Keep receipts for everything you spend. Keep them hidden, keep them safe.bradd80 said:Don't forget to write "child support" in the memo section of the check. But don't do this till you guys have actually separated or your gf may become suspicious of your motives. It may come in handy later when your gf tries to sue you for support. But she can't claim support during the time the two of you were together.
Yes they can retro you if the judge feels like it. It happened to me. And I also had a woman who saw what my own brother went through with his ex and who promised me she would never make me pay child support or deny me access to my child. That was true right up to the point where she met a guy and they needed my money to help pay their rent on their house. At first it was, "don't buy her stuff, give me the money". Then it was "I shouldn't have to ask you for money". Then it was, "you need to pay child support". Then it was a court date set.
Receipts and a nice laid out spreadsheet saved me a lot of money. You have no control over anything but your own actions and reactions. Remember that. Getting mad = losing the game. Remember that. Getting emotional = losing the game. If you can get or establish some sort of custody first, you are ahead of the game. But you will always be her ace in the hole when she decides she needs extra income and the law is on her side in most cases. And they are gangster, Fvck you, pay me. Lost your job? Fvck you, pay me. Barely make enough to survive? Fvck you, pay me. Been sick and couldn't work? Fvck you, pay me. It makes me understand why OJ did it.
Not trying to scare you, these are the facts.