could work great or blow up in your face...... good luck....
 

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also

She also thinks abit too much of herself. You will have to probably use the neghit technique - (see fastseduction101.com for info on neg hits), to get her biotch shield down.
 

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Give More Info If You Want Feedback

"Now I have tried to talk to this attractive young woman a few times, but I dont have any luck breakin any ice. Any suggestions?"

---Suggestions for writing a better field report so we can give you quality feedback (this applies to all):

1. What did you say EXACTLY? (to the best of your recollection)

2. HOW did you say what you said? What was your body language? Leaning in, leaning back? Face to face, side to side? Smiling or neutral facial expression?

3. What were her physical reactions when you spoke to her? Blushing? Stuttering? Running away?

Give us specifics then we'll offer feedback. In the meantime, flirt with her like crazy and drive her nuts. Kino. Jokes. Whatever it takes (with due discretion to workplace rules and etiquette). Good luck.

NorPacWolf
 

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---Suggestions for writing a better field report so we can give you quality feedback (this applies to all):

1. What did you say EXACTLY? (to the best of your recollection)

2. HOW did you say what you said? What was your body language? Leaning in, leaning back? Face to face, side to side? Smiling or neutral facial expression?

3. What were her physical reactions when you spoke to her? Blushing? Stuttering? Running away?

Give us specifics then we'll offer feedback. In the meantime, flirt with her like crazy and drive her nuts. Kino. Jokes. Whatever it takes (with due discretion to workplace rules and etiquette). Good luck.


Ok. Here is the scoop:

Example:

1) I was sitting in the lounge area the other day and she comes walking by with carrying coffee back for some co-workers. She recently cut her hair. I made eye contact with her again. Asked her how she was doing , then complitmented her hair cut.

2)reaction to the compliment. She stopped dead in her tracks, kind of looked down then said thanks. (I sinced it may have embarressed her somewhat. She seems to be a very down to earth person thus far)


I get mixed signals frm her. Sometimes he will return ec very strong. Other times, she will look away if she catches me looking at her(Which I do alot...LOL). Sometimes she will smile and say hello. Then other times, I feel the brush off when I wave at her. (she will look away wth no reaction, like she never even seen me).

Any feed back?
 

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JUST DO IT!

I'll keep it short and sweet. Based on the information you've provided, there's not enough evidence to suggest strong physical attraction. My general advice is this: if you have any inkling that a girl is interested, make an effort to open up a conversation with her, and when appropriate, initiate some kino. Stop wondering and just sarge her.

Peace,

NorPacWolf
 

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Jesus, DO SOMETHING

Do some research. Work out some kind of game plan, with plans A, B, C and D.

INTEREST NEEDS TO BE CREATED BY YOU. Show her what you are about, using the techniques.

Fortune favors the bold. DO nothing, DESERVE nothing, GET nothing, DIE ALONE.
 
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