Eye contact

[VSTbeserk]

Do you guys have trouble listening to the girl when you look at the girls eyes. I mean i can't seem to concentrate on what she is saying whenever i'm gazing in their eyes so they know whos boss. is it just me or any of you guys have the same problem?

 

[blinkwatt]

Yeah I do this often. Just say "Whats that? I wasn't paying attention,I kinda spaced off." I normally end up with a hit in the arm.

 

[DasaniWater]

Heh, reminds me of the time i was looking at my teacher straight into her eyes as she was lecturing me to get my work done. the only thing that was going through my mind was imagining myself take her glasses off and punch her ass silly. Of course i stopped because it got a bit too detailed and i was worried i might actually do it and not even know it.

 

[tucking fypo]

Do you guys have trouble listening to the girl when you look at the girls eyes. I mean i can't seem to concentrate on what she is saying whenever i'm gazing in their eyes so they know whos boss. is it just me or any of you guys have the same problem?

aahha that is so true! around like 5-6 months ago when i was a bigger noob then i am now i eye contacted her and hardly understood what she had to say lol. I guess you just have to eyc <eye contact> and listen to her very closely. i also like blinkwats idea very very much.

~GL

 

[VSTbeserk]

ya i liked that idea to! thx fellas though anymore peoples experiences is welcomed

 

[trance_addict]

Hmm, usually eyecontact makes people more communicative. I've never had that problem, I did used to have a problem with eyecontact, but nowadays, I just enjoy it, hasn't taken my concentration from what she's saying away, however.

 

[wrender]

When first getting used to using eye contact it can be easy to get distracted be cause you feel what you're doing is unnatural. These thoughts cloud your comprehension.

I have gotten much more used to using eye contact these days. Now I find that if I actually concentrate on listening it's easier to hold the eye contact because it's not the first thing on my mind anymore.

So listening becomes the distraction from the realization that you're using eye contact.

 

[tuxen]

Introverts tend to find it harder to think when looking someone in the eye, and need to look away to gather their thoughts. This can sometime seem like you are being dishonest.

Try focusing on their lips instead, and then occasionally look at the eyes.

 

[Trapper]

her: why are you looking like that?
me: (smiling)...hmm just trying to see.....pause
her: what? (smiling)
me: trying to see my handsome reflection (in a C&F way and slightly smiling)

 

[Delta]

i agree... looking into someone's eyes intently during a conversation makes it difficult to concentrate on what's being said... particularly for me, what I'M saying.

delta

 

[trance_addict]

hmm, never actually heard the term "introvert" so i looked it up, along with extroverts on wikipedia. Interesting ideas behind these social classifications. I wonder if this has an effect on the way men go looking for women.

However, after reading the entry about the two, it's almost like I have a mix of two. For interacting with women, I'm way more confident and comfortable in situations where theres less people around (or maybe its my adhd causing me to be distracted?) Although, eye contact still doesn't seem to hinder my concentration.. But contrast to that, I cannot live without social experience in my life, on a day to day basis.

Not saying that I can't flirt w/ a girl in highly social environments, I just seem to do much better when I'm on my own. I wonder if this is why?

Anyways, I just totally went off topic, but Tuxen brought up an interesting idea. It could very well be a natural traight that some of us find hard to maintain eyecontact with a clear head, maybe a bit beyond confidence?

 

[wrender]

... particularly for me, what I'M saying.

I don't know about everyone else, but personally I find it extremely unnatrual to maintain constant eye contact while I'm speaking. It just feels awkward. like I'm being very inanimate. I tend to look up, look to the side, etc, to emphasise what I'm saying. I think it projects that I am thinking and pulling up thoughts. Not some lifeless drone. I do, however, always return to the eyes and spend the most time there. I only hold constant eye contact when listening.

 

[VSTbeserk]

I've been doing this eye contact thing for awhile now but this has been a problem every now and then...like today i was looking at a gym to sign up to and it was a women who ran the place was pretty hot to looked like a milf about early 30's anways she had a typical women business suit with some clevage showing which i liked ...but pissed me off at the same time cause i know she uses that to make guys sign up if you guys know what i mean, like that episode of friends where Ross trys to cancel his membership at the gym and they bring in the HB to change his mind lol if you guys remember that one.

 

[ScrewIt]

I wouldnt make constant EC with a girl im not interested in. EC is good and all with people, shows u pay attention. except it takes more mental energy to maintain that kind of concentration, not really worth it.
imo, it's great to do with a girl you want because of mind fvcking. They get all flustered and fidgety because afterall EC is a sign of dominance.
works great with attraction, endorphins..etc..

 

[trance_addict]

Oh, another good exercise I do occasionally, is whenever in a largely populated area (malls, large stores, crowded sidewalks, sometimes in traffic) I find it fun to see how many girls I can get a smile out of by looking them in the eyes as I pass by, and when i know they saw me, give them a smile, 9/10 they'll either blush and turn their face, or smile back. It's a good way to get a quick confidence boost, and it also helps with learning not to be intimidated by a girls stare. I do this quite often whenever I'm out shopping for clothes at the mall, since theres plenty of ladies to try it out on.

 

[VSTbeserk]

Oh, another good exercise I do occasionally, is whenever in a largely populated area (malls, large stores, crowded sidewalks, sometimes in traffic) I find it fun to see how many girls I can get a smile out of by looking them in the eyes as I pass by, and when i know they saw me, give them a smile, 9/10 they'll either blush and turn their face, or smile back. It's a good way to get a quick confidence boost, and it also helps with learning not to be intimidated by a girls stare. I do this quite often whenever I'm out shopping for clothes at the mall, since theres plenty of ladies to try it out on

i remember reading about that at fastseduction.com i think thats a great idea have to try it one of these days

 

[Delta]

with the unfortunate exception that it won't work for everyone. "drive by" stuff like this only really works if you're good looking.

delta

 

[blinkwatt]

Why be afraid of eye contact? I used to be GREAT at it,I used it as one of my main weapons when I was in my prime. You have no idea how empowering it is knowing that you can lock eye with a women and not be afraid of it. When you lock eyes its amazing how many of them smile and blush at you! Its soo darn easy to approach after they give you the smile. So what are you waiting for????Master it already!!!!

 

[VSTbeserk]

i'm not afraid of eye contact I just can't seem to concentrate on what they are saying lol well it depends on the girl to

 

[KoalaKing]

Back in 1998 whilst I was a 30 year old mature age student attending college, I read in a dating success book about the power of alluring gorgeous woman by the use of eye contact.

A couple of weeks later I was in a room at the college being interveiwed by the CEO of the college, a guy in his mid 40's, who was a super hunk, as well as his assistant, a gorgeous highly sophisticated and stylish 41 year old woman, who was the second in charge of the faculty that had over 5,000 students enrolled.

Even though I didn't think it would work, I thought there was no harm in trying it out, so I looked the lady straight in the eye throughout the entirity of the interveiw.

To my great suprize this beautiful woman began to flirt with me and gamed me the next time that I saw her a few days later.

Over the next few weeks she would take me for drives in her expensive four wheel drive to a vacated spot near the ocean where I would fu-ck her.

As she was married it had to remain a secret and it didn't keep going on like that for a very long time, but it does prove that it works.

It is very important though that you listen to what the woman is saying to you whilst you are looking into her eyes, as it will increase your value and make her think that you are naturally extremely confident, bold, and that you do it all of the time, eye contact with woman definately works. :yes: