Eye contact question

[Sdives]

Here is a general question. In the gym, this trainer girl stares at me from across the room like 50 feet away. Non-stop..... like she never breaks staring. We do this eye contact thing here and there. Even when she has a client taking to her client she looking direct at me. This is a large distance, but not too far to see someone eye's. She literally hold it to for like 10s or longer. When she does look away she goes back to staring.

She moves to another area and does it again, she never looks away? sometimes another 10 feet i the distance this goes on for an hour.... or another hour .....across 2 clients for her. Not everyday but it happens.

Is this weird? is this distance and holding it odd? I mean shouldn't they look away or glance around? I think her client know she doing this, because she looks over at me.She is an older lady. When I look away she still staring directly into my eyes.I can see it easy.

We have talked here and there, she's nice, she's cute but this constant eye contact thing.Im not kidding, she looks for 10s easy, direct eye contact. She sometimes does it in close contact. But the distance and not looking away is the main point.

Is this odd this constant staring? any theories? why so far away?

 

[9Volt]

Here is a general question. In the gym, this trainer girl stares at me from across the room like 50 feet away. Non-stop..... like she never breaks staring. We do this eye contact thing here and there. Even when she has a client taking to her client she looking direct at me. This is a large distance, but not too far to see someone eye's. She literally hold it to for like 10s or longer. When she does look away she goes back to staring.

She moves to another area and does it again, she never looks away? sometimes another 10 feet i the distance this goes on for an hour.... or another hour .....across 2 clients for her. Not everyday but it happens.

Is this weird? is this distance and holding it odd? I mean shouldn't they look away or glance around? I think her client know she doing this, because she looks over at me.She is an older lady. When I look away she still staring directly into my eyes.I can see it easy.

We have talked here and there, she's nice, she's cute but this constant eye contact thing.Im not kidding, she looks for 10s easy, direct eye contact.

Is this odd this constant staring? any theories?

who the hell knows. we're not the chick. if you see her looking smile and see if she does. if you want to ask her out do it. if not don't.

 

[Sdives]

who the hell knows. we're not the chick. if you see her looking smile and see if she does. if you want to ask her out do it. if not don't.

Well the fact she doesn't look away.. from a distance and its constant is not normal. Usually they look away etc etc etc

 

[9Volt]

Well the fact she doesn't look away.. from a distance and its constant is not normal. Usually they look away etc etc etc

She's special. they look away. she doesn't. ask her out to have a staring contest with her.

 

[Sdives]

She's special. they look away. she doesn't. ask her out to have a staring contest with her.

This is an honest question, usually they give small quick glances, she looks and looks and never looks away. for like a solid 10s

 

[9Volt]

This is an honest question, usually they give small quick glances, she looks and looks and never looks away. for like a solid 10s

I gave you an honest answer. tell her you noticed her always looking at you so you want her number to take her out and have a staring contest.

no need for "why, what, etc" mental masturdebaiting over it. ask her out if you want to or don't. no point in wondering on what out of God knows why or how many reasons the chick is staring at you for.

 

[Sdives]

I just wouldn't stare at anyone non stop .

 

[bigneil]

What happens when you stare at her:

The first time: He's interesting...
The second time: He's still looking at me but isn't brave enough to approach me.
The third time: Seriously, is he like posting online to see what to do in this situation?
The fourth time: Dude, get a life...
The fifth time: If this guy doesn't stop staring at me I'm going to call the police!

 

[Sdives]

What happens when you stare at her:

The first time: He's interesting...
The second time: He's still looking at me but isn't brave enough to approach me.
The third time: Seriously, is he like posting online to see what to do in this situation?
The fourth time: Dude, get a life...
The fifth time: If this guy doesn't stop staring at me I'm going to call the police!

That's funny but not this situation

 

[Roober]

Be playful... smile, stick your tongue out, wink... She will respond which is essentially your green light or she will stop doing it. I have stuck my tongue out at a few women and most seem to reciprocate and have fun with it. Then I signal them over, granted this was in a bar...

 

[dude99]

Here is a general question. In the gym, this trainer girl stares at me from across the room like 50 feet away. Non-stop..... like she never breaks staring. We do this eye contact thing here and there. Even when she has a client taking to her client she looking direct at me. This is a large distance, but not too far to see someone eye's. She literally hold it to for like 10s or longer. When she does look away she goes back to staring.

She moves to another area and does it again, she never looks away? sometimes another 10 feet i the distance this goes on for an hour.... or another hour .....across 2 clients for her. Not everyday but it happens.

Is this weird? is this distance and holding it odd? I mean shouldn't they look away or glance around? I think her client know she doing this, because she looks over at me.She is an older lady. When I look away she still staring directly into my eyes.I can see it easy.

We have talked here and there, she's nice, she's cute but this constant eye contact thing.Im not kidding, she looks for 10s easy, direct eye contact. She sometimes does it in close contact. But the distance and not looking away is the main point.

Is this odd this constant staring? any theories? why so far away?

Ask her out. Her answer will tell you everything you want to know

 

[AlphaNate]

Interesting thread. I have a very similar situation. I go to the gym almost every day, and there's a girl that's there every time I go... probably the only person that's always there when I'm there. She does this too - always staring at me, holding stares, will look away and go back to staring again.

I'm going to just have to talk to her. I probably already screwed this up by out-thinking myself. I don't like when people talk to me at the gym, unless you're asking if I'm using equipment, so I don't talk to people. Then again, if it's a hottie, I'd be cool with it.

 

[Sdives]

Sounds to me like there's a good chance she's a somewhat sexually aggressive woman who very much likes what she sees, and in no subtle terms, is screaming for you to come get her. If you're interested, I suggest walking straight up to her the next time she stares and immediately ask her out for a drink or something sometime. No beating around the bush.

I thought that, but we talk here and there for the past 2 months in the gym. I she's quite inexperienced, like she just turned 18 and she just seems that way. I have her on my FB as I have all the staff or many of them.

I do think she likes me yes, but the constant staring never looking away is the weird part. This happens for my whole two hour workouts wherever I am. The distance is odd because its so far away but we still do this eye contact thing. I can look away and look back but she just keeps on looking! she's talking to someone else like her client and still looking! I look away again look back... still looking!

 

[nikkisixx]

why didnt you just ask her if she remembers you and lie a little?

 

[Sdives]

why didnt you just ask her if she remembers you and lie a little?

She's very hesitant for some reason, I may need to spend more time getting to know her. But if she's doing all this looking.... She has to have genuine interest. I need to break her out of her shell. She's unsure for some reason

 

[nikkisixx]

She's very hesitant for some reason, I may need to spend more time getting to know her. But if she's doing all this looking.... She has to have genuine interest. I need to break her out of her shell. She's unsure for some reason

you cant, that place is limbo not litmus. not trying to ask a stupid or obvious question either man. "i like you can we hang out?" is something you can easily recover from right?

 

[Sdives]

you cant, that place is limbo not litmus. not trying to ask a stupid or obvious question either man. "i like you can we hang out?" is something you can easily recover from right?

Not to sound like an idiot, but Im not sure what you are trying to say.

 

[Sdives]

bump

 

[foreverAFC]

sounds like she has a chump bf and looks at you cause she wants validation/attention, she probably does find you attractive but dont be surprised if she always seems distant when you try to talk to her or if you ask her out and she tells you she is already taken

im surrounded by women at work and the ones who stare hardest or show ridiculously strong IOIs right away are almost always married or in long term relationships and always start acting disinterested once i have reciprocated or shown interest back, but thats just my experience

 

[Sdives]

sounds like she has a chump bf and looks at you cause she wants validation/attention, she probably does find you attractive but dont be surprised if she always seems distant when you try to talk to her or if you ask her out and she tells you she is already taken

im surrounded by women at work and the ones who stare hardest or show ridiculously strong IOIs right away are almost always married or in long term relationships and always start acting disinterested once i have reciprocated or shown interest back, but thats just my experience

she's single