Eye contact from women

[SoSuaveScorp]

Hey fellow DJ's. Just went on vacation and since I just recently exited a relationship (dumped girl b.c she had insecurity probs) I decided to practice up on my eye contact. One night out with my family at a restaurant I noticed a HB8 eating with her family as well. We made eye contact and I smiled and held until she looked away. She then kept looking at me throughout the rest of my time at the restaurant, of course I looked back and held it. But she didn't smile.. it was odd in that way. I'm wondering if girls are still interested if they give you strong eye contact even if they don't smile?

 

[JPlaya]

Creepy

 

[SoSuaveScorp]

haha it felt like it without a smile
it helps teach me to smile at other girls when I give EC

 

[bigneil]

Her Thought Process Upon Eye Contact

1) First time - "he's cute".
2) Second time - "is he going to come talk to me?".
3) Third time - "is he afraid to come talk to me?".
4) Fourth time - "weirdo".
5) Fifth time - "psycho".
6) Six time - (reporting you to DHS via text).

The first time you make eye contact, you want to hold it until they break it. They should hold it for a few seconds, and should look down (=good, sign of submission) but they might look up (=bad, they roll their eyes - as if). If they look left they are a Feeler, Analyst or Elitist*. If they look right they are a Driver. Looking left or right is neutral.

Ideally she should smile upon eye contact. Say something - anything - within 3 seconds. She will then probably just start talking to you and it will be easy. She will often initiate.

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* Those are the 4 personality types from Glenn Foster "How Can I Get Through To You" a classic on understanding personality types.

 

[SoSuaveScorp]

That's good advice. I agree. However we were with our own extended families and a bit young to pick up girls/guys around our families haha

my real question was the reason behind her prolonged EC when she didn't smile, but initiated it. I found this perplexing as I was smiling

 

[cablecow15]

This, is why eye contact bugs me. I always have that fear of being thought of as a creep. I think a lot of it is mostly your appearance, if they like how you look they will usually smile , but if there not sure if your their league or under them they will stay neutral , or extremely negative it their ego is big. lol

 

[bigneil]

Don't think you're a creep - being ignored (apathy) is far worse than being hated (the negative of love). You want to draw some emotion. Plus, think positive. Do you hold eye contact with fat girls in the restaurant?

 

[SoSuaveScorp]

you're never a creep unless you think you are

the best thing to do is stay happy, smile and enjoy yourself

 

[PapiChulo]

They should smile otherwise the other person would think "creepy" right there. They know that. They look at you for some other random reason, and there are plenty. I once caught a chick look at my crotch while on the bus. She was seating in front of me and I was standing. Well, I looked down and caught her staring, then she looked up and we held eye-contact, then she looked up when I wasn't looking and I caught her again. It was weird! I think she was bored out of her mind, thats all. I draw attention of bored people for whatever reason. All the other times it would include a welcoming smile. I think she just had nothing better to look at, that's all.

 

[sinnerman]

same thing happened to me at a mall. hb 8 and i crossed paths a few times. first time we had an eye lock i stared in her eyes. second time i checked her out. last time i was standing near the counter and she was making for the exit when she gave me the look again and i just stared back at her with a slight naughty smile. she turned her face kept walking & a few seconds later turned back and gave me a naughty smile.

i was on family vacation & my parents were with me then so i didn't go up & talk to her but non verbal flirting does work

 

[sinnerman]

i dont think smiling is that important. infact a naughty look & showing you're not afraid to check her out shows that you're comfortable with yourself. you can smile after a few eye locks just to communicate that you're non threatening but just smiling from the beginning will make you come off as friendly not attractive