G'day fellaz. What I'm about to tell you guys has helped me immsensely, it WILL give you confidence, its a good starting point.
This is how it started for me, and the good thing about it is that once you get started and stay on task, then it has a snowball effect and just gets more and more effective.
I think i just made half of the people wet their pants so i will get straight into the post. Psychologists often tell their emotionally challenged patients to let their emotions out, when there sad they are reccomended to cry, when there angry they are reccomended to go let that anger out (not on someone).
Doing this reduces the effect of the emotion later on and stops the emotions from building up and exploding like a huge emotion bomb.
Well what im trying to say is to use this emotion bottling technique to our advantage, using it for confidence. You let all your confidence build up and you will eventually have a constant stream of confidence, and it feels great.
Next time you have a good experience (especially with women) dont say anything about it, let it bottle up in the back of your head. Every time you tell your friend that you slept with a woman or something like that then you have just lowered the importance of that event subconciously. It comes back to being insecure and the need for belonging.
When i started getting girls (thanks to sosuave) i would tell all my friends about it because i was so proud about it, i should of kept it in. If i did this then it would of bottled up the confidence and my self confidence would have gone sky rocketing!
Dont tell people about your social life and confidence levels should rise rapidly.
It also works the other way around, so next time you get rejected, tell someone about it. It wont seem so bad then. Don't tell a girl your working on you got rejected, i told my friends that always works the best.
Hope this helped someone, it sure helped me.
This is how it started for me, and the good thing about it is that once you get started and stay on task, then it has a snowball effect and just gets more and more effective.
I think i just made half of the people wet their pants so i will get straight into the post. Psychologists often tell their emotionally challenged patients to let their emotions out, when there sad they are reccomended to cry, when there angry they are reccomended to go let that anger out (not on someone).
Doing this reduces the effect of the emotion later on and stops the emotions from building up and exploding like a huge emotion bomb.
Well what im trying to say is to use this emotion bottling technique to our advantage, using it for confidence. You let all your confidence build up and you will eventually have a constant stream of confidence, and it feels great.
Next time you have a good experience (especially with women) dont say anything about it, let it bottle up in the back of your head. Every time you tell your friend that you slept with a woman or something like that then you have just lowered the importance of that event subconciously. It comes back to being insecure and the need for belonging.
When i started getting girls (thanks to sosuave) i would tell all my friends about it because i was so proud about it, i should of kept it in. If i did this then it would of bottled up the confidence and my self confidence would have gone sky rocketing!
Dont tell people about your social life and confidence levels should rise rapidly.
It also works the other way around, so next time you get rejected, tell someone about it. It wont seem so bad then. Don't tell a girl your working on you got rejected, i told my friends that always works the best.
Hope this helped someone, it sure helped me.