Experience Of The Dumper Vs Being The Dumpee

[Grounded eagle]

Brilliant post... However what is the difference between Walking Away and Dumping a girl.

I am guessing one is direct communication letting her know that we are done.

The other is just walking away and never contacting her again, unless she comes back pleading.

The principle is the same.You are ending your acquaintance with the girl.The means don’t matter as much as you seem to think.

 

[soulforge]

When you're the dumper and she is really damn hot, its always that much more difficult to get over that break up.

 

[kookdekoo]

When you're the dumper and she is really damn hot, its always that much more difficult to get over that break up.

The man who can control his lust , will rule the world- Old Jungle Saying.

 

[soulforge]

How does a girl usually feel when you did the (dumping) or walking away.

I'm guessing it's abit of ego hit, especially if she was pretty hot.

Girls are just not used to the guy, tossing them aside.

 

[Gamisch]

The principle is the same.You are ending your acquaintance with the girl.The means don’t matter as much as you seem to think.

How does a girl usually feel when you did the (dumping) or walking away.

I'm guessing it's abit of ego hit, especially if she was pretty hot.

Girls are just not used to the guy, tossing them aside.

What matters is how YOU feel, and you mist feel as good as possible at any time. Being your anonymous sosuave " brother" I'd hope that its mostly you doing the dumping. Because it's an indication that you are at least aware of your selfworth and you actually learned something here.

I agree with Groundeagle ,but the major difference is that as dumper you pulled the trigger, while as a dumpee you kept sitting in the car until it fell of the cliff, and that's a mental minus 2 for being a hopeless romantic and an idiot. And minus 4 for ..compromising your own mental and spiritual health for a toxic woman. Bump your head against the wall, pick yourself up and DO BETTER!! Getting dumped as a DJ is a big nono.

At some point you HAVE to be the dumper now! 99% of the time! No more " lets squeeze a last pity feck out her". No no no. 1or 2 or 3strikes =out. Could be she doesn't even know she did those three HIGHLY UNWANTED things/strikes,no explanations. Exit, that way madame. Plenty of WAY bigger fish to fry if you are busy creating ANY kinda of personal legacy.

You studied game, female nature, you've read and saw tons of posts and video's about the clear signs. You might've even thought you were " special ," and you could salvage toxic women and relationships

At some point you gotta say to yourself ;" I'll be hardpresses to EVER be sucha beta ***** again that I wait like a sucker for h3r to pull the plug while shes been given me more than x number of signs she ain't feeling it like THAT ( whatever THAT means to these bytches) . You know too much about this game bs now to NOT beable to tella relationship is dead,or heading towards death.

 

[soulforge]

What matters is how YOU feel, and you mist feel as good as possible at any time. Being your anonymous sosuave " brother" I'd hope that its mostly you doing the dumping. Because it's an indication that you are at least aware of your selfworth and you actually learned something here.

I agree with Groundeagle ,but the major difference is that as dumper you pulled the trigger, while as a dumpee you kept sitting in the car until it fell of the cliff, and that's a mental minus 2 for being a hopeless romantic and an idiot. And minus 4 for ..compromising your own mental and spiritual health for a toxic woman. Bump your head against the wall, pick yourself up and DO BETTER!! Getting dumped as a DJ is a big nono.

At some point you HAVE to be the dumper now! 99% of the time! No more " lets squeeze a last pity feck out her". No no no. 1or 2 or 3strikes =out. Could be she doesn't even know she did those three HIGHLY UNWANTED things/strikes,no explanations. Exit, that way madame. Plenty of WAY bigger fish to fry if you are busy creating ANY kinda of personal legacy.

You studied game, female nature, you've read and saw tons of posts and video's about the clear signs. You might've even thought you were " special ," and you could salvage toxic women and relationships

At some point you gotta say to yourself ;" I'll be hardpresses to EVER be sucha beta ***** again that I wait like a sucker for h3r to pull the plug while shes been given me more than x number of signs she ain't feeling it like THAT ( whatever THAT means to these bytches) . You know too much about this game bs now to NOT beable to tella relationship is dead,or heading towards death.

Excellent analysis.. Something I have come to realise is, some girls are actually perfectly happy to continue in a toxic situation. It's almost like they don't know anything other than being in a toxic mess, so it doesn't really phase them much.

It's all they have ever known! Drama & chaos.

Aslong as they are getting attention and getting good dik, they will happily wallow in the insanity.

As we get older and wiser as DJs, we recognise the writing on the wall, and it becomes clear that chit is rapidly heading south.

It's always best to hit the red button, launch those nukes & let her figure out later what fvk happend & why. No explanation is needed.

 

[johnrambo]

When you're the dumper and she is really damn hot, its always that much more difficult to get over that break up.

Agreed because it may be harder to replace someone of the similar caliber.

 

[soulforge]

Agreed because it may be harder to replace someone of the similar caliber.

I'm feeling that right now. Replacing a 24 year old hottie is no easy task. It's either hold onto her, or get mind fvked further down the line.

 

[johnrambo]

I'm feeling that right now. Replacing a 24 year old hottie is no easy task. It's either hold onto her, or get mind fvked further down the line.

I am going through the same thing right now. Trouble is I always remember how hot she was when we first met even though she is pretty close to hitting "The Wall".

 

[Barrister]

If a woman is gearing up to be the dumper, she begins detaching herself during the relationship. It is part of the reason why they seem so cold during the actual breakup if they are the dumper (aside from the other obvious fact that others have mentioned that she can be in another LTR inside of a week if she wants to) - because she has already made peace weeks and sometimes month before the actual breakup that the relationship is over.

If a man is the dumper, he generally feels the sense of loss right at the breakup point. It hits men way harder for that reason. It is also why slippage BACK into the relationship is higher when the man is the dumper. He has not yet completely made peace that it must be over (even though we know deep down it DOES need to be over).

I will go against the grain here of the other guys, because I actually think being the dumpee is easier. There is no temptation to go back on your decision because it wasn't your decision in the first place. Even though it hurts, that in a way is a sense of a completely clean slate.

 

[soulforge]

I am going through the same thing right now. Trouble is I always remember how hot she was when we first met even though she is pretty close to hitting "The Wall".

I wouldn't worry about how hot she used to be. If she currently isn't that hot, then you should be able to replace quite easily.

Try replacing a super hot 24 year old Russian girl at the age of 47 lol

 

[johnrambo]

I wouldn't worry about how hot she used to be. If she currently isn't that hot, then you should be able to replace quite easily.

Try replacing a super hot 24 year old Russian girl at the age of 47 lol

How about a super hot 18 year old Ukrainian girl?

 

[soulforge]

How about a super hot 18 year old Ukrainian girl?

Even better