boynamedsue
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experienced dj's, i need help on next move
i posted this on the discussion forum, but i figured i could listen to more people
Ive been dating a girl off and on for 2 years. long story short we decided to stop seeing each other this past feburary because she didnt see motivation in me. for the next three months we still went out once every two weeks or so. keep in mind we never broke things off because we didnt love each other or because we didnt get along. as a matter of fact we get a long exceptionally well and were like best friends. She has family problems which is why the motivation thing was a huge issue with us. we went one month of no talking or so then saw each other out. we clicked again and i called her the next day to go out. we did and had an awesome time. a week later i called again and had another awesome date. (she stated she will never call a guy out bc thats the guys role, thats why im calling her to go out). a week later she goes to a wedding and shes hanging out with my best girl friend and according to my friend, she starts crying and saying how much she missses me and wants things to work out but is worried that nothing has changed. after my friend tells me this, a week goes by and i see her out again. we click and go back to my house that night. we hook up, wake up in the morning and slept in till like 4pm, doing the cuddling stuff. ( i can assume what i did here was wrong) however we start talking about how her weekend was and i showed a lil jealousy asking about guys that were around, etc. i drop her off. three days later (a week ago) i ask her to help me babysit the following day, she says she already made plans. i said well how about this weekend (memorial day weekend) she says you have bad timing ill be out of town. i left it at that.
i thought id try one more time (2 stike rule) i called her up earlier today. we chit chatted a bit and i said, "i thought id give you another shot since i believe in the 2 strike rule and see if we should get together this weekend." she said," you asked me too late, i already have plans for tommorow to spend time with my mom and ill be at my sis's house on sunday. " i said well ive already tryed twice now, are you interested in still getting together. she said yes but you have bad timing. i said fine you plan something out and get back to me. she said she will be out of town monday for work and be back weds. shell plan something when she gets back in town.
my spider senses tell me that she wont call. my experience tells me she is really confused about us, where one day she really misses me and another day she isnt. is there something i should say to her? like i know what your going through. and talk it out? also is it possible to go from crying and missing me soo much to now not interested because i showed too much interest ( be it this is a long term relationship not a girl that just met me)? assuming she doesnt call do i take this as she is no longer interested or is she still confused?
thanks in advance
sue
i posted this on the discussion forum, but i figured i could listen to more people
Ive been dating a girl off and on for 2 years. long story short we decided to stop seeing each other this past feburary because she didnt see motivation in me. for the next three months we still went out once every two weeks or so. keep in mind we never broke things off because we didnt love each other or because we didnt get along. as a matter of fact we get a long exceptionally well and were like best friends. She has family problems which is why the motivation thing was a huge issue with us. we went one month of no talking or so then saw each other out. we clicked again and i called her the next day to go out. we did and had an awesome time. a week later i called again and had another awesome date. (she stated she will never call a guy out bc thats the guys role, thats why im calling her to go out). a week later she goes to a wedding and shes hanging out with my best girl friend and according to my friend, she starts crying and saying how much she missses me and wants things to work out but is worried that nothing has changed. after my friend tells me this, a week goes by and i see her out again. we click and go back to my house that night. we hook up, wake up in the morning and slept in till like 4pm, doing the cuddling stuff. ( i can assume what i did here was wrong) however we start talking about how her weekend was and i showed a lil jealousy asking about guys that were around, etc. i drop her off. three days later (a week ago) i ask her to help me babysit the following day, she says she already made plans. i said well how about this weekend (memorial day weekend) she says you have bad timing ill be out of town. i left it at that.
i thought id try one more time (2 stike rule) i called her up earlier today. we chit chatted a bit and i said, "i thought id give you another shot since i believe in the 2 strike rule and see if we should get together this weekend." she said," you asked me too late, i already have plans for tommorow to spend time with my mom and ill be at my sis's house on sunday. " i said well ive already tryed twice now, are you interested in still getting together. she said yes but you have bad timing. i said fine you plan something out and get back to me. she said she will be out of town monday for work and be back weds. shell plan something when she gets back in town.
my spider senses tell me that she wont call. my experience tells me she is really confused about us, where one day she really misses me and another day she isnt. is there something i should say to her? like i know what your going through. and talk it out? also is it possible to go from crying and missing me soo much to now not interested because i showed too much interest ( be it this is a long term relationship not a girl that just met me)? assuming she doesnt call do i take this as she is no longer interested or is she still confused?
thanks in advance
sue