Experienced DJs!: The next suave move with this married Black Beauty

[smooth_as_silk]

I hooked up on this married Black beauty (cf she is African and not black american, important to note as far as morals...) 10 days ago in a club. She was with her husband, I made a smooth aproach befriending the guy and slowly getting to know the girl who eventually gave me her number. She was doing eye contact the whole night and even repeated her number twice as I wasn't sure of some digits... Though, she said she was married blah blah (married women's usual bull****).
I called her today (mysterious, suave approach...) but she kept being very very defensive and unfriendly. She said that we should keep things this way and not go any further as she is a married woman. I remained pretty confident in the conversation and ended by a "Bye and take care" not showing any sign of disappointment, nervousness...
She calls me one hour later but I didn't pick up the phone then she sends me the following message through cellphone : "Hey it was my mistake to have given u my number, sorry if i had given you a wrong impression."
Do u guys think it's possible to get something out of this girl ? If yes, what should be my next suave move ?

 

[jakethasnake]

Dude, you might think you're smooth, but you're not too bright.


SHE IS MARRIED. And apparently she plans to stay that way. She is trying to shoo off your pesistent ass. Sometimes you have to realise that persistence doesn't always pay off. A pinch of TACT will do you wonders, my friend.

 

[smooth_as_silk]

Originally posted by jakethasnake
Dude, you might think you're smooth, but you're not too bright.


SHE IS MARRIED. And apparently she plans to stay that way. She is trying to shoo off your pesistent ass. Sometimes you have to realise that persistence doesn't always pay off. A pinch of TACT will do you wonders, my friend.

Hey smart ass ! Theres no persistence from my side. There was one unique phone call, her bytch shield was up I said OK and bye bye. I didnt ask her to call me after or send me any message.
Learn to read a post from the beginning to the end. And learn how to deal with other people (the way you interact...) it will help you a lot

 

[jakethasnake]

Yeah, I like to run my mouth. But you should see me when I read I post or meet a person I really respect. I purr like a kitten.

 

[Golden Arms]

LOL !!
I hope you're not actually thinking about giving up now, are you ? She's just playing hard to get, man. Your next move should be to crawl inside her bedroom while she's sleeping their w/ her husband and try to get it on with him in the same bed. Let's face it - there is basically no chance of her rejecting you then. Tie up the hubby first and stick a gag in his mouth in case he wants to start hollerin for help. I wish I knew you, maybe me and you could go together and run a train on that a$$

 

[Da-OnlyX]

U gettin ur ass in trouble dawg.

Never mess with married chicks. They always are trouble. Always.

Btw, is her husband african 2? Cuz if he is, and he finds out wut u doing, u screwed.

Good luck.

 

[Da-OnlyX]

Sh!t.....stupid double post.

 

[The Business Man]

I think you probably could hook up with her if you played your game right. Don't do it though. I have been in that situation a couple of times, and it's just not worth it. Not that I hooked up with a married chick, but I could have, and it kinda weighed on my conscience.

It's kinda funny how you pointed out she was African and not African-American -- important to note as far as MORALS?

Anyway... If you do go for the married woman, watch out for her husband.

 

[smooth_as_silk]

Some insight on the husband : the guy is an old German guy, he's quite laid-back and didn't seem really bothered that I was trying to hook up on his wife...
Any more advice about what I should exactly do now ? Wait a bit ? Send her a reply ? If yes, what kind ?

 

[bp1974]

Dude, she has, with some maturity and class, asked you to leave her alone. Your best move now is to show the same level of class and respect her wishes. She has your number. If things aver change for her, she may get in touch. Move on.

 

[NewMan]

Is it really worth the trouble, with so many single chicks out there?

If the answer is yes, then here you go.

I'd call her up:

"Hey, I hope I didn't give you the wrong impression when I called you las week/monday/whenever. I understand that your married and totally respect that."

See how the conversation goes from there.

You can finish it up with asking her out to coffee to make it up to her.... that kind of BS.

 

[princelydeeds]

I would probably stay away from her. But if I was feeling a little adventurous. I would call back and accept her apology. Then I would tell her I meant no disrespect and I certainly would never want to break up her happy home. Next, I would say "if you ever need a friend, someone to listen to you, someone who cares, or you just wanna hang out and have some fun, don't hesitate to call me." If she ever calls back its on, you know she wants to fvkk, if not then oh well move on to the next woman.

 

[Player_Supreme]

1. I don't understand your comment about African vs American and morals. Please explain that too me.

2. You musta been in one of those swinger clubs where hitting on guys wives in prevalent.

3. The old fart is probably bi and wants to pimp her out to guys like you so either he can watch you swing it with his wife or talk you into doing **** with him...it's the oldest trick in the book.

4. Don't fall for it. Don't get played.

 

[LowPlainsDrifter]

Stay away from married women!

I went through that once, and the stress toll it took on my physical, mental and emotional health was tremendous.
I used to run track for high school, now I'm sitting in a motorized wheelchair. My visiting nurse is typing this out for me. My meals are spoon fed. And I command my motorized chair to move around via puffs on a tiny straw...



.... OK just kidding about that last part, but it really is best to stay away from situations like that - it really does exact a toll, if you have anything resembling a conscience.
On the other hand, you have someone like a good friend of mine whose overly "proper" sense of conscience has led him to turn down woman after woman - for example, he refused to get romantic with someone he met because she was a good friend of someone he met online to date, and didn't want to hurt their friendship. Boo-hoo!
You have to strike a balance between a sense of propriety and a sense of adventure and fulfilling your desires.
But in this case, I think the choice is pretty clear.